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10/10/2025

A good reminder 💕

Grief is not selfish. In a world that discourages mourning, connecting, remembering, and loving those who are gone is one of love’s most selfless forms.

08/15/2025

04/08/2024

Total eclipse time lapse

04/15/2023

04/15/2023

Love this.
Created by Lois Tonkin.

04/15/2023

Important, yet often rarely discussed points here.

Before we get started, I just want to give a quick heads up about the content of this post. We’re going to be talking about death and grief in the home. To do that topic justice, it means we talk about some very specific details of people dying […]

02/02/2023

11/18/2022

From refugeingrief.com

11/18/2022

In this season of outer darkness, may we remember and honor our inner light. It can feel like your light is dimmed or off, especially in grief. It is always there, waiting to be witnessed. How do you honor your light? 💜 ✨

06/07/2022

Want to help a grieving friend? Let them be sad.⁣ Really.
⁣Sadness is a natural response to loss, hardship, and death. It just is.⁣
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And it's hard to know what to do when your friends are hurting. It sucks to see someone you love in pain. The thing is, you can’t cheer someone up by telling them to look on the bright side, or by giving them advice. It just doesn’t work.⁣⁣
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The trick is to lean into your helplessness in the face of your friend’s pain. Your job, honestly, is to feel awkward and stay there anyway. Just hang right out with their pain.⁣⁣
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When things are dark, it's ok to be dark. Really. Not every corner needs the bright light of encouragement. In a similar vein, don't encourage someone to have gratitude for good things that happened to them in the past or good things that still exist. ⁣
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Example: We recently we saw a person respond to someone's expression of sadness by telling them to shove down all the "bad feelings" and think about the good things they still have in their life. ⁣
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First of all, just say no to unsolicited advice. When someone talks to you about how hard this is, notice your impulse to jump in with a solution, and then DON'T DO IT. Most of the time people are simply looking for acknowledgment about how awful this situation is. ⁣
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Second, good things and horrible things occupy the same space; they don't cancel each other out.⁣ Sadness is healthy. Telling someone to look on the bright side or appreciate what they still have just tells them you're not someone they can talk with about their pain. ⁣
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Instead, mirror their reality back to them. When they say, "This sucks," say, "Yes, it does." It may seem too simple, but it's amazing how much that simple acknowledgement helps.⁣ It is an unfathomable relief to have a friend who will sit with you and let you feel exactly how you feel.⁣
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For more on how to be the supportive friend you truly want to be, visit refugeingrief.com or check out my first book, It's OK That You're Not OK.⁣ Available wherever you buy books.

01/15/2022

“Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell.” ~Edna St. Vincent Millay Yearning is a concept that’s hard to pin down. At its core […]