12/22/2025
đ Identity Crisis Alert đ
Early in my practice, a mentor suggested joining patient support groups to better understand the struggles of those we help.
It sounded wise... until I saw the truth.
These groups werenât about support.
They were competitions over who had it worst.
One-upping pain. Seeking validation in victimhood.
Let me be clear: there is ZERO nobility in making your disease your identity.
You are NOT your diagnosis.
You are NOT your MRI.
You are NOT your arthritis or your chronic condition.
When suffering becomes your personality, itâs time for a hard reset.
Iâve watched two types of people over 10 years:
Those who stay stuck:
Treat doctors like saviors. Expect pills, adjustments, or surgery to fix a lifetime of poor habits. Zero accountability.
The warriors who heal:
They own their story.
They upgrade every habit.
They craft a vision and refuse to let setbacks redefine them.
They choose their care wisely â never surrendering to fear-driven medicine.
The real story we need isnât one of endless struggle.
Itâs one of courage. Empowerment. Reclaiming what was yours from the start.
So next time youâre tempted to vent in a Facebook group about how bad you have it...
Pause.
Ask: Is this moving me toward the life I want?
Most of the time, the answer is no.
Shut out the noise.
Get back to work.
Own your story.
Thatâs how we break the identity crisis â and reclaim real hope.
đȘ Whoâs with me?