Allison Gilbert, LMFT

02/18/2024

Just realized that I should delete this page since it is coming up on a year now that I have been retired! So at least now there's an announcement on here and it will eventually be deleted altogether

04/27/2022

Really well-written article on the sacrifice of motherhood.

On a trip to the grocery store one day, I had an epiphany about me, my son, and the meaning of life.

07/29/2021

07/11/2021

I wanted to share my YouTube Channel today because yesterday, someone contacted me about the Kabbalah cards after watching a video there. The channel has a few other videos as well that I created 4 years ago to teach Kabbalah:

Share your videos with friends, family, and the world

06/17/2021

So glad to be back in the office with a new client. It's been a year and a half of paying for something I wasn't sure I'd ever use again. Glad I kept it and waited until I was excited to go there again. I stopped before the virus hit since Geoff had gotten worse...

02/12/2021

Geneen always says it so well...

Cancer Chronicles, 55: I remember the years that I believed that once I “handled” my relationship with food, I’d be done. I wouldn’t have to think about it again.

And I remember the years that I believed that once I had a glimpse of what many teachers call my “true nature,” I’d be forever awakened.

I also remember that I believed that once the cancer was removed from my breast, I’d be saved. Healthy. Done.

Here’s what I know now: Food will always be a doorway for me. It’s like having an immediate signal to pay attention. When I am sad or confused or tired—feeling any number of feelings from being in earth school—food will often pop into my mind, seem like a good idea. And most people would say, “So what. You just ate a spoonful of almond butter. That’s not exactly a binge.” True. Not a binge but not the truth either. Not turning toward myself, inviting the sadness or confusion or tiredness. How will I be my own best love if I keep turning away from what wants to be loved? Wanting to eat when I am feeling sadness is the exact definition of turning away, of abandoning myself. It’s not about the food. It’s about where love is. Where kindness is.

There is no “one and done.” With eating, waking up, cancer. That’s a myth that keeps people hooked on feeling bad about themselves. I’ve fallen for it for years and every time, but only 100% of the time (as Byron Katie says), I lose myself in the promise that if only I could fix what the mind tells me is wrong, I’d be fixed. We’re not done until we stop breathing (and who knows what happens then?) What else are we going to do but learn how to be kind to ourselves and how to welcome what we would rather reject. That welcoming is what is called practice. And for practice, effort has to be made. Every day. Seriously? Every day? Yes. What better way to spend your time than walking out of prison...

A or B: Fall for the myth. Believe you need to be done now. Take the quickest route offered.
OR
Notice when you are caught. (Wanting to eat when you’re not hungry or feeling shame or like you’re never going to get “it” are all waving flags). Time to turn toward what wants love. Don’t leave yourself when you are most needed.

01/10/2021

Good metaphor.

A Harvard-Trained Psychiatrist gives a brief overview of Internal Family Systems Therapy

09/14/2020

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2zLCCRT-nE&feature=youtu.be&_ga=2.59415341.1037609756.1600104864-1614758492.1600104862

(sharing this video? using it in a training! Great! Tag or email us and let us know, and be sure to give proper attribution.) It's so hard to know what to do...