12/07/2025
Emotional avoidance is when you disconnect from your feelings instead of dealing with them because they feel too overwhelming, too painful, or too uncomfortable to face.
It can look like:
• Staying busy all the time so you don’t have to think
• Scrolling, eating, drinking, or working to numb
• Avoiding hard conversations
• Downplaying your own pain (“I’m fine, it’s not that deep”)
• Distracting yourself anytime emotions come up
• Feeling guilty for having feelings at all
• Choosing people who don’t require emotional vulnerability
• Checking out of your body- zoning out, dissociating, mentally tapping out
• Feeling something rise up but immediately pushing it down
At its core, emotional avoidance is a survival response.
It’s your mind saying, “We can’t handle this right now,” especially if you grew up in chaos, trauma, or around people who punished you for having emotions.
Avoidance doesn’t mean you’re weak.
It means you’ve been strong for too long and your body learned to protect you by shutting down.
Healing starts when you gently let yourself feel again- even if it’s messy, slow, uncomfortable, or feels like a brand new language.
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