03/09/2022
Dr Zeanah asked Heather Cleary, LPC for advice on talking to children about war. Her answers are pretty smart!
There is a lot in the news about the war between Russia and Ukraine. Have you noticed that your children are asking questions and may seem a little anxious about it? Here are some tips to help you talk to your child about this topic:
1. Find out what they know
Find a time when everyone is calm, and nothing is going on and see what your child knows about the war that is happening now. Ask them what they have heard and how they are feeling about it.
2. Check in
Some kids will be forthcoming with their feelings and concerns while others may keep their feelings bottled up because they are confused or donโt want to cause trouble. Donโt force them to talk about it but you can let them know that you are there to answer any questions they may have. Remind them that talking about our feelings makes things less scary.
3. Debunk
This is a time to reassure them and correct any misinformation they may have heard. Do not dismiss or minimize their concerns but help them to feel safe and secure. Make sure that when you talk to your child you are keeping calm and age appropriate. Facts can be scary and there is no reason to give too much graphic information that could potentially cause more anxiety for your child.
4. Focus on the positive
When discussing difficult or scary things, try to focus on those that are helping instead of what is going on. Focus on the positive such as how others are helping. If your child is having anxiety about what is going on, try to find out the specifics of what is scaring them so that you can help to calm those worries.
5. Limit their exposure
You canโt be with your child 24/7 but when you are with your children, limit their exposure to the news and media that is focusing on the negative part of what is happening. If you want to get updates, be sure that you are not viewing them where your kids can see it as well.