Jill Magoffin -Doula-

02/18/2026

If you’re hiring your doctor…
If you’re hiring your doula…
If you’re hiring your lactation consultant…

Use them.

That’s what you’re paying them for.

I see this all the time — someone asks their provider a question, then polls Instagram, texts six friends, posts in three Facebook groups, and spirals in Reddit for four hours.

And listen — I get it.
Pregnancy and postpartum can make you want reassurance from everywhere.

But crowd-sourcing deeply personal medical or feeding decisions?
It usually doesn’t bring peace. It brings noise.

More opinions.
More “well when I…” stories.
More anxiety.

You hired professionals because you trust their training, their experience, and their ability to look at your specific situation.

Your best friend doesn’t know your cervix.
Your cousin doesn’t know your medical history.
That influencer doesn’t know your baby.

It’s okay to gather information.
It’s okay to want perspective.

But at some point, too many voices can drown out your own intuition — and the guidance of the people you intentionally chose.

Ask questions.
Get clarity.
Then anchor in your team.

Less noise.
More grounded decisions.

🤍

02/12/2026

I’m gonna be really real about something.

Every doctor you meet during prenatal care is going to have a different personality, different vibe, different bedside manner. That part matters.
But at the end of the day, they are still medical providers.

And medical providers are trained to do what they believe is safest—
within their scope, their practice, their policies, and their liability.

Here’s the part people don’t always realize:
what feels “safest” to a provider is not always what feels safest to you.

And that doesn’t mean anyone is wrong.

Doctors practice Western medicine. They have standards they must follow. They have guidelines, protocols, and very real liability to think about. That’s just the reality.

When people ask me, “Who’s the best doctor?”
Yes—I absolutely have my favorites. I really do.

But even my favorite doctors are still practicing within a system.

What actually makes the difference isn’t whether a doctor has a certain reputation or title.
It’s autonomy.

A great provider can suggest what they believe is best without taking away your right to decide.

It’s okay for a doctor to say,
“This is what I recommend and why.”

It’s even better when they can also say,
“And ultimately, this is your body, your baby, and your decision.”

That’s the difference.

You’re not looking for someone who lets you do “whatever you want.”
You’re looking for someone who respects that you get the final say, after informed discussion.

That’s the kind of care that actually feels safe.
Not just on paper—but in your nervous system too.

02/08/2026

✨ NEW BOOK ✨

I wrote a children’s book.
And it’s about doulas.

Because somewhere along the way, birth support became confusing, mysterious, or something people only learn about after they needed it.

This book is for:
• kids who are part of the story
• siblings getting ready for a new baby
• parents who want simple, honest language
• birth workers who want an easy way to explain what we do

It doesn’t tell anyone how to give birth.
It doesn’t push an agenda.
It just says: support exists.

And honestly? I wish something like this had existed years ago.

If you’re a parent, a doula, a midwife, a nurse, an aunt, a friend—or someone who believes birth shouldn’t feel so lonely—this one’s for you.

📖 The Doula Is Here
Available on Amazon + directly from my website (signed copies there 💛)

If this resonates, sharing it helps more than you know.

Support should never be a secret.

— Jill

SiblingPrep BirthEducation ItTakesASupportSystem

02/01/2026

The push meal is real 🍣🥪

People talk about it all the time — the sushi, the Italian sandwiches, the foods you’ve been “waiting nine months for.” And the question I hear most is:
do you really have to avoid these foods your entire pregnancy?

Here’s the honest answer: the guidance around these foods isn’t about your body suddenly being able to eat them after birth. It’s about risk tolerance during pregnancy. And risk exists everywhere.

You can get sick from fruit.
You can get sick from lettuce.
You can get sick from food we label “safe.”

So this isn’t a good food vs bad food conversation. It’s about quality, sourcing, quantity, moderation — and how food rules affect you.

Pregnancy comes with very little control. For many people, especially those with anxiety, food becomes one of the only places to feel “safe” or in control. I understand that — and I also know personally that restriction and overthinking can come at a cost.

If you look at other countries, pregnancy diets often include way more variety than we’re used to seeing here. Less fear. Better food quality. More balance. Context matters.

Yes — ask questions. Talk to your provider. Understand the risks.
But don’t let pressure, trends, or internet noise make food more stressful than it needs to be.

I always say: if it makes sense to you, it makes sense.
Support yourself — not the noise.

01/25/2026

I believe in autonomy.
I believe in advocacy.
I believe in speaking up, pushing back, and asking hard questions.

I’m not here to make hospitals comfortable.

And — there still has to be a line.

Doulas don’t give medical advice.
We don’t perform medical care or procedures.
We don’t diagnose, prescribe, or “treat.”
We don’t deliver babies.

Not because we’re afraid.
Not because we’re passive.
But because when lines disappear, clients pay for it — not us.

I will advocate loudly.
I will question decisions.
I will support people in choosing differently.

I just won’t put my hands on bodies or practice medicine I’m not licensed to practice.

Because every time someone does, another doula walks into a room having to explain, clarify, or undo something they didn’t do.

This work isn’t about playing small.
It’s about knowing exactly where your power is.

01/24/2026

I wrote a children’s book that explains what a doula is and how we support families 🤍

It’s for your kids.
For your friends.
For Aunt Linda.

It’s simple, gentle, and honestly came from years of trying to explain my job in a way that actually makes sense. If you’ve ever wanted an easy way to show people what birth support can look like — this is it.

If this feels like something someone in your world would enjoy, I’d be so grateful if you shared it. That kind of support means more than you know.

Thanks for being here 🧡
— Jill

The Doula Is Here!

01/22/2026

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01/20/2026

01/20/2026

A Little Transparency About Doula Pricing

I’ve been seeing a lot of conversation about the cost of a doula, so here’s what that fee actually reflects.

Full-service birth doula support (especially in California) typically ranges from $2,800–$5,000+ — and it’s not for “the day of birth.”

It includes prenatal visits, education, texts and calls, and real preparation.
It includes being on call (a formal 2–3 week window, plus the reality of staying flexible well beyond that).
It includes labor support that can last four hours or forty — overnight, weekends, holidays.
It includes postpartum follow-up, processing, and check-ins.

It also includes the costs people don’t see: gas, parking, backup coverage, admin time, childcare when births don’t follow schedules, and ongoing training. Most doulas are also paying out of pocket for health insurance, certifications, and continuing education.

It is great that more families can now access doula care through insurance. At the same time, many reimbursements still don’t reflect the true scope or cost of the work. When care is consistently underpaid, burnout is inevitable — not because doulas don’t care, but because the math doesn’t work.

There is no such thing as “just day-of birth support.” Showing up well requires preparation, context, and availability.

And this part is for the doulas: if you’re charging very low rates or relying solely on under-reimbursed work, I promise you — you will burn out.

This work isn’t priced by the hour. It’s priced by the responsibility, preparation, and presence required.

Birth work is skilled work.
It’s teamwork, intuition, training, and showing up when it matters.
And it deserves to be sustainable for the people doing it.

01/18/2026

My birthday girls!!! .loco

01/18/2026

Birthday Bingo Loco! .loco

01/15/2026

No one talks honestly about how hard it is to go from one child to two.

Not just the logistics.
Not just the sleep deprivation.

But the way it hits your heart.

You look at your first and feel a fear you didn’t expect:
What if I’ve already taken something from you?
What if sharing me means you get less?
What if I can’t love you the way you deserve anymore?

The guilt is quiet but relentless.
You question your patience.
Your choices.
Every moment you’re tired.
Every time your attention is split.

No one warns you about the identity shift —
how becoming a parent of two can make you feel like you’re failing the child who made you a parent in the first place.

You grieve the simplicity you didn’t know you’d miss.
The one-on-one moments.
The version of motherhood where your arms — and your heart — only had one place to land.

Even when you know love grows…
the fear shows up first.

This photo is me with my babies — who are now grown.
And I wish someone had told me this when I was a new mom:

That love doesn’t disappear.
It doesn’t dilute.
It stretches — painfully at first — and then becomes something bigger than you imagined.

That the guilt you feel isn’t a sign you’re doing it wrong.
It’s a sign of how deeply you love.

If you’re standing in the space between one and two — pregnant, newly postpartum, or still carrying the emotional imprint years later — please hear this:

Struggling here doesn’t mean you love your first any less.
It means you love them so fiercely that you’re afraid of losing even a piece of them.

That fear doesn’t make you weak.
It makes you human.

🤍