01/11/2026
Excellent representation of the Anger Iceberg I share in my sessions. There’s always something underneath the surface. Be curious!
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Anger in children is often the part adults notice most, but it is rarely the real problem.
Shouting, hitting, slamming doors, or saying hurtful things are usually signs that something underneath feels too hard. Many children act out when they feel overwhelmed, worried, unsafe, unheard, embarrassed, or exhausted from trying to cope. Anger is often a signal, not bad behaviour.
When children are labelled as aggressive or difficult, the feelings driving that behaviour are easily missed. This can leave children feeling more misunderstood and less able to regulate their emotions. What helps most is not punishment, but curiosity, safety, and support.
Children need help to understand what their anger is trying to tell them. They need adults who can stay calm, name feelings, set clear boundaries, and teach safe ways to manage big emotions. With the right support, children can learn to recognise early signs of anger, ask for help, and use calming strategies before things escalate.
Anger does not mean something is wrong with a child. It usually means something is too much right now.
