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Nor is it “rent” for children. Even if your child does not want to see you, you are still responsible for supporting them financially.

01/20/2026

Stop outsourcing your peace!

Every expectation you place on someone else is a bet that they'll behave how you want. Most of those bets lose.

Not because people are bad. Because they're busy, distracted, and operating from their own priorities—not yours.

The people who seem most at peace figured this out early. They stopped keeping score on everyone around them. Not because they gave up on people. Because they realized the scoreboard was making them miserable and nobody else was even looking at it.

High expectations of others feels like having standards. Mostly it's just creating new ways to be let down.

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01/19/2026

• JOYful Reflection • The older I get the more I understand how damaging it is to be rigid. If I can give someone grace, understanding, or flexibility – I will. ~unknown

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Neuroscience shows that resilience is not simply a personality trait you are born with. It is supported by real neural networks in the brain that can strengthen over time. When you face stress, discomfort, or challenge and choose to persist rather than withdraw, you engage brain regions involved in emotional regulation, problem-solving, and stress recovery, particularly circuits linking the prefrontal cortex with the amygdala. Through neuroplasticity, repeated engagement of these pathways makes them more efficient, improving your ability to regulate emotions and adapt under pressure.

Resilience, therefore, is not fixed. It develops through experience and repeated coping efforts. Each time you navigate difficulty and recover, the brain becomes better prepared to handle future stress. This does not mean ignoring pain or forcing toughness, but gradually building capacity through action, reflection, and recovery. Over time, these experiences shape a nervous system that responds with greater stability, flexibility, and confidence when life becomes challenging.