Goodfield Instituut Nederland

10/28/2025

Early Christmas shopping? Maybe an idea to buy my books! I wrote serious and funny books. Take a look.

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10/26/2025

What's important

I've been alive for a long time; I just celebrated by 84th birthday, and it's time to reflect and draw a few conclusions about what is truly important in life.

Wanting to involve myself in plenitude, which is classic to reflections on life, is not very difficult. It returns to the tried-and-true reflection on what makes life worthwhile and worth living.

At the top of my list, and I'm sure many of yours, is family. They are the ones who shape our values, guide our direction, and support us as we navigate life's challenges.
The foundation of values comes from family. That is not to say, of course, that we cannot exist without that foundation, but it certainly does support us as we move forward, shape our relationships and values, and guide our direction in life.

Courage: this is the ability to stand firm and clear in the face of adversity and challenges to our fundamental beliefs in ourselves and our basic values.
As a psychotherapist, I have seen heroes of all sizes and shapes across four continents. Be it a child struggling with oppression or a young man or woman showing the courage to say no when their world insists on saying yes when no was the correct answer!

Believe me when I say, there is a 'hero' in each and every one of us. It's not a matter of if, but when, we will rise to the occasion and show our courage.
If you doubt that, I wish you had been with me and witnessed some of the people who, in their moment of crisis, shared their stories about their parents, relatives, partners, children, and so on. Important adults, people in power, stood tall and stood up for themselves, their views, and their values! There were times when I finished a client session, wiping tears from my eyes, deeply touched by the words and their courage, which came directly from their hearts, revealing the actual ability people have to press on and be the people they are.

Let us never forget the magic of what we see, the potential, and the strength that lies within us. Prepare yourself for the day when you fully embrace this person, and never let anyone tell you differently!
Listen to the sound of your heartbeat and open yourself to the wisdom of what you know is right. Hear me, have hope and faith in yourself, and know that you are not alone. There is at least one person in this world who believes in you!

Yes, we all have our flaws and make mistakes, but that's what makes us unique and wonderful. Embrace your imperfections, learn from your mistakes, and open your heart and mind to the beautiful gift that is you. Let it go, hear it, and then let it out. It is you; you are the gift of God.

Now, if you don't like what you see, hear, or feel, make the changes. It is a decision NOW! I've seen people all over the world find their path. Ask yourself, why not me? I leave you with my favorite four-letter word-DOIT! This word encapsulates the power of action, the courage to change, and the belief in oneself. It's a reminder that you can shape your own life.

I'm Dr. Barry Austin Goodfield, and I believe in you!

10/26/2025

MY BASIC BELIEFS ABOUT LIFE �


1) GOD - Gives us a special purpose

2) SELF - Gives us our definitions

3) FAMILY - Gives us our basic values

4) COUNTRY - Gives us our foundation

5) COURAGE – Gives us direction & focus

6) TRUST – Gives us love and a foundation

7) SEXUALITY – Gives us meaning in contact

8) TIME – Gives us hope and opportunity

9) LOVE – Gives us a chance to really be ourselves

10) HONOR – Gives us a foundation for all above

Dr. Barry A. Goodfield October 26, 2025

09/15/2025

As a seasoned psychologist and psychotherapist with nearly fifty years of practice across three continents, I find myself reflecting on the tragic killings of Charlie Kirk.
I have a few thoughts about what has happened and what thoughts it brings up in me.

There's a part of me that, in the face of such deranged violence, feels a surge of anger and a desire for retribution. But there's another part of me that recognizes the futility of such impulses.

Through my years of practice, I have come to understand that violence is often a communication of a lack of communication. It's crucial to acknowledge our own violent impulses, but it's equally important to realize that acting on them would only perpetuate the cycle of violence. This is where self-awareness plays a pivotal role in preventing violence.

It stops when we address these realities within ourselves.
It's a challenging task, but it's the most valuable lesson we can learn from the tragic loss of Charlie Kirk.

We need to ask ourselves, 'What can I do?' I hope to cultivate empathy and understanding, even towards those who may seem shockingly different from us.

The fact is, it would simply be violence against another's violence. True as this is, what can we learn from this tragic event? That's a tricky question. Those who know me know that there's not one.

08/30/2025

https://youtu.be/R6xbXOp7wDA?si=MVncCE_wiojzZ0h2

This podcast is worth your time to watch. Good research and a lot of information about dopamine, addiction to food, alcohol, but also to your phone, etc.

The only thing I was missing was the unconscious decisions we all took. And the unconscious messages we received from our parents, great parents, etc.. This message is passed down from generation to generation until we ourselves stop it, if we understand why. The Goodfield Method is a great way to work to discover the unconscious messages.

Dr Anna Lembke is Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. She i...

08/11/2025

How can we find peace, love, and tranquility?

Here are a few profound insights from a seasoned psychologist, whose wisdom has been honed over nearly fifty years of experience and working across three continents.

Throughout my extensive career, I've encountered the following question that has echoed for decades—a shared experience that many of us can relate to.

Why is it so difficult for people, usually others, to understand what I mean and react correctly to what I say?

In most cases, when people face a conflict or misunderstanding, they tend to blame others rather than examining their role in the situation. For instance, in a disagreement with a partner, it's common to think, 'They never listen to me,' rather than considering our own communication style.
This is what I mean by 'the finger pointing away from themselves'. Unless it's one finger, usually the middle one, pointing away from themselves and towards another who has a contrary opinion of what they think is correct.

Of course, this is normal as we don't readily want to see ourselves as the primary cause of uproar in our own lives. Nonetheless, self-awareness and reflection are not necessarily the first things we reach for when our needs and desires fail to materialize.

As a collective, we naturally strive for goodwill and better outcomes, a hopeful sign that change is not only possible but within our reach.

06/12/2025

Wat kan moet.
Wat niet kan moet je niet willen.

Ref.: Wim de Leeuw, senior Goodfield Therapist

06/07/2025

Choice at chance

We all ultimately have CHOICES, but, many of us do not recognize that fact! We therefore, suffer the consequences of that failure to recognize that reality.

We are “blind” to truth of our own perceptions. That is why people need and come to psychotherapy. We offer a chance to remove the blinders put on by year’s of denial and repression of the truth we don’t want to see.

The Goodfield Method™Effective coaching, profiling, and training Dr. Freud was right when he said the unconscious can be seen, and Dr. Goodfield proved it! Learn more “Dr. Goodfield has made a science of observing...fleeting Non-Verbal Leaks that can be captured only by a fast lens or carefully ...

06/07/2025

The goal is not to live forever but to create something that will. The Goodfield Method™ successfully address that objective.

05/30/2025

Thought per word ratio is down and their volume is up. Those are avoidable people, May 30, 2025 Barry A. Goodfield

04/03/2025

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5retyzM5YYI

Why is it (sometimes) difficult to set boundaries?Barry A. Goodfield talks about this subject and gives you some ideas to look at it differently.Dr. Goodfiel...

04/01/2025

The Invisible Saber-Toothed Tiger
The Attorney and Stress, Their Lives and Their Loves

As a therapist and profiler, I've had the privilege of working with members of the legal profession for many years. My work often involves understanding and analyzing human behavior, which has been invaluable in my role as a consultant to law firms in Europe and America.

Nearly 50 years ago, I was a keynote speaker at the Canadian Bar Association and wrote articles entitled "Is it possible to be a lawyer and still be human?" and "Loving the Law."

My experience working with lawyers has been a journey of reflection and learning. I've had the privilege of engaging with some of the most remarkable individuals I've ever met.

As I reflect on a lifetime of working with people from all walks of life, I find myself drawn to the unique qualities of lawyers. What is it that makes them so remarkable and noteworthy?

Lawyers' lives and loves involve navigating intense situations, utilizing their intellect, and maintaining a fierce commitment to uncovering the hidden truth that underlies many conflicts. These challenges, both professional and personal, are not unique to lawyers. They are part of the human experience, making lawyers' journeys relatable to all of us.

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