12/19/2025
I can sooo relate to the experience she is describing, as I have been in a similar awareness this year. Really catching myself and pausing to ask those questions before automatically sliding into savior mode. I’m learning to discern what’s mine to resolve and what’s not. Truly liberating!🤍✨
When serving in a leadership role, this awareness and shift within you can literally make the difference between fostering a healthy or toxic workplace culture.
I’ve been relearning a big lesson this year: there’s a huge difference between helping someone and rescuing them.
If they didn’t ask for support, it’s not help; it’s a rescue. And rescue mode, even with the best intentions, quietly puts the other person in the victim seat and puts me into over-functioning.
My ego and shadow still love to creep in and try to fix things before anyone even asks. But every time I pause and simply ask,
“Do you want feedback? Would you like help?”
it gives the other person their agency back and keeps me out of roles I don’t actually belong in.
It honestly took me a while to notice how often I’d step in automatically, thinking I was being supportive, when really I was rescuing.
The more I let people handle their own stuff, the more spacious and grounded my own life feels. It’s been a relief I didn’t know I needed.
What’s one thing you stopped carrying for someone else this year? Let me know in the comments below 👇🏻