02/19/2026
🖐️ Why Does Your Child Squeeze The Pencil Like It’s Trying To Escape?
Sometimes it’s not “bad handwriting” or “weak hands.” It’s a reflex that never got the memo to move on.
Palmar Reflex 101 (The Grasp Reflex) 👶
When you press a baby’s palm, their fingers automatically grab.
This reflex should fade by about 6 months.
If it sticks around, the hand can default to “grip first, control later.”
What A Retained Palmar Reflex Can Look Like
✏️ A super tight pencil grip
🖍️ Pressing hard when writing or coloring
✋ Trouble moving the fingers without the whole hand tensing
😤 Hand fatigue during homework or crafts
✂️ Awkward scissor skills (because the hand wants to hold on, not grade pressure)
Simple Things To Try (Easy Wins)
Squeeze and release a sponge in warm water (slow and controlled, not a death grip).
“Pick up, place, let go” games with small objects (pom-poms, coins, mini erasers).
High fives and gentle hand presses, then “open like a starfish.”
Short writing bursts, then a quick hand reset (shake out, stretch fingers).
Save this if you’re experiencing tight grips, tired hands, or messy fine motor skills that just won’t come together.