All Inclusive Counseling Leilani Cullen MA LMFT

11/12/2025

11/12/2025

When your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, it can swing between extremes. One moment, “My partner is horrible!” The next, “It’s all my fault; I should be grateful.” This is called splitting, a trauma response rooted in insecure attachment. It’s your body’s way of trying to protect you from pain and uncertainty.

When your nervous system feels safe, something new becomes possible: emotional integration. You can feel anger without losing sight of love. You can see your partner’s strengths and hold them accountable for their impact. You can honor your pain while staying connected.

11/12/2025

When your relationship moves outside the window of tolerance…
You stop feeling like teammates and start feeling like enemies. Conversations turn into fights. Words are designed to hurt instead of heal. And your nervous system goes into survival mode and emotional safety disappears.

When you can stay in’s side the window of tolerance, something different happens. You can stay open to each other’s perspectives. You can co-regulate. You can connect with your heart, head, and body all at once. You can enjoy being together, not because everything is perfect, but because you both feel emotionally safe enough to stay engaged.

11/11/2025

Your symptoms don’t mean you’re broken.

They are your soul’s way of asking to be heard and understood.

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10/28/2025

True courage isn’t about pushing past your pain.

It’s about turning with tenderness toward the part of you you’ve tried to ignore.

That’s where healing quietly begins.

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