ConnectEd Pairs

11/07/2025

“ The greatest marriages are built on teamwork. A mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration, and a never ending portion of love and grace”

Fawn Weaver

11/06/2025

Is marriage really 50/50? Maybe in a perfect world! However, we are not living in a problem free bubble. At times, one partner might have to pick up the slack and it turns to 60/40. Illness, injury, stressful situations or adding a new baby to the family are all some reasons this could occur. At times, one partner has to “carry” the other. Being there for each other in time of need is a crucial component of a healthy relationship. So, if you go into a marriage thinking it is always 50/50 you will find yourself mistaken!

11/05/2025

“A relationship cannot improve if you don’t provide your partner with a safe and open space to express their needs and concerns. If you continue to perceive your partner communicating as an attack, you are never going to get anywhere. Humble yourself and listen to their needs”
The Minds Journal

11/04/2025

In this article, Brene Brown explains the difference between shame and guilt.

I believe that there is a profound difference between shame and guilt. I believe that guilt is adaptive and helpful - it's holding something we've done or failed to do up against our values and feeling psychological discomfort.

11/03/2025

This article also includes a video clip if you would rather watch than read.

Defensiveness is the "horsemen" that escalates conflict. See why it hurts your relationship and how to approach your partner differently.

10/31/2025

Happy Halloween! Please give treats and not tricks to your loved ones! Have fun, stay safe!

10/30/2025

Have you ever seen Fiddler on the Roof? I don’t remember the words exactly, but in one song the husband asks his wife if she loves him. She finally gives him examples like washing his clothes and cooking his meals for the past 25 years. These are the love language Acts of Service. She feels that should show him she loves him. He didn’t recognize this as her love until she told him she did love him. This is why learning one another’s love language is important. You might show your love in the same way Golde( the wife in Fiddler) showed her husband. However your spouse might need Physical Touch and not be able to identify what you are doing as acts of love. You can go online and use The Five Love Languages to find the quiz. Take it and let each other know your love language. It could save your relationship.

10/29/2025

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own”
Robert A Heinlein

10/28/2025

How many of these ways do you use to bring out the best in your spouse?

Do you bring out the best in your spouse? While there is no perfect formula, spouses that bring out the best in each other do these 7 things.

10/27/2025

What stage is your relationship in currently?

A marriage is the most rewarding - and the most challenging - relationship of your life. Don't let this alarm you, but no matter how old you are, how smart you are, or how hip you are, your relationship to your spouse will parallel your relationship to your parents during…

10/24/2025

“If you fall in love with their soul before you touch their skin, it’s true love”
Unknown

10/23/2025

New love can be so intense. It can feel wonderful and exciting. That feeling can last for a few months. Then, the pheromones stop and reality sets in. You and your partner start to see each other a little differently. That’s why it is so important to take time in relationships. Get to know each other when you aren’t putting your best foot forward and aren’t trying to impress each other. Find out who you really are, then decide if you want to move on to the next step. Rushing into moving in together or getting married doesn’t usually end up well for either party. A relationship isn’t a race, it’s a slow journey.