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Beyond Infinity RI, South Kingstown, RI (2026)

04/10/2026

2020

Those four numbers alone can send your nervous system into overdrive.

Let’s talk real s**t for a second…

That year was a mess. A big, fu***ng mess in every sense of the word.

So much was taken from us. Everything changed. Every single one of us was affected, some more than others.

The biggest fear?
Death.

And not just death… but the loss of closure.
Families couldn’t be with their loved ones before they passed or even after.

They couldn’t say goodbye.

As a funeral director, I can tell you, this was not acceptable.

We were told by the powers-that-be that families couldn’t have that final moment.

But we weren’t going to accept that.
If there’s a will, there’s a way, and there was a way to do it safely, with dignity and respect.

When we pushed back, they pushed back harder.
(That’s a story for another day.)

But it didn’t stop there.
We were told to adapt to a “new normal”…

What the f**k does that even mean?

It means we’re not going back to what things used to be.

Everything was tested:
Marriages
Relationships
Friendships
Relationships with family
Careers
Job security

You name it, it was shaken.

And honestly? It hasn’t slowed down since.

We can’t even catch our breath for five minutes without another headline, another crisis, another “what now?” moment, usually delivered straight to our phones, 24/7.

But here’s the truth:
We are allowed to grieve what was.

And we can still move forward in a healthier, more conscious way.

✨ I’ll be hosting an online class:
Grieving the World We Knew
Processing Societal Change as Collective Grief
📅 Wednesday, May 27th at 7 PM EST
💻 On Zoom
💲 Investment: $30

This will be a respectful, open discussion around:
• The loss of perceived stability
• The rupture of trust in institutions
• The acceleration of technological and cultural change
• The fragmentation of relationships
• The grief of “before”

This is not about debating what’s true or false.

Because grief doesn’t require ideological agreement.

We’ll also explore:
• Ambiguous loss (we lost “normal,” but nothing physically died)
• Disenfranchised grief
• Nervous system dysregulation from prolonged uncertainty
• Loss of shared reality
• Identity rupture, “Who am I in this world now?”

People are grieving:
• Slower life
• Human connection
• Predictable paths
• Familiar systems
• Innocence
• Trust
• Certainty
• Safety

Along with:
• Anger at institutions
• Confusion about truth
• Fear of rapid change

Who this is for:
This space is truly for anyone feeling the weight of how much has changed.
And especially for those who hold space for others
Funeral directors
Death doulas
Healthcare workers
Healers
Anyone supporting people through grief and loss

Because you can’t hold space for others if you haven’t had space to process your own.

This space is NOT for changing minds or debating politics.

It’s a space to be HUMAN together.

Because whether we acknowledge it or not, we are all moving through this shift, and unprocessed grief doesn’t just disappear, it shows up in our bodies, our relationships, and our lives.

Having a space like this matters because:
👉 It allows you to process without judgment
👉 It helps regulate your nervous system through shared experience
👉 It reminds you that you are not alone in what you’re feeling

If you’ve been feeling off, overwhelmed, disconnected, or like something just isn’t the same…

You’re not crazy.

You might just be grieving. 💫

Eventbrite link will be posted this weekend

03/04/2026

There’s still time to join us tonight.

Our Directors & Doulas Zoom discussion on Liability in the Death Care Industry is happening this evening, and there is still time to join the group and participate.

If you work in: ⚖️ Funeral service
⚖️ End-of-life doula work
⚖️ Hospice or healthcare
⚖️ Cemetery or cremation services
⚖️ Grief or spiritual support
This conversation is for you.

Join the group here:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/638694655904646/?ref=share&mibextid=NSMWBT⁠

All membership questions must be answered and group rules agreed to for approval. This is non-negotiable.

Zoom details are posted inside the group.

Looking forward to a meaningful and professional discussion tonight.

02/14/2026

A gentle reminder today on Valentines Day 💝 ✨️

12/26/2025

✨ Fun Funeral Fact Friday ✨

🕯️ Grief & the Holidays 🕯️

Did you know the holiday season is one of the hardest times of year for people who are grieving?

📊 Some meaningful facts: • Around 1 in 3 adults don’t feel like celebrating the holidays due to grief or loss

• Over 60% of grieving individuals report increased stress during this time of year
• Nearly 90% of adults experience heightened stress during the holidays
• Memories, traditions, and empty spaces can make grief feel louder — not quieter

🎄 While the world often calls this “the most wonderful time of the year,” for many it’s a season of missing, remembering, and simply getting through.

🤍 If you’re grieving right now, please know: You’re not broken.

You don’t need to feel festive.

And you are not alone.

✨ If this post resonates — if you’re sitting with grief, curiosity, or a desire to live more intentionally — you may feel called to join an upcoming in-person gathering I’m facilitating.

✨ Awakening to Death: Healing, Legacy & Living Fully
🗓 Tuesday, Feb 4, 2026
⏰ 7:00–8:30 PM
📍 Ascension Nxt | 378 Main St, Unit 7, East Greenwich, RI
💲 $39.19
🎟 Tickets available via Eventbrite — link in comments

11/11/2025

🌺 Veterans Day Tribute 🌺

Honoring Every Hero — in Boots and in Paws

Today, we pause to honor all who have served — the brave men and women who defended our freedom, and the loyal animal companions who stood faithfully by their side. 🐾🇺🇸

From the horses who carried courage through the smoke of battle…
To the dogs who protected and comforted…
To the pigeons who carried messages of hope through chaos —
their devotion and bravery remind us that love knows no species.

They may not wear medals, but they have earned something far greater:
our eternal gratitude and remembrance.

🕯️ In memory of every hero — human and animal — who gave their all.
You are forever in our hearts.

10/31/2025

💀🎃 Fun Funeral Fact Friday: Halloween Edition

Did you know that Halloween actually began as a sacred festival to honor the dead?

Long before costumes, candy, and haunted houses, the ancient Celts celebrated Samhain (pronounced Sow-in) — a powerful time marking the end of the harvest and the beginning of the darker half of the year. It was believed that on this night, the veil between the living and the spirit world grew thin, allowing ancestors and loved ones who had passed to visit.

Families would set extra places at the dinner table, leave candles burning in windows, and light bonfires to guide spirits home. Food and offerings were often left outside for wandering souls — not out of fear, but out of respect and love.

As centuries passed, Samhain evolved through Roman and Christian influences, eventually blending into All Hallows’ Eve, and later into the Halloween we know today. But at its heart, this day remains a time for connection, remembrance, and honoring the eternal cycle of life and death.

Here at Beyond Infinity RI, we honor that same ancient wisdom — recognizing that love never truly dies, it simply changes form. 💫

So tonight, as you carve pumpkins or dress in costume, take a quiet moment to:
🕯️ Light a candle for someone you miss
🌿 Whisper their name with gratitude
💜 Remember — their story lives on through you

Wishing you a safe, soulful, and a little bit spooky Halloween from all of us at Beyond Infinity RI, where we believe death is not the end — it’s a continuation beyond infinity. ♾️

10/28/2025

✨ Honoring Our Everyday Heroes ✨
Today we pause to recognize and thank the incredible men and women who serve as first responders — police officers, firefighters, EMTs, paramedics, and dispatchers. 💙❤️

These brave souls show up every single day — often on someone’s hardest day — bringing calm, courage, and compassion when it’s needed most. Their dedication reminds us what it truly means to serve with heart.

As someone who works closely with families during moments of loss and remembrance, I see the lasting impact these heroes make — not just in emergencies, but in the lives they quietly touch long after.

To all first responders — thank you for your service, your strength, and your sacrifice.
You are deeply appreciated today and always. 🙏

10/24/2025

The Dog Who Refused to Leave His Owner’s Grave

Here’s a powerful story for this week’s Funeral Fact Friday — a touching real-life example of loyalty, grief, and the enduring bond between a person and their pet:

📖 The Story

In central Argentina, in the town of Villa Carlos Paz (Córdoba province), a German Shepherd mix named Capitán became known for his extraordinary devotion. After his owner, Miguel Guzmán, died in 2006, Capitán disappeared from the home — only to turn up a few days later at his owner’s newly dug grave in the local cemetery.
Despite attempts by the family to bring him home, he repeatedly left and returned to the gravesite. Day after day, year after year, Capitán remained beside the grave, lying on or near the tomb of his master, sometimes staying through the night.
The story gained international attention as a symbolic act of loyalty: one report described that by 2018, he had been keeping vigil for 12 years beside the grave.

🕊️ Why This Matters — Especially in Funeral Services

Symbol of Vigil and Presence: Capitán’s story reminds us that mourning and remembrance are not just human experiences. The idea of being present, of sitting by the tomb or marker, reflects a deep-rooted need to accompany the departed — even when they can’t respond.

Honoring the Unique Bond: Funerals often celebrate relationships — spouse, parent, friend. But sometimes they also involve the special connection with a pet or animal companion. This story broadens our view of what “loss” and “farewell” can look like.

Personalization & Memory: The act of staying at the grave is a personal ritual of remembrance. For funeral professionals and families alike, the takeaway is that memorials don’t always need to follow standard scripts. What matters is the authenticity and meaning behind the act.

Enduring Tribute: Just as a person might leave flowers, photographs or messages at a grave, Capitán’s vigil served as a living tribute. It speaks to the power of ongoing remembrance — not just a 1-day service, but a continuing act of love.

Link and credit to full story: https://www.dailysabah.com/life/2018/02/21/loyal-argentine-dog-dies-beside-owners-grave-after-12-years-of-waiting-there-for-him/amp

I’m hosting a special online gathering for Day of the Dead — to remember and celebrate the pets who’ve crossed the rainbow bridge. 🌈🐾

https://www.facebook.com/share/1CmWhBmGkK/

10/03/2025

🐾✨ Fun Funeral Fact Friday ✨🐾

When you think of Día de los Mu***os (Day of the Dead), you might picture colorful altars, marigolds, candles, sugar skulls, and families coming together to honor their ancestors. But did you know there’s also a special tradition called Pet Day of the Dead (Día de los Mu***os para Mascotas)? 🌼🐾

This day is dedicated to remembering the beloved animals who shared our homes and our hearts. Families create beautiful altars filled with:
🖼️ Photos of their pets
🕯️ Candles to light the way
🌼 Marigolds, known as “the flower of the dead”
🐾 Favorite toys, collars, or treats

The belief is that during this sacred time, the veil between worlds is thin — and love, memory, and spirit connect us again with those we’ve lost. For many, this includes not just parents or grandparents, but also the dogs, cats, birds, and other companions who brought unconditional love and joy into our lives.

Why does this matter? Because it reminds us of something so important: grief for a pet is real, valid, and sacred. In the funeral profession, we often see how pets are family, and honoring their lives can bring comfort and healing.

This year, I’m embracing this tradition with a special online gathering:

🕯️ Pet Day of the Dead: A Night of Love, Light & Remembrance
📅 October 27th • 7 PM EST
📍 Online — join from anywhere
💜 Donation-based to help hold this space & facilitate the ceremony

https://facebook.com/events/s/pet-day-of-the-dead-a-night-of/1348481490126181/

Together, we’ll:
🌼 Create pet memorial altars
📖 Write letters of love and remembrance
💬 Share stories in a safe, supportive space
🕯️ Close with a candlelight ceremony

Because love never dies — and our pets deserve to be remembered, too. 💜🌈🐶🐱

09/26/2025

🕯️ Fun Funeral Fact Friday

“Behind the Scenes: What Funeral Directors Actually Do”

Being a funeral director isn’t just about showing up in a suit and offering condolences — it’s more like being a grief-informed wedding planner, logistics coordinator, therapist, and event producer… all rolled into one.

Here’s a glimpse behind the scenes:

💒 Coordinate with churches, clergy, cemeteries, and crematories
🪪 File legal paperwork — lots of it (death certificates, permits, authorizations)
🧴 Handle preservation, dressing, and embalming (if chosen)
💄 Apply makeup, sometimes style hair — and yes, we do a loved ones hair ourselves or call in a hairdresser
🎼 Arrange music, photo slideshows, memory tables, obituaries, and tribute videos
🧘‍♀️ Comfort grieving families — while juggling back-to-back services
📅 Schedule viewings, services, cremations, burials — with sometimes less than 24 hours’ notice
📦 Manage urn or casket selection, keepsakes, flowers, transport, and more
❤️ And we do it all with empathy, presence, and a commitment to honoring someone’s life with dignity

Despite the old myths… we’re not out to rob anyone. Most of us got into this field because we’ve been through loss ourselves. We know the weight of it.

And yes — we do burn out. But we also love what we do. Supporting people through one of the hardest days of their life is sacred work.

Next time you see a funeral director, remember: we’re the quiet storm making sure everything flows — while holding space for grief in its rawest form.

🕰️ We're on call 24/7, including holidays. Some funerla homes rotate schedules, but in some places, it's just one or two directors answering phones at 3 a.m., coordinating transports, and preparing for the next day’s services.

✨ Which is why boundaries are vital. To keep showing up with grace and dignity, we have to protect our own energy, too. Healthy boundaries aren't selfish , they're what allow us to keep doing this sacred work without losing ourselves in the process.

09/19/2025

Something different for this week's Fun Funeral Fact Friday ⚰️

💚Grief and Why We Judge It💛

I want to touch upon something that doesn’t get talked about enough…

How we express our grief and how it's constantly judged, mocked, ridiculed, or labeled as “too much” or “not enough.”

They aren’t crying… they must not feel anything.

Why are they taking photos?

They’re being too dramatic.

How can they look so composed? They must be looking for attention.

Why are they sharing this online? Shouldn’t grief be private?

They seem too happy — they must have moved on already.

They’re crying too much — they must want sympathy.

Why are they telling the same story over and over?

They should be over it by now — it’s been long enough.

Sound familiar?

Whether we admit it or not, we’ve all done it. Even if we never say a word, that energy of judgment is there.

And then comes the online part — the moment someone shares their grief publicly, people get uncomfortable.

The truth is, death isn’t comfortable. It’s scary. It’s heartbreaking. And in some cultures, you’re even taught not to show emotion at all.

But here’s the thing — grief has many faces. It can look like tears. It can look like laughter at shared memories. It can even look like stillness.

😵‍💫Why We Judge Grief

There are some common reasons this judgment happens:

Cultural Conditioning & Social Norms – Many societies expect us to be private and composed in pain. Some cultures embrace communal mourning; others see it as inappropriate.

Discomfort with Vulnerability & Death – Public grief reminds people of their own pain or mortality, so they label it as “too much” to protect themselves emotionally.

Gender & Emotional Expectations – Women get labeled “dramatic,” while men get told to “man up,” creating double standards around grief expression.

Social Media Perception – Grief shared online can be dismissed as “attention-seeking,” even though it may simply be someone’s way of processing loss.

The Myth of a “Grief Timeline” – Society expects people to “move on” quickly, but grief doesn’t follow a neat schedule.

📸 Photos, then & now

Taking pictures of someone who has passed away isn’t new. In Victorian times (mid-1800s to early 1900s), post-mortem photography was a common way for families to remember loved ones.

These photos were sometimes the only images people had of a person, especially children. Families would pose the deceased as though asleep, or with family members.

Over time, as photography became more common, as social attitudes toward death changed, and as funerary and medical practices shifted, this kind of photography became less visible, more private, or reserved for certain contexts.

So when we see people today taking photos at funerals or memorials — it isn’t necessarily “performative.” It can be part of remembering, preserving what’s precious, and coping.

📱Grief in the Digital Age

When COVID hit, we had to livestream Masses and funeral services so people could attend from afar.

For some, this was a lifeline — a way to:

Show respect when they couldn’t be there in person

Share in collective mourning

Find closure when travel restrictions and safety rules kept families apart

It might not have been traditional, but it gave people permission to grieve together in a time of isolation.

🪬 Grief Around the World: The Haka

One powerful example comes from Māori culture in New Zealand. Did you know the haka isn’t just a war dance? At funerals (tangihanga), the haka holds deep meaning:

Honors the Deceased – A powerful farewell to celebrate the life and spirit of the one who has passed.

Expresses Raw Emotion – Channeling grief, love, respect, and connection when words aren’t enough.

Calls on Ancestral Ties – A spiritual acknowledgment of the journey from this life to the next.

Unites the Community – Performed together, it shows grief and respect are shared, not carried alone.

Sacred Tradition – A final gift of strength and aroha (love) as the deceased joins their ancestors.

👂 How to Respond Instead of Judge

Pause before labeling someone’s grief. Ask yourself: Why does their way of grieving make me uncomfortable?

Offer compassion, not critique. A simple “I’m so sorry for your loss” can go farther than “are you overreacting?”

Respect cultural differences. Traditions vary: public displays, collective grief, memorial rituals — all are valid.

Remember: grief has no timeline. Some days are worse. Some days are peaceful. Both are okay.

Maybe it’s time we let people grieve however their heart needs to — without judgment, without timelines, and with a lot more compassion. ❤️

09/06/2025

💚 Fun Funeral Fact Friday 👗

The Pact, The Promise, and the Green Dress

In 2009, Private Kevin Elliott, a soldier with the Black Watch regiment, was killed during a Taliban ambush in Afghanistan. At his funeral in Dundee, Scotland, his best friend, Barry Delaney, arrived wearing a fluorescent green mini-dress and bright pink knee-high socks.

Why?

Years earlier, Kevin and Barry made a promise: Whoever dies first, the other would wear the most outrageous, over-the-top dress to the funeral. It was their way of confronting the harsh reality of war with humor, love, and loyalty.

Barry kept his word. And in doing so, he offered a powerful tribute that went beyond tradition.

The bright green dress wasn’t just a joke or a dare. It was a symbol of:

Unbreakable friendship: A bond strong enough to transcend loss.

Love and loyalty: A promise kept, no matter how unconventional.

Personalized remembrance: Funerals don’t have to follow the same script; they can reflect the true spirit of the one we’ve lost.

This story reminds us that funerals can be as unique as the lives they celebrate. Sometimes it’s flowers, sometimes it’s music… and sometimes it’s a fluorescent green dress that says “I love you, my friend, and I’ll honor you my way.” 💚

Death can be uncomfortable to talk about and downright scary. It doesn't have to be.

✨ Coming soon: I’ll be offering classes and talks on end-of-life planning, meaningful memorials, and ways to personalize funeral services. If your group, workplace, or organization would like me to speak, please reach out—I’d love to share more stories and ideas that bring comfort, connection, and even a touch of light to difficult times.

Photo credit to Bugged Space

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