Dr Jill Gross

03/06/2024

Spreading the word about an upcoming, IN-PERSON support group for young widows (55 and under) who have lost their partner or spouse within the last 18 months.

If you or anyone you know may benefit from this offering, please visit the following link for more details and/or feel free to share the digital flyer below.

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05/07/2021

Hello, folks in FB land. It's been a while. So much has happened in such a short period of time. I feel like things are only just starting to settle a little.

Wanted to share with you a blog post regarding a recent conversation I had with the producers of a great new podcast called "The Cost Of Care."

The podcast provides an in-depth look at the failures and pitfalls of our current, for-profit healthcare system. This episode, specifically, addresses why so many mental health providers, tired of working twice as hard for half the pay, leave insurance panels.

The blog post contains a link to the podcast episode. Enjoy!

Think your insurance company can or will cover your mental healthcare? Think again.

04/17/2020

A friend of mine recently shared this article. It's one of the best I've read so far. If you need a break from worrying about statistics, stock markets, and the like, this article is for you.

Perhaps the pandemic is a giant, global stick in the spokes of our bicycle wheels, meant to wake us up, slow us down, and help us heal by teaching us what really matters.

COVID-19 is not what any of us wanted. But, maybe, it's just what we needed.

The long read: In the midst of fear and isolation, we are learning that profound, positive change is possible

03/29/2020

Stuck in panic mode? Here are seven ways to restore peace.

11/10/2019

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Photo credit: Danielle MacInnes

08/25/2019

Cohabitation is one way to enjoy a committed union. But it is not the only way.

What if divorce statistics are not a reflection of personal failure but of a need to honor the many other ways we can make love last?

Couples who begin committed relationships later in life are making it work not by getting married or living together, but by living separately. It’s called “living apart together.”

07/08/2019

Do these six things if you want to thrive after a breakup, separation, or divorce.

05/12/2019

Thank you, Anne Lamott.

IT'S THAT TIME OF YEAR AGAIN: MOTHER'S DAY

I did not raise my son, Sam, to celebrate Mother’s Day. I didn’t want him to feel some obligation to buy me pricey lunches or flowers, some annual display of gratitude that you have to grit your teeth and endure. Perhaps Mother’s Day will come to mean something to me as I grow even dottier in my dotage, and I will find myself bitter and distressed when Sam dutifully ignores the holiday. Then he will feel ambushed by my expectations, and he will retaliate by putting me away even sooner than he was planning to — which, come to think of it, would be even more reason to hate Mother’s Day.

But Mother’s Day celebrates a huge lie about the value of women: that mothers are superior beings, that they have done more with their lives and chosen a more difficult path. Ha! Every woman’s path is difficult, and many mothers were as equipped to raise children as wire monkey mothers. I say that without judgment: It is, sadly, true. An unhealthy mother’s love is withering.

The illusion is that mothers are automatically happier, more fulfilled and complete. But the craziest, grimmest people this Sunday will be the mothers themselves, stuck herding their own mothers and weeping children and husbands’ mothers into seats at restaurants. These mothers do not want a box of chocolate. These mothers are on a diet.

I hate the way the holiday makes all non-mothers, and the daughters of dead mothers, and the mothers of dead or severely damaged children, feel the deepest kind of grief and failure. The non-mothers must sit in their churches, temples, mosques, recovery rooms and pretend to feel good about the day while they are excluded from a holiday that benefits no one but Hallmark and See’s. There is no refuge — not at the horse races, movies, malls, museums. Even the turn-off-your-cellphone announcer is going to open by saying, “Happy Mother’s Day!” You could always hide in a nice seedy bar, I suppose. Or an ER.

It should go without saying that I also hate Valentine’s Day.
Mothering has been the richest experience of my life, but I am still opposed to Mother’s Day.

04/16/2019

Ever wondered why we mourn celebrity deaths?

I recently spoke with journalist Aly Semigran (Well + Good) about the grief we feel when public figures die.

Check it out!

Grief counselors break down how the one-sided relationships affect fans.