02/19/2026
Chapter 1: Let Them
Takeaway Message:
You cannot control other people — their behavior, opinions, moods, or choices. Trying to do so often increases anxiety, resentment, and emotional exhaustion.
Key Points:
• When someone disappoints you, misunderstands you, or behaves poorly, say: “Let them.”
• Let people:
o Think what they think
o Feel what they feel
o Make their own choices
o Show you who they are
• Releasing control reduces:
o Rumination
o Hypervigilance
o People-pleasing patterns
o Emotional burnout
o Much anxiety and relational distress stems from over-functioning, managing others’ emotions, or trying to prevent discomfort. “Let them” interrupts that cycle and reduces cognitive load.
Chapter 2: Let Me
Takeaway Message:
Once you “let them,” you redirect your energy inward: “Let me.”
Key Points:
• Let me:
o Protect my peace
o Choose my response
o Set boundaries
o Act in alignment with my values
o Stop over-explaining
o Stop chasing validation
“Let me” shifts you from reactive to intentional.
Control is healthiest when focused inward — on choices, behaviors, and self-regulation. This reduces helplessness and builds autonomy.
SOOOOO
1. Let them (release what you cannot control).
2. Let me (choose how I want to show up).
FULL VERSION : https://ouo.io/z0ODtr
