Trauma Healing with Sharon Ann, Tampa, FL (2026)

11/21/2025

“In an enmeshed family, love is confused with control, silence is mistaken for loyalty, and the truth-teller becomes the threat.”

Ever notice how loyalty becomes the unspoken currency in an enmeshed family? The rule is simple: don’t disrupt the image—even if the image is built on denial. Growing up in systems like this, the child who sees the truth becomes the one forced to swallow it. Their voice gets muted, their intuition questioned, and their emotional needs dismissed in the name of keeping the peace. As adults, this becomes a silent battle: trusting their own perceptions, believing in their worth, and feeling safe enough to form healthy connections. Proverbs 4:23—“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”—hits deep for me because I was never taught to guard my heart… I was taught to guard the family image. John 8:32—“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free”—became the verse that helped me reclaim my voice after years of being told my truth was too loud, too much, or too inconvenient.

Enmeshed families create adults who second-guess themselves even when their instincts are right, who apologize just for existing, and who learn to anticipate rejection before safety. Healing means rewriting the rules we were raised on, choosing boundaries instead of guilt, and giving ourselves permission to speak even when our voice shakes. For me, letting truth lead—not fear—has been the doorway to real freedom, healthier relationships, and the courage to be fully seen. So let me ask you this: What’s one belief you were raised with that you’re no longer willing to carry into your future?

11/17/2025

Seasonal depression has a funny way of sneaking up on us—kind of like Garfield’s Monday meltdowns. That grumpy orange cat hates Mondays the way many of us secretly dread the colder, darker months, and honestly… I relate. So today, after six months of not recording a single webinar on recovery topics like anxiety, depression, PTSD, or dissociation, I decided to channel my inner Garfield and drag myself into the office early—yes, the old cigar factory turned workspace—and record anyway. My voice was shaky and scratchy, the lighting in the soundproof room was absolutely terrible (why didn’t I bring a ring light?!), and my nerves were doing their own interpretive dance. But instead of deleting it, I chose to lean into the messy, imperfect process because when something is fresh and new, you don’t erase the effort—you learn from it and grow stronger each time. So tell me… what’s one thing you’re willing to try—even imperfectly—this season to support your mental health?

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11/11/2025

Sometimes, no matter how structured we are, life has a way of rewriting our carefully planned agenda. For those of us who thrive on routine, the slightest disruption can trigger a wave of anxiety. This past Monday afternoon, after a two-hour morning appointment, I found myself with a last-minute cancellation from one of my trauma coaching clients—a woman who attended support groups from a nonprofit I ran for ten years before I started Metamorphosis Counseling & Wellness Center. She’s one of my most challenging clients, diagnosed with dissociative identities, and in many ways, she reminds me of myself at the start of my own recovery journey—scared, guarded, and unsure who to trust. She canceled because she wanted to “try” doing the week on her own—relying on journaling, prayer, and church. My first thought was that she’d relapse, that a crisis would follow, and by Wednesday she’d be calling me to schedule an emergency session. But I had to remind myself—it wasn’t my decision to make. Her healing journey is her own. As trauma coaches and mental health professionals, how often do we want to rescue our clients instead of allowing them the space to grow? Romans 7:7 reminds us that “I would not have known what sin was had it not been for the law”—a powerful truth that mirrors therapy itself. Sometimes, our clients must face discomfort to recognize their patterns and find freedom.

Her cancellation became an unexpected blessing. Instead of dwelling on the change, I chose self-care—spending those two free hours at the YMCA, trying my hand at line dancing, followed by a grounding yoga session before returning to the office for a podcast interview and a new client session. What began as frustration turned into refreshment. When’s the last time your plans changed unexpectedly—and instead of being angry or anxious, you paused long enough to see the good in it?

11/08/2025

Calm down.” “Don’t worry.” “It’s not that bad.” — words often spoken with good intentions, yet they can unintentionally deepen the storm of anxiety. Sometimes, in our effort to help, we forget that empathy isn’t about fixing—it’s about feeling with. A gentle reminder instead could sound like: “I’m here for you,” “Take your time,” or “You’re safe right now.” These phrases speak life, not pressure. What if we all paused long enough to listen instead of rescue—how might that change the way we support those who are struggling?

10/31/2025

While others wear masks for fun, we spend our days helping people take theirs off.

10/28/2025

Do you ever feel like you’re sitting in a quiet room, staring at an empty wall, and your mind starts racing like it’s hosting a full-blown movie you didn’t sign up for? That’s what anxiety can feel like—still on the outside, chaotic on the inside. Every little thought stretches and twists until it feels bigger than it really is. You watch yourself overthink every “what if,” every pause, every silence, until even the emptiest wall seems like it’s closing in on you. It’s exhausting, confusing, and somehow, incredibly real.

Anxiety doesn’t have to make sense to be powerful. You can’t always reason it away, and telling yourself to “just calm down” barely scratches the surface. But even in that stillness, even in that staring-at-nothing moment, surviving it is proof of your strength. Every breath, every blink, every second you sit there and keep going counts. 💜 If this resonates with you, drop a heart below and remind yourself—and others—that we’re not alone in these quiet battles.

09/13/2025

“Are You Pondering What I’m Pondering?” — How Brainspotting Helps Women Heal from Trauma and Dissociation

If you know Pinky and the Brain, a 90s cartoon on Cartoon Network, you know that sometimes the tiniest change in focus can lead to the biggest breakthroughs.

That’s exactly how Brainspotting works.

It helps you locate a specific spot in your visual field—your brainspot—where trauma (whether it’s big “T” trauma, little “t” trauma, distress, or overwhelming emotions) is stored in your nervous system.

I’m Sharon Ann Hee, a trauma coach for women navigating anxiety, depression, PTSD, and dissociation.

As someone who has lived through childhood trauma and dissociation, I can tell you firsthand how powerful it is to finally have a tool that helps your brain process what your mind has been holding for years.

Brainspotting isn’t just about eye positions—looking left, right, up at the ceiling, or down at the ground. It’s about reconnecting with your body and emotions in a safe, supported space.

For me, dissociation was a daily reality. I could be driving down I-4, not knowing where I was headed—or walking through Universal Studios CityWalk, unsure how I got there or how long I had been in the area. Parts of me felt invisible, even to myself.

I’ve seen how focusing on a brainspot can gently ground you in your body, bring buried memories to the surface, and release emotional weight you didn’t even know you were carrying.

When combined with mindfulness, such as prayer, yoga, meditation, and a resource spot (a visual anchor for safety), Brainspotting can restore a deep sense of control and stability—something that feels nearly impossible when trauma has taken over your life.

The science is just as compelling as the results.
Brainspotting targets specific neural pathways where trauma is stored—activating those networks so the brain can finally process and integrate what’s been stuck for years. It’s like flipping the script on your life story.

Through dual attunement—where the therapist mirrors your body cues—and optional bilateral sound, your brain’s natural healing capacity is amplified.

Unlike EMDR, which uses general eye movements, Brainspotting goes to the exact place trauma lives, making it an ideal choice for people who dissociate or have parts of themselves struggling to be heard.

If you’re a woman navigating PTSD, childhood trauma, or dissociation, I want you to know: there is hope. And healing doesn’t have to be harsh—it can be gentle, empowering, and deeply restorative.

Thank you for listening.

09/11/2025

Have you ever been the family scapegoat, blamed for things you never did and carrying shame that was never yours? Do you feel unseen while absorbing everyone else’s dysfunction, left questioning your worth? Have you longed to break free from the lies that keep you small and step into your true identity? “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed” (John 8:36)—your story is not blame, but freedom in Christ.

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09/11/2025

Ever felt like you're only seen when someone needs something from you? This poem unpacks the painful reality of being the family scapegoat—where your worth feels transactional and your voice is often silenced. In families marked by dysfunction, the scapegoat becomes both the emotional dumping ground and the go-to fixer, rarely receiving the same care in return. It's a raw reflection on what it means to be visible only in moments of convenience, yet invisible in times of need. Through honest language and deep emotional truth, this piece gives voice to the unspoken roles we carry and the healing that begins when we finally speak up. If you've ever felt unseen, unheard, or used—this is for you.

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09/11/2025

From Family Scapegoat to Freedom

Have you ever noticed how life seems smooth when you “play the part”—but the moment you step out of that role, everything shifts?

In the movie Monkey Trouble, the monkey was adored as long as he pleased his master—stealing watches to earn money for food, swiping a woman’s wedding ring to afford a night in a fancy hotel, taking a jacket from a park bench so his master wouldn’t be cold, or grabbing a hat from a table to block the sun during a beach walk. He did what was expected: woke up on cue, performed magic tricks, and took photos with tourists.

But the moment he chose honesty over deception and said, “I’ve had enough of the emotional abuse and being used for others’ personal gain. I’m choosing to walk in love, to be kind, and to build a better life than the one handed to me,” he was suddenly labeled defiant, ungrateful, and disobedient.

You're praised when you follow the script. But the moment you live in truth, you become the problem.

I know, because I was the family scapegoat.

My family had their justifications. My mom would say, “That’s just the way Sharon is,” as if my character explained away every conflict or moment of pain. My dad would dismiss any accountability by saying, “Everything stresses me out—now I need to eat.”

No one wanted to pause long enough to look in the mirror—to truly see how their own choices and behaviors affected others.

Like the monkey in Monkey Trouble, when I stopped “stealing” peace by enabling dysfunction and started living authentically, I became the villain in the story.

Psychology tells us that scapegoating is a classic tactic in dysfunctional systems—a way for families to protect their image by projecting blame onto one person. It’s easier to exile the scapegoat than to confront uncomfortable truths.

But scripture reminds us in John 8:32:
“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
The scapegoat role is not truth—it’s a survival strategy rooted in shame and projection.

Romans 12:2 calls us not to conform to the patterns of this world but to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. And in Galatians 5:1, Paul reminds us:
“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.”
Freedom begins the moment we stop agreeing to play the part that was written for us.

So let me ask you:

Are you living like the “pleasing monkey,” doing what’s expected just to be liked—or are you ready to step into the truth of who you are, even if it means being misunderstood?

I’m a trauma coach for women battling anxiety, depression, PTSD, and dissociation. I also help adult survivors of family scapegoating break free from self-blame and rebuild self-trust through 1:1 trauma-informed coaching.

I currently have space to gift 2 free sessions to women who feel called to begin this journey. After that, I offer trauma coaching at a reduced rate to fit any budget.

If you're a woman who’s serious about changing your life—let’s connect.

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09/10/2025

Ever felt like no matter what you do, you're always the one to blame?
This dramatic monologue gives voice to the family scapegoat—the one burdened with blame, shame, and silence.
It unpacks the quiet cost: low self-worth, people-pleasing masks, and the struggle to speak up for yourself.
In families where dysfunction is hidden, the scapegoat becomes the emotional outlet—often at their own expense.
This poem sheds light on that hidden role and invites space for healing, recognition, and self-advocacy.
You are not alone—and it was never your fault.

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09/09/2025

Have you ever carried silent wounds from a place meant to heal you?
This poem dives deep into the intersection of brainspotting and church hurt—uncovering how trauma can hide in plain sight and how healing is still possible.
Through vivid imagery and raw emotion, I explore the power of brainspotting to gently guide survivors toward inner restoration.
If you’ve ever been wounded by religion but still long for peace—this one’s for you.

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