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01/14/2026

As-salamu alaykum,

Can we talk about something that's affecting too many Muslim marriages but no one discusses openly?

The intimacy struggle.

Cultural shame has made it impossible for couples to communicate about their needs. So they suffer in silence while their marriages drift apart.

Islam celebrates marital intimacy - the Prophet ﷺ spoke about it openly. But we've lost that healthy conversation.

Wednesday, Jan 28th at 8PM CST - Licensed therapist Mustafa Jabri is teaching “More than the Nikah: Growing Sexual Intimacy After 'I Do'"

✅ Gottman-based strategies for Muslim couples
✅ How to communicate needs without shame
✅ Islamic framework for marital connection

Registration: https://go.ihsancoaching.com/morethannikah

Please share with married couples who might benefit. This could save marriages, in sha Allah.

01/13/2026

It's time for an honest conversation.

Islam celebrates marital intimacy as a blessed part of marriage. The Sahabah asked direct questions. Classical scholars wrote detailed guidance.

Yet somehow, we've convinced ourselves that struggling in silence is more pious than seeking the connection Allah intended for spouses.

🌷 "More than the Nikah: Growing Sexual Intimacy After 'I Do'" 🌷

Wednesday, January 28th at 8:00 PM CST

Join Mustafa Jabri, LPC, for Gottman-based strategies specifically adapted for Muslim couples. Learn to overcome cultural shame, communicate your needs, and help each other embrace the intimacy that
strengthens your marriage.

$10 registration. Completely confidential.

Link in bio 🔗

Your marriage deserves more than silence and guesswork.

01/12/2026

Apparently, people still don't know this...

Sexual intimacy in marriage is halal. It's blessed. It's a form of worship.

Yet we've made it the most taboo topic in our community.

Mustafa Jabri has worked with hundreds of Muslim couples as a Licensed Professional Counselor. And he can tell you the number one thing destroying intimacy isn't lack of love.

It's cultural shame.

The shame that makes you feel awkward asking for what you need.

The shame that turns intimacy into guesswork instead of connection.

The shame that makes you suffer in silence while your marriage slowly drifts apart.

Here's what nobody told you:

The Prophet ﷺ spoke openly about marital intimacy. The Quran addresses it directly. Classical scholars discussed it in detail.

Islam didn't make it shameful. Your culture did.

And the difference matters.

Because when you can't talk about intimacy, you can't improve it. When you can't express needs, they go unmet. When you're guessing instead of communicating, someone's always disappointed.

This isn't about being "too Western" or losing your values.

This is about reclaiming what Islam actually teaches—that marital intimacy is sacred, beautiful, and worth nurturing with intention and skill.

That's why we're hosting "More than the Nikah" on January 28th at 8PM CST.

Not to make you uncomfortable. But to give you the Gottman-based communication tools and Islamic framework you need to help each other embrace and fully satisfy your sexual needs.

Because your marriage deserves more than silence and guesswork.

It deserves the connection Allah intended when He made this halal for you.

Registration closes January 28th. Link in bio.

In sha Allah, this is the conversation that changes everything.

01/08/2026

Honesty before marriage isn’t harsh—it’s mercy.

You don’t owe anyone a filtered version of yourself.

You don’t owe promises you can’t keep.

And you don’t owe someone a future you’re not living today.

Many marriages struggle not because people changed,

but because clarity was delayed.

Islam teaches us that honesty leads to righteousness— and righteousness leads to Jannah.

That work doesn’t start after the nikah.

It starts before it.

Don’t marry potential.

Marry clarity.

Marry truth.

Marry someone who knows who you are now—not who they hope you’ll become.

🤍 Save this for when the conversations feel uncomfortable.
🤍 Share it with someone preparing for marriage.
🤍 Choose honesty early—it’s a form of ihsan.

01/07/2026

"Love is the garden, but without the gardener's wisdom, even roses forget how to bloom."

💭 Every marriage has love at its foundation—but love alone isn't enough.

Without the right tools, even the most beautiful relationships can struggle to flourish.

The difference between surviving and thriving?

Learning to tend your garden together.

What tools is YOUR marriage waiting for? 👇

01/06/2026

Most Muslim couples don’t struggle because they lack love… they struggle because no one ever taught them this.

Your marriage doesn't need more "advice."

It needs actual tools.

For years, I watched couples come to counseling saying the same thing:

"We love each other, but we just can't make it work."

And here's what I realized.

Nobody taught them HOW.

We spend years learning Quran, fiqh, how to pray correctly.

But marriage? We're supposed to just... figure it out?

That's like being handed a car and told "drive" without ever learning how.

The Gottman Institute spent 40 years studying what actually works.

They watched thousands of couples.

Tracked their conversations.

Followed them for decades.

And they found 5 patterns that predict—with 90% accuracy—whether a marriage will thrive or barely survive.

The crazy part?

These same patterns are woven throughout Islamic teachings.

The Prophet ﷺ was doing "Gottman Method" 1,400 years before Gottman existed.

He knew Aisha's (RA) favorite foods.

He played with her.

He listened when she was upset.

He never mocked or belittled her.

This isn't "Western psychology."

This is what our deen has always taught—now backed by science.

So if your marriage feels hard right now?

You're not failing.

You just need the right tools.

And I promise you—these 5 habits will change everything.

Try just ONE this week.

Watch what happens.

Because your marriage isn't broken.

It's just waiting for you to learn what it needs.

Which habit resonated most with you?

Drop a number below 👇

01/06/2026

Stop waiting for perfection and start building something beautiful with what you have.

01/05/2026

Why do most divorces happen within the first three years of marriage? When the honeymoon phase fades, reality hits HARD.

Marriage isn't about finding the perfect person. It's about learning the art of patience and forgiveness with an imperfect one.

Your spouse needs time to adjust to you. Immediate change? Impossible! Yet we demand it, then wonder why walls go up. When we constantly judge each other's mistakes instead of forgiving, we create distance—your partner will hide their authentic self rather than risk your disapproval.

Remember the triangle principle: Allah at the top, husband and wife at the corners. The closer you both move toward Allah, the closer you become to each other. The further from Him, the further from each other.

Today's action: Next time your spouse makes a mistake, practice patience. Instead of immediate criticism, ask yourself: "Would I want
Allah to judge or forgive me this way?"

Marriage is a journey of growth, not perfection.

01/05/2026

Apparently, people still don't know this...

Sabr was never meant to be a cage.

I see it all the time in my practice.

Brilliant, faithful women who've been taught that patience means accepting everything.

That boundaries are "Western."

That speaking up means weak iman.

So they stay silent when they're hurting.

They endure when they should exit.

They call it sabr when it's actually self-abandonment.

And then they come to me, exhausted and confused, asking: "Why do I feel so empty when I'm doing everything right?"

Sister, you're not doing it wrong.

You were taught incomplete.

The same Prophet ﷺ who exemplified patience also made dua to be PROTECTED from trials.

The same Quran that commands sabr also tells the story of Musa (AS) setting clear boundaries with Khidr.

Real sabr isn't silent suffering.

It's trusting Allah WHILE protecting your peace.

It's enduring with dignity, not disappearing.

It's knowing that your voice, your needs, your emotional safety—these aren't luxuries.

They're part of your fitra.

Here's what changed everything for my clients:

Understanding that you can be patient AND have boundaries.

Grateful AND honest about your pain.

Trusting Allah AND using the wisdom He gave you to protect yourself.

These aren't contradictions.

They're how faith and wellness actually work together.

Because a Muslim woman who honors her emotional safety isn't less pious.

She's more whole.

And wholeness? That's what allows you to show up fully—for Allah, for your family, for yourself.

If you've been carrying the weight of "just be patient" for too long, this is your permission slip:

You can honor your faith without abandoning yourself.

What's one boundary you're learning to set? 👇🏽

12/31/2025

Feeling trapped by impossible choices?

Prophet Musa (AS) shows us the way forward isn't through panic, but through trust.

When we connect with Allah through sincere dua, even the most frightening situations become opportunities for miracles.

What fear are you facing today?

Remember, with tawakkul comes guidance that can part seas.

12/31/2025

TRAPPED BETWEEN DEATH AND THE SEA?

This is exactly where Prophet Musa (AS) stood—yet he remained fearless.

Your marriage problems, career anxiety, and parenting struggles might not be Pharaoh's army, but they feel just as threatening.

Why? Because we've disconnected from our greatest source of strength.

When fear paralyzes you, remember: Musa didn't panic when death approached from behind and the sea blocked his path forward. Instead, he declared with unwavering certainty: "My Lord is absolutely with me and He will guide me."

What was his secret?

Before confronting Pharaoh, Musa turned to Allah in dua: "Rabbi ishrah li sadri, wa yassir li amri" (My Lord, expand my chest and ease my task).

The path through your fears isn't avoidance—it's connection. When anxiety strikes, don't reach for distraction. Reach for dua.

Your action step: Next time fear grips you, pause and make the same dua as Musa. Then watch as Allah parts the seas of your impossibilities.

The miracle isn't that the sea split. The miracle is that Musa knew it would.

12/29/2025

Why is emotional connection in Muslim marriages so hard? Let's talk about it.

I see you, sister.

You married a good man. A provider. Someone who prays. Someone who tries.

But when you're overwhelmed and need him to just _hear_ you, he jumps to solutions.

When you're crying and need validation, he gets uncomfortable.

When you need appreciation for everything you do, he thinks "That's just what wives do."

And you start wondering: "Does he even care?"

Here's what I've learned working with hundreds of Muslim couples:

He cares. Deeply.

But caring and knowing _how to show it_ are two different things.

Most Muslim brothers grew up in homes where emotions were never discussed. Where fathers provided but rarely expressed. Where "I love you" was
shown through actions, never words.

So when you married him, you didn't just marry him. You married his conditioning.

And now? You're both frustrated.

You feel unseen. He feels like he's failing. And the distance grows.

But here's the truth that changed everything for the couples I work with:

You can't teach someone empathy by criticizing their lack of it.

You teach it by creating safety. By modeling it. By celebrating the tiny moments when he tries.

That awkward "Are you okay?" when you're upset? That's him trying.

That silence when you're venting? He's processing, not ignoring.

That practical solution when you wanted comfort? That's love in the only language he knows.

I'm not saying lower your standards.

I'm saying: adjust your approach.

Because the brothers who are willing to learn? Who are reading posts like this? Who are asking their wives "What do you need from me?"

They're the ones breaking cycles.

And that takes courage most people will never understand.

Your marriage can have the emotional depth you crave.

But it starts with understanding: He's not withholding empathy.

He's learning a language he was never taught.

And you? You might be his first teacher.

What's one thing you wish your spouse understood about your emotional needs? Let's talk about it below. 👇

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