01/18/2026
Mom — you’re not crazy.
If your baby feels harder than everyone said it would be, you’re not imagining it.
You’ll hear things like:
“Some babies are just fussy.”
“That’s just how they are.”
“You were like that as a baby too.”
“It’s ‘just’ colic”
And there is some truth there.
Babies are babies.
There’s no such thing as a perfect baby — or a “good” baby.
All babies are good.
They cry.
They struggle.
They’re learning how to exist in a brand-new world.
But sometimes, in trying to normalize motherhood, we normalize things that are common — not normal.
Because there can be invisible layers of tension or nervous system stress that make everything feel harder than it has to be.
There’s a point where it’s more than “just a baby being a baby.”
When your baby is:
• constantly fussy
• hard to settle
• going from zero to one hundred instantly
Sometimes it even shows up as what looks like strength.
I remember my son holding his head up just days after birth.
Arching constantly.
Rolling early.
Everyone said, “He’s so strong.”
But what I later learned is this:
Early strength isn’t always strength.
Sometimes it’s tension.
That the thing that made him “strong” was the same thing that causing him constant discomfort and suffering, resulting in constant fussiness.
When milestones happen from rigidity instead of coordination, it’s often a nervous system that hasn’t fully settled yet.
That doesn’t mean something is wrong with your baby.
And it definitely doesn’t mean you did anything wrong.
It simply means their body may need a little extra support as it adapts to the world.
My heart in sharing this is not to create fear —
but to offer clarity, compassion, and hope.
Because when we understand what’s happening beneath the surface, there are gentle ways to help.
You’re not behind.
You’re not missing your window.
And you don’t have to figure this out alone 🤍
If this resonates, I’m always happy to talk — even if it’s just to help you understand what you’re seeing.
