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Kristi Conner Counseling

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Kristi Conner Counseling

I help people move from survival mode to self trust and emotional safety.

I am client-centered and begin with the individual in the context of their experience, while also applying a range of holistic and therapeutic tools.

11/03/2025

Every human needs attunement, responsiveness, care, consistency.

When that’s missing, our body asks louder.

That’s not a weakness. That’s biology.

What if being “needy” was simply your body trying to heal?

10/30/2025

You don’t have to be in a relationship to see your attachment patterns, they show up everywhere.

💭 In how you text back.
💭 How quickly you apologize.
💭 How you handle silence or distance.

Attachment isn’t about labels, it’s about safety.

When safety feels uncertain, our nervous system steps in to protect us.
Awareness is the first step toward change.

✨ New on the blog: “What Attachment Really Means: How Emotional Bonds Shape Our Safety.”

10/23/2025

Attachment 101: How We Learned Connection Heals

What if our need for connection wasn’t emotional weakness — but biology doing its job?

In the 1950s, psychiatrist John Bowlby and psychologist Mary Ainsworth forever changed how we understand human relationships.
Bowlby noticed that children separated from caregivers experienced deep distress — not because they were “spoiled” or “too attached,” but because connection is how we survive.

Ainsworth proved it. Her research showed that the way a child reunites after separation reveals their attachment style — secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized.
From orphanages and war recovery centers to modern neuroscience, every field since has confirmed one truth:

👉 We are wired for safety through relationship.

Today, attachment theory continues to evolve — woven into trauma therapy, somatic work, and nervous system science.
It’s no longer just about childhood — it’s about the ways we learn, unlearn, and heal through connection across a lifetime.

✨ Read this week’s blog — “What Attachment Really Means: How Emotional Bonds Shape Our Safety” (link in bio).

10/20/2025

Attachment isn’t a weakness; it’s a biological necessity.

From our first breath, we learn safety through connection, through the gaze, tone, and presence of those who cared for us.

When those early cues were inconsistent or unsafe, our nervous system adapted.

Healing begins when we start to relearn safety, both within ourselves and with others.

✨ Reflect: When do you feel most safe with others?

10/17/2025

You don’t have to rush your healing.
Attachment repair is built through consistent moments of safety — not perfection.
Every time you pause, breathe, or choose kindness toward yourself, your nervous system learns a new story: I am safe enough to slow down. 🌿

10/16/2025

Save this for when you need a moment of calm.

10/13/2025

From our earliest moments, our nervous system is learning what to expect from the world around us.

When caregivers respond with consistency and warmth, we learn that connection is safe.
When those responses are unpredictable or absent, the body learns to prepare for threat, even long after the danger is gone.

Attachment work is about helping the body and mind relearn what safety feels like.

08/14/2025

You’re not “too much” for needing connection.
That longing is your nervous system asking for safety.
Let it be met.

08/12/2025

Attachment describes the bonds we form with the people we depend on for safety and care.
Secure attachment is a blueprint => it shows us the world can be trusted, our needs matter, and we can explore without fear.
When that blueprint is missing or inconsistent, we may hide our needs, cling for safety, or expect rejection.
The good news is attachment patterns are adaptable. With consistent emotional safety, we can rewrite the blueprint at any stage of life."

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Tacoma, WA
98403

Opening Hours

Monday	9am - 4pm
Tuesday	9am - 4pm
Wednesday	10am - 3pm
Thursday	9am - 5pm
Friday	9am - 4pm

Telephone

+12533451862

Website

http://www.kristiconnercounseling.com/contact

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