02/17/2026
Maybe I should write a book... If I did, Here's CHAPTER ONE.
When Your Energy Says No, the Universe Listens: Understanding Spiritual Extinction Bursts & Reclaiming Your Sovereignty
There is something that happens when you finally say NO.
Not the surface-level no.
Not the hesitant no.
It is the kind of no that comes from your soul. The kind that closes a door completely.
Spiritually, when you set a true boundary, your energy recalibrates. You stop unconsciously feeding patterns, people, and dynamics that once had access to you. The energy you were giving outward begins returning home.
And when that happens, things can get... strange. Let me tell you how:
People may suddenly reappear.
You may hear from someone out of nowhere.
They may act unusually nice, unusually intense, or unusually present.
You may notice them watching your stories, entering your space indirectly, or crossing your mind more often.
This is not random. This is what is known as a spiritual extinction burst.
✨ 1. What is a spiritual extinction burst?
A spiritual extinction burst is when someone or something that once had energetic access to you temporarily intensifies its presence when that access is removed.
It is not growing stronger. It is losing its ANCHOR.
Energetically, patterns survive through attention, emotional engagement, and energetic openness. When you withdraw your energy, the pattern can no longer sustain itself in the same way.
Before it dissolves, it may attempt to re-establish the connection one last time.
This can show up as:
• Unexpected messages
• Sudden attention
• Emotional intensity
• Coincidences involving them
• Or simply a strong energetic presence in your awareness
This is the echo of what used to exist.
✨ 2. Why this happens when you set boundaries
When you say no and mean it, you shift your entire energetic field. You are no longer available in the way you once were.
Your nervous system stops agreeing to the old dynamic. Your aura becomes more defined. Your energy stops flowing toward what was draining or misaligned.
Anything that was connected to the previous version of you will feel that shift.
Not because they consciously know.
But because energy always recognizes when access has changed.
✨ 3. This is not punishment. This is confirmation.
Many people think something is wrong when this phase happens. In truth, this phase often appears because something is finally right.
It means your boundary is real.
It means your energy is no longer unconsciously consenting.
It means your spirit has chosen itself.
The extinction burst is not a sign to reopen the door. It is a sign the door is closing. So keep going as it is showing you that you are, in fact, on the right path.
✨ 4. Your non-reaction is what completes the process.
The most powerful thing you can do is remain grounded.
No over-explaining.
No defending your peace.
No abandoning yourself to make others comfortable.
When you do not feed the pattern, it cannot sustain itself. Its kind of like the 'Grey Rock Method' but from the spiritual point of view
And what cannot sustain itself… dissolves.
Not everything that intensifies is meant to stay. Some things intensify because they are leaving. It is ok to let it.
✨ 5. You are not losing alignment. You are restoring it.
You are not becoming cold. You are becoming clear. You are not losing connection. You are losing what was never meant to remain permanently connected.
You are reclaiming your energy.
You are returning to yourself.
And what is truly aligned with you will never require you to abandon your boundary to keep it.
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🌑 6. Ritual: Closing the Door & Calling Your Energy Back
This ritual helps seal your boundary, calm the extinction burst phase, and fully restore your energetic sovereignty.
You will need:
• One black candle (for closure and protection)
• One white candle (for restoration and reclaiming your energy)
• A small bowl of salt
• A small bowl of water
Optional: obsidian, black tourmaline, or clear quartz
✨️ Step 1: Prepare your space
Sit comfortably. Place the black candle on your left and the white candle on your right. Place the salt and water nearby.
Take a slow breath.
Say:
“I call my energy fully back to myself.
I release all access that no longer serves my highest good.”
✨️Step 2: Light the black candle (Closure)
As you light the black candle, say:
“I close all doors that do not honor my peace.
What no longer belongs to me is released.”
Visualize cords dissolving. No force. Just release.
✨️Step 3: Light the white candle (Reclamation)
As you light the white candle, say:
“My energy returns to me cleansed, whole, and sovereign.
I belong fully to myself.”
Visualize your energy returning to your body like warm, gentle light.
✨️Step 4: Seal with salt and water
Touch the salt gently. Then touch the water. Then touch your heart or forehead.
Say:
“My boundary is sacred.
My energy is my own.
And it is done.”
✨️Step 5: Sit in stillness
Sit for a few moments. Breathe. Allow your nervous system and energy field to settle.
You may let the candles burn safely for 10–20 minutes, or longer if you feel called.
✨ 7. What happens after
You may notice:
• A sense of calm
• Emotional neutrality
• Less intrusive thoughts
• People naturally fading away
• Or a deep sense of peace returning
This is your energy stabilizing.
This is your sovereignty restoring itself.
This is what happens when your spirit chooses itself fully.
And once your energy truly comes home…
Nothing that is not meant for you can hold onto you anymore.
So prepare yourself for Spiring when the Queen of Sovereignty comes home. Evolve yourself from a state of victim to one of power. Minus the ego. Please and thank you.
And yes I did post this at a time that attracts spiritual alignment. 🥰 Love you!
