Life Worth Living

02/19/2021

There is a term not commonly used, but would certainly improve our world if it was. The term is, "granting beingness". It means allowing someone to:
• be who they are,
• think what they and think,
• choose for themselves,
• learn for themselves,
• have their own opinions and beliefs,

All without trying to change, shape, judge, or control them. Of course, allowing them to also face the consequences for who they choose to be.
It doesn't mean you have to like them, conform to their ways, or let them live in your house. You simply allow them to be who they choose to be and let the consequences follow naturally, according to the laws of the land, God, and thee universe. You leave their choices, thoughts and opinions between them and their God and go about your life knowing the same should be your right as well. It is a matter of respect , integrity and common decency.

Unfortunately granting beingness seems to be lacking some in our day. People are so caught up in themselves and expect everyone to conform or else that person is deemed evil, bad, wrong, stupid, or less than. Relationships are lost, anger and hatred ensue, selfishness and pride increase, hypocrisy, lies, and double standards become the norm. Everyone is required to pick a side and be judged by it. You are either in or out, good or bad. Instead of moderation, extremes not only happen, but are touted as the only and correct way. If you don't join a side you are deemed an enemy.

How beautiful it would be if we didn't go to extremes, but rather enveloped moderation and tolerance, recognizing it would open doors, increase peace, unity, happiness, and love, not only in ourselves, but in society as a whole.

So let's get out there and appreciate people for who they are be granting beingness. You will be surprised at the profound impact it will have on your life and you will feel your burdens lightened.

02/16/2021

Life is not only worth living, it is also worth celebrating. Cherish the good times, but also the most difficult. Finding the hard or the bad is easy. FIND GOOD IN EVRYONE AND EVERYTHING! That is the harder, yet more rewarding challenge that will bring a sense of control back to your soul. You will find your spirit lifted and your load lighter.
We too often carry far more burdens than necessary with the false notion they give us security, control, worth, or somehow make us better. It couldn't be farther from the truth. It is what weighs us down and makes us and those around us miserable.
So wherever you are, whatever you are doing, live THIS moment for all it is worth. Find something positive, shout WOOHOO!!!, and then go spread that joy with someone else.
As G. De Malynes recorded, "Let go and let live." Let go of those heavy, negative thoughts, feelings, and actions. Let go of hurts, control, anger, and any other burden. Don't waste this short time in life. Learn what there is to learn. Feel what you need to feel, and then let go and fully embrace who you are and the beauty, depth, and goodness within so much so that it overflows into all those around you.

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01/25/2019

In life we all are building our own house, so to speak. Each day we have a responsibility (or purpose). Some days we get the joys of painting, adding windows, putting in carpet and so forth. Other days our purpose seems almost pointless, as we hammer a nail here or there. However each nail is important and contributes to the overall house. Don't discount those nails or the other mundane tasks. They may not seem like much, but they make a difference.
Find your purpose each day and make it count - whether a nail or the final finishes of a room. You are needed and you have purpose. Don't discount the importance of you.

09/16/2014

Our lives are what we choose to see them as. If you want a good life, change your attitude and begin to see your life anew. Every human alive has a tremendous amount of good and blessings afforded them each day, but as mortals we naturally tend to focus on the tragedies and difficulties. If we can change our focus, we change our entire world and our ability to not only live in it, but change it for the better. I love the following quote by William James who was a philosopher and psychologist:

"The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind."

William James (1842-1910)

09/10/2014

06/12/2014

Su***de is a very tragic and difficult situation for those left to cope. This is a very wise and comforting perspective offered.

This post has been in my heart for a long time. I've thought about it again and again. The subject seemed too heavy for our blog about delicious things. But in the past weeks, I have shared my thoughts on su***de three times with friends left in its wake. I think it is time for this post and I hope there are some out there for whom this brings clarity and comfort.

07/07/2012

It is okay to be frustrated, grumpy, honory, angry, and even complain about life. It is not okay when feeling that way to disrespect, demean, put down, or belittle others.
Everyone has struggles and difficulties. The fact is, this life is hard, but the hardness is meant to teach us. So while being frustrated, grumpy, honory, angry, and even complaining I would ask, are you learning from your difficulties or just creating more difficulty for others??

10/01/2011

Struggling to communicate with someone? Do you feel like they don't understand you at all, are insensitive, and possibly even crazy? Could just be you are a feeling person and they are a thinking person or vice versa.
The heart is what governs or drives a feeling person. They tend to make decisions based on principles and values. Often they will judge people, experiences, or circumstances based on feelings. They are driven by emotion.
The head is what governs and drives a thinking person. They tend to make decisions based on facts, proof, or evidence. Often they will judge people, experiences, or circumstances based on logic. They are driven by thought and struggle with real empathy.
Most people tend to lean more towards one than the other. And few are almost completely one versus another.
So forgive someone whose offended you or who you think is insensitive or lacks understanding. Could just be they are opposite of what you are. You will improve your communication by understanding whether a person is a thinking or a feeling person and then work to communicate on their level.

04/30/2011

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary." ~ Steve Jobs

02/19/2011

"A baby is born with a need to be loved - and never outgrows it." ~ Frank A. Clark

01/09/2011

"The greatest conflicts are not between two people, but between one person and himself." ~ Garth Brooks