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04/07/2026

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We often think change comes from big, dramatic moments, the day everything suddenly clicks, the breakthrough, the “new version” of us. But most of the time, change is much quieter than that. It’s in the small decisions we make when no one is watching. It’s choosing to pause instead of react, to rest instead of push, to try again even when it feels uncomfortable. Change doesn’t usually announce itself, it accumulates.

Sometimes, we don’t even notice we’re changing because it feels so slow. You might still have the same fears, the same doubts, the same habits creeping in. But look a little closer, you recover faster now, you understand yourself better, you question things you once accepted. That’s change. It’s not about becoming someone entirely new; it’s about becoming more aware, more intentional, more you.

And here’s the tricky part: change can feel uncomfortable, even when it’s good for us. Growth often asks us to let go of familiar patterns, even the ones that kept us safe. That’s why we sometimes resist it or slip back into old ways. Not because we’re failing, but because our minds are trying to protect us. Change isn’t a straight line, it’s messy, human, and full of back-and-forth.

So if you feel like you’re not changing fast enough, or not changing “right,” take a breath. You are. In the way you reflect, in the way you keep going, in the way you’re even reading this and thinking about it. Change isn’t about perfection, it’s about movement. And you’re already in it.🤗🤗

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03/07/2026

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Your feelings matter—every single one of them. Whether today feels heavy 😔, hopeful 🌈, or somewhere in between 😶, acknowledging it is an act of self-care. Every small check-in can make a difference.

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Example: “I’m feeling really frustrated right now and it’s making it hard for me to communicate. I just need a minute to reconnect with myself.”

If you’re sitting here going… “yeah but how do they know what they did was wrong?” They will understand, when they are mature enough. But before you collaborate with your child to find a solution, you need to check-in with yourself. When we take the time to check-in and connect with ourselves before we try to make sense of the situation, we’re more likely to respond, instead of react. What if my child is continuing to hit me or someone else? This is tough because both nervous systems are in sympathetic. You can meet both your needs with a co-regulation strategy that uses force. I like the “push me over game.” I put my palms up and brace myself and my child uses only their palms to try and push me over; highly effective nervous system reset. You can also try to push against a wall if another person is not available.

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