01/31/2026
It’s easy to call it rest when the body is still. However, stillness doesn’t always equate to restoration. Sometimes, the nervous system is disengaged and not properly supported.
So, how can you tell the difference? Here are a few ways ....
1) What does your body feel like during the pause?
Rest doesn’t always feel “good,” but it usually brings some kind of shift—your shoulders might lower, your breathing might deepen, even just a little. With numbing activity (hello scrolling or a game on your phone), it’s often hard to feel much of anything. You’re there but disconnected.
2) Did you choose the activity or slip into it?
Was there a moment when you said, This is enough for today, or did you realize you’d been scrolling without noticing? Rest usually has a sense of being chosen, even if it is quiet. Numbing often happens by default.
3) Does the pause leave you feeling clearer or more foggy?
After resting, you might still feel tired, but there’s often a little more clarity. You can hear your own thoughts again. With numbing, things tend to feel heavier or more blurred once the activity ends.
4) Is there a small sense of relief or just a delay?
Does your system feel even slightly more regulated after the pause? Or does everything you were trying to avoid come rushing back in the moment you stop?
5) Is this something that supports you or just quiets the noise?
There’s no perfect answer, and it can change day to day. But asking yourself this in real-time can help build more awareness — not to critique yourself, but to give your body more of what it’s actually asking for.
Sometimes, true rest starts with just asking better questions.