CMBtherapy

06/26/2025

Tiny mushrooms growing in a row on the edge of a decaying leaf. Reading about the studies currently being done with “decay and exponential growth” and Its blowing my mind!

Growth happens even when it feels like you’re decaying. You are not decaying you are experiencing exponential growth! Embrace the tiny mushrooms that are growing in your life 🍄🍄🍄

12/09/2024

Just keep swimming 🐠🐟

12/09/2024

Find balance ❤️🌱✨ sometimes doing hard things and being uncomfortable teaches strengthens our abilities!

12/09/2024

Please DO NOT hate yourself happy 😂👏 Apparently it doesn’t work 🤣 Love this!!!

06/03/2024

You are not your thoughts. You are the one who is aware of them. Thoughts have no power unless you believe them and feed them. Thoughts alone cannot harm you.
But we have created these stories in our minds. Which have produced corresponding emotions, thus perpetuating the narrative.

Then by thinking and feeling it so many times, we start to believe this narrative, and act as if it is reality.
We begin living in the projection of our own limited thinking. We bought an idea or concept of who we are and what life is, and we are acting in accordance with it.

We are placing our limitations on life itself, which eventually causes some sort of internal war.

02/28/2024

Our nervous systems are always listening! Slow down and start listening to your nervous system.

By validating and listening to our anxiety, we’re able to inquire into where it might be stemming from. Often the root cause goes waaaaaaay back to our childhood when we may have been overwhelmed by trauma. In these moments we develop anxiety as a coping mechanism to keep us safe from similar situations.

Unfortunately, as adults this is no longer helpful and can leave us feeling stuck and unable to move through life as we wish.

Approaching anxiety from a place of compassion and understanding makes a HUGE difference. And as we rebuild our relationship and trust with our anxious parts, we can give them the care and attention that they need.

02/16/2024

Try hugs… they’re FREE!

02/16/2024

Everything that takes place on the outside, is a direct reflection of what may be happening on the inside.

Whether it’s in conflict, in work, or in every day stressor, when our system experiences activation it can go into a few different places.

Deb Dana of Polyvagal Theory describes our states of activation as our “home away from home” and we can find ourselves moving into these “homes” when stress gets high.

The wonderful thing about working with our nervous system is that we can effect how we feel, what we think, and how we see the world by tending to the very specific need of our unique stress response.

So if we find ourselves saying certain things in conflict over and over again, or feeling a certain way every time something specific happens, it’s helpful to get curious about the physiological response that is showing up with the words, thoughts and energy we have. Then, we can begin to tailor our resources and practices directly to the cues our body gives us.

This might look like:

Urgency, anxiety, anger, irritability, wanting to escape, defensiveness: move your body, help your system discharge some energy, connect with someone/something that feels safe and supportive.

Freeze/stuckness/overwhelm: give yourself lots of time and space, let your body rest while staying connected to comforting surfaces (soft blanket, cozy couch, supportive wall or back of chair) Orient to the things that bring you joy, curiosity, or laughter.

Supporting our system doesn’t have to be complex, in fact, sometimes the simplest actions can be the most supportive.

01/27/2024

01/06/2024

Depression sucks! Talk to a professional that can help you improve life functioning. You deserve to experience more joy in life and you deserve to find a higher quality of life! It does exist ❤️🌱✨

01/05/2024

When you challenge your thinking by saying to yourself “What Else Could It Be” you interrupt negative fixed mindsets. Asking this question and coming up with more than one possibility can put just enough doubt in your mind to shift out of negative assumptions that get you stuck in life! Practice challenging your thoughts and slowly step into a more positive-empowering healthy mindset!

12/28/2023

If children aren’t allowed to have emotions they can’t learn to manage them in a healthy way because they were not given the opportunity or the chance to learn.

I often think about myself and the many parents learning to regulate. Most of us were not taught about emotions as children.

You may have been shut down when you had big emotions. And if you were, phrases like “If you don’t stop crying, I’m going to send you to your room!” or “You have no reason to be angry!” or “Stop getting frustrated!”and other phrases like this may sound familiar. You may have learned that showing your emotions causes bad things to happen and in turn, you pushed your emotions aside so that no one would see them.

But hiding emotions is not the same thing as regulating them.

Regulating means that you experience your emotions. Fully! You don’t hide them or push them aside, you’ve accepted them as a part of who you are, and your reactions to your emotions are controlled. You can express what you feel in a safe and healthy way.

Children are no different. If you want your child(ren) to regulate properly, you have to give them the opportunity to learn. Children cannot learn to regulate emotions if they are not allowed to have them.

Sending strength to all the parents owning their own big feelings (maybe for the first time) because they weren’t allowed to - your kids have a great teacher.