11/25/2025
Yes I was cut off but you get the point I hope.
Religious trauma occurs when teachings, practices, or authority figures create emotional harm instead of spiritual growth. It can show up as chronic guilt, anxiety about “doing life wrong,” fear of punishment, or losing your sense of identity after questioning or leaving a faith tradition.
How does a child, a person recover from religious trauma?
Children don’t recover from religious trauma by “being strong” or “getting over it.” They heal when they experience the opposite of what harmed them.
Healing begins with safety in a home where questions are allowed, emotions aren’t punished, and fear-based messages are replaced with understanding.
They need validation, someone saying: “You didn’t deserve that. What happened to you was not okay.” When a child’s experience is acknowledged, shame starts to loosen its grip.
Recovery also means rebuilding self-worth. Religious humiliation often attacks identity, telling children they are “bad,” “sinful,” or “unworthy.” Healing requires consistent reminders that they are good, loved, and worthy — without conditions.
There will need to be much undoing of the harm from the humiliation and the invalidation of her feelings and expression of she truly feels. I do pray that someone who knows those women intervene with wisdom and provide corrective teaching.