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Marriages & relationships
04/20/2026

Marriages & relationships

On my flight over to Manchester UK (hello 🇬🇧 you sold out the event THANK YOU!!) I was listening to a talk by a doctor who said he had many patients who only got better after a spouse died.

Read that line again.

This doesn’t surprise me at all. I believe toxic marriages are the root cause of many health issues. It would make sense that after a death of a spouse that’s controlling, dominating, or high conflict, the nervous system and immune system can finally become regulated and healing begins.

But here’s the thing, no one talks about this. It doesn’t sound good. It’s now shown in the movies. But it’s real.

Years ago, one of my close friend lost her grandpa. We were out with her grandma and her mom just a few weeks after his death. The topic of her grandpa came up. “You know, I don’t miss him” her grandma said. I remember the moment so clearly. She seemed lighter and relaxed. And she meant it.

I don’t know any details of their marriage. And I believe marriage can be a beautiful space of mutual expansion and healing. But for others is a slow loss of self. It’s a lack of freedom. It’s lonely. And it’s where people lose their inner light.

How telling is it that at her husband’s death she felt relief.

Divorce still carries a stigma. But nothing hurts more than staying in a relationship where you’re tolerated instead of cherished or where your needs are a burden. Sometimes divorce is the first time you have the courage to choose yourself.

Sometimes it’s the first time you model to your children: when someone hurts you, it’s ok to leave.

Sometimes it’s the beginning of listening to your body. A body that’s screaming (through symptoms): I’m not safe.

Sometimes divorce is a victory that adds years to your life

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