Talking to My Selves

01/23/2024

I'm starting my deep dive into explaining very thoroughly and slowly my theory - not only of Co-Dependency, but how to get out of it! For real and forever, if you want to follow my map. It's easy, but you need to constantly be aware of it. And just like me, you can pull yourself out of being a hopeless Co-dependent!

In this one I start with the part of us who gets us into the whole mess - our Inner Lover/Romantic.

This last Character in Chapter 6 begins the slippery slope we will follow for the next few weeks as we head into Debbie Unterman's brilliant "cure" for the t...

11/24/2022

This is what my book helps you do. First you need to become conscious of your projections. You can do that by learning about all of your Selves.

"The best political, social, and spiritual work we can do is to withdraw the projection of our shadow onto others."

C. G. Jung

11/10/2022

Remember the subtitle of my book is: Learning to Love the Voices in Your Head. That Inner Judge/Critic is the thing that makes Self-Love so difficult.

While most people tell you to "quiet that voice" - I help you to learn where (who) it's coming from, de-contaminate it, and find its positive side (organization, fairness, etc.).

10/25/2022

Hear my latest podcast here. https://www.ivoox.com/en/6189-steve-harper-interviews-debbie-unterman-master-alchemist-audios-mp3_rf_94441892_1.html

There are more where this came from! Search it. You'll like it.

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10/25/2022

This article explains what PTSD and how it affects you according to the latest brain research. It's very well-written and researched, and yet so easy to understand. I'm very impressed that it comes from CNET which is usually about technology!

Sometimes when we go through trauma, PTSD occurs. Here's what to know.

10/12/2020

I saw this post on someone's timeline and although it is true, there is more to it. It describes the subpersonality in Alchemy we refer to as Ms or Mr Together. One of the character traits I describe in my book is to deny their body needs.
But this is another theme I keep talking about and that is Victim bashing. I’m the only person I know who stands up the the Positive Traits of the subpersonality of The Victim.
1. They can ask for help.
2. They can rest.
3. They can be VULNERABLE!!!!
That is the exact opposite of a Ms/Mr. Together. They are diametrically opposed.

"The responses to Trauma which are not only socially acceptable, but praised and rewarded:
Perfectionism
Overachieving
Restricting food intake
Excessive exercising
People pleasing
Powering through
People pleasing
Career over personal lives
Being a "yes" person
Chronic workaholism
Over-scheduling
Functioning on few hours sleep"

08/28/2020

Don't trust your Lover/Romantic alone when it comes to lifelong decisions like marriage. Without reading this article, I completely agree. Especially because "chemicals" pour through our brain when we meet someone new, and especially have good s*x with them.

That is no way to make a decision and I have almost 40 years of working with heartbroken clients (and 67 years of personal experience) to confirm this.

But studying neuroscience explains it like nothing else except the 50+% rate of divorce as people vow to love forever should say it all. "Love" as we believe in it from Fairy Tales we read and Hollywood perpetrates deceives our own Higher Brain. It gets clouded and goes out the window when we put on our Rose-colored glasses of "Love" as defined by "chemistry."

FRIENDS FIRST is an easy path to follow. Easier said than done, but that will show compatibility better than s*x will.

Ever get caught up in the chemistry of a relationship, only to realize later you weren’t compatible? Jay Shetty reminds us that most of our visions of compat...

08/25/2020

This is very good. However, the one thing that "Re-parenting ourself" does is it makes a woman a single mother (a man, a single father). That is why in AHAA! Alchemical Hypnotherapy Assoc. of Atlanta we create a whole "Inner FAMILY" that includes a contra-s*xual parent from the realm of Guides/Angels or deceased loved ones. "Families" are the basic unit of human beings. We have too many single parent families already.
But don't get me wrong - it's a great start! Whatever we need to do to love our Inner Child and take responsibility for his or her care, is vital.