Sage Psychotherapy Services

03/16/2026

Healing often involves giving yourself permission to cry. 
   
In Japanese culture, the practice of rui-katsu, or “tear-seeking,” has gained popularity as a therapeutic way to release pent-up emotions and alleviate stress in a society often characterized by high-pressure work environments and emotional restraint and suppression. 
    
Pioneered by figures like Hidefumi Yoshida, known as the “tear teacher,” and Hiroki Terai, rui-katsu involves intentional crying sessions—often in group settings, seminars, or even walking tours—where participants watch poignant films, read heartfelt letters, or engage in discussions to provoke tears, fostering emotional catharsis and a sense of refreshment. 
    
I “prescribe” this to my telehealth patients by integrating it with somatic practices like somatic practices or restorative yoga poses to ground them in the present moment and encourage emotional flow; vagal nerve stimulation techniques such as deep diaphragmatic breathing, humming, vagal nerve stimulation or cold water face immersion to activate the parasympathetic response; and other accessible methods including guided journaling prompts for grief processing, curated playlists of music, all tailored to help their body know that it’s safe to let go and begin to heal.   
                

03/14/2026

03/14/2026

We’re doing that

We’re changing how the generations after us view children and parenting. This evolution is crucial and should be celebrated. It’s not always easy but I do think it’s necessary. For the most part, society has evolved to see forced respect and “love” as not love at all, but coercive control. Still there is heightened tolerance for this perspective in the parenting realm. We see being responsible for someone else as having control over them. How can I be responsible for their well-being without having control over them? It’s a hard question… it shouldn’t be but it is because we’ve had so few examples of collaborative parenting... of connection over correction.

I have some exciting news… I’ve released a new Book!! I have taken the Connect Instead of Correct Challenge and turned it into a book. Why?! Because I basically explain how to connect instead of correct in most of the common scenarios that parents ask about.

Some topics covered
- Bedtime
- Getting ready in the morning
- Out in public (public dysregulation, material wants, impatience, incentives vs. rewards)
- Mealtimes
- Messes
- Aggression
- “Rude” behaviour
- Safety concerns

And so much more…

I also explain the “why” behind all this, including a lot of links to research and additional resources to support your learning. Even if you aren’t ready for the challenge, the book will help you understand this approach in a way I just can’t teach via IG.

Take the Connect Instead of Correct Challenge!

4 weeks to a more connected relationship with your child

Week 1: Try not to correct for a week

Week 2: Replace correction with connection

Week 3: Reflect on the times your were able to be more connected.

Week 4: “Yes Day” (child-led, yes day) and reflection.

For ages 1-12

Links below in comments



Note: It says this is AI and it is not. These are my words that I wrote

03/14/2026

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/18WRJAS6u2/ Cruel, accurate and effective.

03/12/2026

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Brain Scans Identify Three Distinct Types of ADHD, Opening Door to Personalized Treatment

For decades, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) has been diagnosed based on behavior. Now, a large brain imaging study suggests the condition may actually include multiple biologically distinct types.

Researchers analyzed MRI scans from over 1,150 children, mapping how different brain regions physically resemble each other in thickness and volume. Using an AI clustering system called HYDRA, they identified three “biotypes” of ADHD:
• Type 1: Widespread brain network changes, linked to the most severe symptoms and a higher likelihood of persistence into later life.
• Type 2: Localized changes in deep subcortical regions, associated with moderate symptoms.
• Type 3: Brain patterns closely resembling children without ADHD, with few structural differences.

The study also found links between these brain patterns, genetic risk factors, and neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin. Children in different groups responded differently to stimulant medications, suggesting brain-based subtypes could guide more personalized treatment in the future.

Source: Pan, N., et al. “Mapping ADHD Heterogeneity and Biotypes by Topological Deviations in Morphometric Similarity Networks.” JAMA Psychiatry, 2026.

03/12/2026

This is true with Grown Ups too

03/12/2026

Not every exit needs a speech, a long message, or one last attempt to make someone understand. Sometimes walking away quietly is the most honest response you can give. You are not responsible for teaching grown people the basics of respect, kindness, or honesty. Deep down, they already know when they lie, when they manipulate, and when their actions hurt someone who trusted them. Explaining it again and again only drains the part of you that kept hoping they would finally care.

Walking away without a word is not weakness—it’s clarity. It’s the moment you stop arguing with behavior that was never accidental in the first place. Silence becomes your boundary, your peace, your way of choosing yourself after too many chances were given. Some people understand exactly what they did; they just didn’t expect you to stop tolerating it. And sometimes the most powerful closure is simply deciding that your peace matters more than their explanation.

— Balt

03/12/2026

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03/12/2026

03/11/2026

This is true for Grown Ups too

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