Doug O'Brien & Associates

Doug O'Brien & Associates Information about and training in Ericksonian approaches to Hypnosis and Psychotherapy.

03/06/2026

Today I tell a story about Stu Mittleman; The Utramarathon Professor
If you want to learn more about Stu;
https://alchetron.com/Stu-Mittleman
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03/04/2026

You probably won't achieve that big goal

There are levels to goal setting, from simple goals, stretch goals and extra-ordinary goals.
If you become too fixated on the extra-ordinary and forget about the simpler ones, you probably won't achieve it.
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02/27/2026

You don't need more Willpower, you need better systems for sustainable change
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Most coaching fails at the level of explanation.Advice is cheap. You explain clearly.They nod.They understand.And then… ...
02/23/2026

Most coaching fails at the level of explanation.

Advice is cheap.

You explain clearly.
They nod.
They understand.

And then… nothing changes.

Over the years I’ve come to believe that storytelling is not a performance skill.

Story is expensive.

It’s a transformation skill.

We learn from experience. Everyone agrees on that.

We learn from heartbreak, from falling down, from risk, from embarrassment.

Story is the next best thing to experience.

When you tell a good story, the listener doesn’t just hear it. They live it.

Their mind supplies the images, the sensations, the parallels. The meaning emerges internally.

That’s very different from advice.

Advice can be resisted.

Advice can be argued with.

Advice can be politely ignored.

But a well-crafted metaphor slips past the conscious critic.

If you coach, practice NLP, hypnosis, or therapeutic conversation, this will deepen your craft.

You can watch here:
https://lnkd.in/dmYJhkGQ

And if you want to practice building therapeutic stories yourself, we’re running a six-week storytelling class inside the membership.

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02/23/2026

The connecting power of stories
We may share a story but we'll experience the effect of the story differently.
Heavily influenced by our lived experience, we interpret stories different from each other and that's the power.

Become an expert storyteller by reading my book on storytelling;
https://www.essentialcoachingskills.com/users-guide-to-storytelling

02/20/2026

Advise is Cheap, Metaphors (stories) are impactful

The great thing about metaphors and stories is that the recipient derives meaning from within in introspective.

Giving direct advise, (like I am right now) doesn't land quite the same.

Buy my book and learn how to become a great storyteller;
https://www.essentialcoachingskills.com/users-guide-to-storytelling

02/18/2026

Willpower is not enough..
In this episode, I explored other ways we can reach our goals without relying entirely on willpower.
https://youtu.be/HjnYX_88yhI

02/16/2026

Let the Inner Child Out

We all have three levels to ourselves, the Basic inner child, the self-conscious and the higher self.
The two upper parts tend to suppress the inner child in a bid to improve ourselves but every so often, that inner child will throw a tantrum after being ignored.

I’m excited to share a new class style with you.Usually, when I teach storytelling it's focused on the kind of style you...
02/13/2026

I’m excited to share a new class style with you.

Usually, when I teach storytelling it's focused on the kind of style you can give to a crowd while on stage, MOTH story-slam style.

Or, I’m teaching the Neo-Ericksonian embedded metaphor style stories inside my hypnosis class.

And a lot of students specifically say they want to get better at Ericksonian-style stories…

They want more practice…

More feedback…

Got it.

So, next Tuesday, I’ll be starting an Ericksonian-style storytelling class for 6 weeks.

This is not about entertainment (even though it is entertaining).

Stories can help your clients understand something without needing to analyze it.

They can help people change where traditional coaching hits resistance.

The stories we’ll be creating and refining are great because they gently bypass resistance and speak directly to the unconscious mind.

You’ll start from your client’s problem:

What are they struggling with?
Where are they stuck?
What kind of change needs to happen?

And from there, you’ll learn how to design a story that naturally points toward a solution — without telling the client what to think or do.

With Ericksonian storytelling, the story must be close enough to the client’s experience to feel relevant… and far enough to feel safe.

You’ll learn how to craft stories that land and open other-than-conscious solutions.

Stories that allow the client to understand, consciously and unconsciously, how they can relate differently to their problem.

If you use hypnosis, coaching, or therapeutic conversation — and you want your words to do more than explain — this class will give you a structure you can rely on.

Each week you’ll:

– write your story

– tell it out loud

– receive feedback

– simplify, refine, and re-tell it

By the end of the six weeks, you’ll have:

– a clear structure you can reuse

– a finished 5-minute story

– and the experience of delivering an Ericksonian-style therapeutic metaphor store with confidence

This class does not cover inductions, ratification, or trance deepening. Those are part of the hypnosis trainings (which you can access inside the membership).

The class starts on Tuesday, February 17th, inside the Essential Coaching Skills Membership..

One session a week, five weeks.

Come learn how to let stories do the work.

In the past, I’ve charged $997 for classes like this.

But not today…

You can join us for just $317 monthly and stay as long as you like.

Here’s the link to sign up and see everything else you get inside the membership:

https://www.essentialcoachingskills.com/membership-aug2025

See you in class,

Doug

Doug O'Brien's Essential Coaching Skills Membership with LIVE classes in NLP, Sleight of Mouth and Neo-Ericksonian Hypnosis.

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Stone Ridge, NY
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