Alli Spotts-De Lazzer, LMFT, CEDS

02/22/2026

Super grateful self-care Sunday! Thank you to Debbie Allen for your thoughtfulness, generosity, and Dancing in the Light! Antonio Hudnell, appreciate how talented and encouraging you are! Tamara, you always make my heart happy. Roquis, so fun!!!! 🙏

02/19/2026

I came across these rhyming words: relief & grief.
And wow… what a pairing.

When you cut a challenging personality out of your life, it’s completely normal to feel both.

Relief — because your nervous system can finally rest.
Grief — because something ended. Even if it needed to. And even if a part of you misses them.

Two emotions. Same situation.

We can hold gratitude and sadness.
Freedom and loss.
Peace and pain.

If it feels confusing or uncomfortable, that doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It means you’re processing something real.

It can seem confusing, but we can feel seemingly opposite feelings at the same time. 🤍

02/16/2026

Here’s a simple mental health tip that can seem too small to matter:
Take a long exhale.

Seriously.
A slow, extended exhale can help calm your nervous system and create a little space between your anxious body andracing thoughts. 🧠➡️🫁

And don’t stress about the inhale—your body’s got that covered. It will come automatically.

Try it again.
Long exhale.
Let your shoulders drop. ✨

Small tool. Big impact.

02/13/2026

Hot take: Discomfort isn’t the enemy.
Sometimes—OFTEN—it’s the signal that growth is happening.

Trying something new can feel awkward, scary, or unsettling—physically, mentally, emotionally. And that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. It often means you’re stretching beyond what’s familiar.

Staying comfortable keeps things the same.
Stepping into discomfort—or simply letting yourself sit in discomfort that unexpectedly greeted you—opens the door to change.

Don’t equate discomfort with something that’s bad—it’s often a messenger there to teach you growth. 🌱

02/11/2026

Early in my work as a therapist, I rushed to help people change their thoughts.
It’s a common instinct and approach in therapy. And when thoughts are causing undue distress, it makes sense, right? 🧠✨

Over time, I learned something important: Real change doesn’t necessarily start with forcing different thoughts.

It often starts with acceptance: understanding why thoughts formed, what they protected, and how they once served you.🤍

Those thoughts didn’t appear out of nowhere.
They came from experience, survival, and make meaning 🪞

When we slow down and get curious, we create space for change that actually lasts—especially for the thoughts that no longer help us 🌱

Acceptance first.
Curiosity next.
Change follows. ✨

02/10/2026

Sometimes you genuinely can’t pull yourself together to do the thing.
And that doesn’t mean you’re lazy, broken, or failing. 💛

It might mean you’re feeling overwhelmed.
It might mean your nervous system wants/needs a pause.
It might mean today just isn’t the day.

Be kind to yourself in those moments.
You don’t need to shame yourself into motion.

You will get there—in your own time.

02/04/2026

Becoming a licensed therapist isn’t a weekend course or a vibe-based title.
It’s years of graduate school, thousands of supervised clinical hours, rigorous state exams, and ongoing regulation and education.

Most people never see what happens behind the scenes: the training, the supervision, the ethical standards, the accountability.

So if someone is licensed, know this—
that license represents time, sacrifice, oversight, and responsibility.

It’s a complicated, demanding path for a reason. Licenses are for public safety. (end there.) And yes, after one is awarded, the learning and growing don’t stop there. 🧠💛

(And yes—learning never actually stops.)

02/04/2026

Not every reset happens on a Sunday.
Sometimes it’s a random Wednesday where your nervous system finally exhales. 😌

And that reset doesn’t need to be complicated or expensive, it can be something simple.

Like rest.
Self-care.
Or just wearing something that makes you smile.

This sweatshirt says “I’m the original” for a reason—and it came from “Shake It for Self-Acceptance”, a movement I founded that is all about getting people moving in their bodies, celebrating their body, and reconnecting with joy exactly as they are. No fixing. Just being and belonging.

Sometimes it’s exhaling—getting rid of energy stored within.
Sometimes it looks like doing absolutely nothing.
Both count.

02/02/2026

Welcome to my office!

02/02/2026

01/27/2026

Being kind takes intention. Acting rudely often doesn’t.
Choosing goodness means pausing, regulating, caring—even when it’s uncomfortable. It means reflecting instead of reacting, and considering impact instead of just impulse. 🧠✨

And yes… that is HARD to do.

Being a good person asks us to show up with empathy, accountability, and curiosity—especially when no one is watching. That effort shapes our relationships, our communities, and ultimately, who we continue to become. It also matters to how people see us. 🌱

Something being challenging isn’t a reason not to choose it. Sometimes it’s the reason to choose it.