11/29/2025
We often times get stuck in our own heads about how our ride should/will be. We plan what we want to do and achieve. This does not take into consideration what your partner is ready/ willing/ able to do. Our horses, just like us, have bad days and good days. I am not saying to abort riding, if your horse is having an off day. I am saying be flexible with your idea of what your ride should be, so you can pivot to meet where your horse is.
There are horses that can play you like a fiddle. They know you give in when they act a certain way. Equally, there are horses that know that if they don't submit, they get a bad experience. The idea is to build your riding/partnership on good experiences leaving the reprimands to be used on really poor behavior.
I have heard of some people using the "he must submit to me" type training. While that may be useful in some circumstances, it doesn't build trust or partnership. It develops a fear in the horse about its rider.
Willing submission from a horse to the rider establishes a trust. It comes from the horse feeling safe and heard. The horse knows that you are there to protect, direct, and work together with him/her. Having this willing submission will create a bond where a horse will go to the ends of the earth for you. The horse won't be over reactive to a scary situation because he/she looks to you for leadership.
Having a horse who willingly submits takes patience. Takes time to build that trust, that bond, that leadership role in you. It is the patience that most people don't have. They create timelines of objectives for shows or events that are inflexible.
You have to ask yourself what do you want out of your horse? What are you willing to give up if you push for the inflexible timeline.
From a body / energy worker point of view..... dysfunction comes from a horse who has to hold in fear and anticipation each time he/she is ridden. Meridians became clogged, energy doesn't flow. Fascia becomes tight and rigid creating inflexibility and tight muscles.
If we an address the reasons why their body is tight, and redirect that energy to something more productive for BOTH, your partner will relax, training becomes pleasurable, and dysfunction will begin to heal.
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