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Claire Welton, PLPC, Therapist, St. Louis, MO (2025)

12/08/2025

12/06/2025

DAY 1.

11/26/2025

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The Neurochemistry of Trauma Bonds:

1. Oxytocin: The Bonding Hormone

Reflection questions:

Can you identify moments when you felt a deep connection even though the relationship felt unsafe?

How did your body respond during moments of closeness vs. moments of withdrawal?

How might your brain be clinging to brief positive moments?

2. Dopamine: The Pleasure and Reward Chemical

What types of “highs” do you notice in your relationship (compliments, affection, grand gestures)?

Can you spot patterns where these highs are followed by withdrawal or conflict?

How does anticipating affection affect your behavior or emotions?

3. Adrenaline: The Uncertainty Hormone

How often are you monitoring the other person’s mood or behavior?

Can you notice physical signs of stress (racing heart, tense muscles, restlessness) in these moments?

How does unpredictability affect your sense of safety?

4. Cortisol: The Stress Hormone

How do you feel immediately after conflict or emotional withdrawal?

What “relief” behaviors or messages keep you connected?

Can you distinguish the rush of relief from genuine safety or care?

5. The Trauma Bond: A Neurochemical Loops

Can you identify moments where you felt “hooked” despite knowing the relationship was unsafe?

How does understanding your brain chemistry change your perspective on these feelings?

What steps could you take to create safety for yourself, independent of the other person?

ACTION STEPS:

Track patterns in your emotions and physical responses to conflict, affection, and unpredictability.

Practice grounding or calming techniques when adrenaline or cortisol spikes.

Remind yourself that craving does not equal healthy attachment—your body is responding to chemistry, not true safety.

Identify people, environments, and routines that provide consistent emotional safety.

Partly Resourced From: Stephens Therapy Associates

11/19/2025

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