Seed of Hope Counseling, LLC

11/22/2022

Relationship is the foundation of it all 💜

10/23/2020

A secure bond with your child is the key to healthy attachment and connection!

How do you know if you have a secure bond with your child?⁣
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I work with moms day in and day out who are looking for some kind of criteria and measure for how they are doing in their bond with baby or child. ⁣
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This can be really hard when baby is little and doesn’t have much language or reciprocal interaction is lacking because they are so young. ⁣
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Let me free you of some expectations you may be holding onto that you may think foster secure attachment but according to the research are not the special sauce:⁣
~ being present 24/7 ⁣
~ always getting it right⁣
~ being focused on every single need⁣
~ elevating child’s struggle/discomfort/big feelings all of the time ⁣
~ never losing it or perfectly managing your emotions⁣
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We need to shift our focus from the current way we measure our attachment and “success” in parenting and move towards measuring our bond by our attunement, ability to model repair, ability to regulate our own emotions in the face of a meltdown and so on. ⁣
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This motherhood gig is not about getting it right or doing it perfectly, it’s about fostering safety, security, and modelling repair as a part of healthy relationships. ⁣
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Keep showing up imperfectly perfect mama ❤️⁣

10/19/2020

Beautiful and wonderfully explained!

✨The concept of a window of tolerance (created by Dr. Dan Siegel) refers to how much we can handle - emotionally. When pushed outside this zone we can either blow up - like a tornado or shut down, and freeze like going into a cave.

✨When we’re feeling safe, calm and able to engage well in daily life we are likely in our optimal zone and inside this window of tolerance.

✨I’m sure it’s no surprise to you that when we’re feeling overwhelmed (especially over a long period of time) our window of tolerance gets smaller and smaller.

✨With all that’s going on in the world right now you might notice your window of tolerance isn’t as large as it used to be. It may feel like little fears get triggered much easier causing you to strike out, or you might want to check out—either way having an awareness of this can be helpful. Finding a way to give yourself compassion and space is important.

✨Some ways to get back inside of your window of tolerance can be:
- Deep breathing
- meditation
- singing
- listening to music
- laughing
- crying
- connecting with a loved one
- going for a walk
- sleep and rest














Here's the link to my little Etsy shop if you'd like to have a copy. I also included a coloring sheet. Thanks for all the great feedback!

https://www.etsy.com/shop/ColorfulTherapyTools

09/20/2020

09/14/2020

Who needs a SNACK? I know I could use one!

09/12/2020

Play is work!

09/11/2020

You can have ALLLL the feelings and still love your kids and be a great mom!

09/07/2020

Love this!

Sometimes a check list is the boost we need. Love this check list I saw online! It checks in with your physical, mental, social, and psyche. We are whole human beings and we have to take care of and check in with ALL parts of ourselves. Taking care of your whole self is true definition of “treat yo self” extended Sunday... Happy Labor Day!

08/18/2020

Some fantastic reminders when your child struggling!

08/06/2020

What does your anxiety impact your life?

Now accepting new client via Telehealth and in-person.

07/10/2020

It’s all about the connection! Let’s work together to have more good days, and fewer hard ones! ❤️❤️