02/08/2026
February is International Boost Your Self-Esteem Month, making it a meaningful time to reflect on the role self-esteem plays in our lives. Self-esteem is not a fixed trait; it is a lifelong process that begins in childhood and continues to develop across the lifespan. Early experiences—such as feeling loved, valued, and securely attached to caregivers—can significantly influence a person’s sense of self-worth. Over time, additional factors contribute to self-esteem, including personal accomplishments, perceived skills and abilities, relationships, and even the media and social platforms we engage with.
As individuals move through different stages of life, changes in roles, careers, friendships, and family dynamics can either strengthen or challenge self-esteem. Much of this impact depends on how experiences are interpreted and internalized. Factors such as self-criticism, self-compassion, realistic expectations, and patterns of self-talk all play a critical role. Many people may not recognize that persistent negative internal dialogue—such as “I always mess things up” or “I’ll never be good enough”—can significantly undermine self-esteem.
However, by intentionally and consistently reframing thoughts, individuals can positively influence how they feel about themselves. For example, replacing self-critical thoughts with statements such as, “Next time, I will put more time and effort into this. I know I have the skills to succeed, and I can achieve this goal,” allows for growth while fostering confidence and motivation. This type of self-talk is constructive, encouraging, and aligned with personal development.
The accompanying graphic offers additional strategies to support healthy self-esteem and to help foster a more positive sense of self, both for ourselves and for those around us.
