Heather R. Harding, LMHC, LLC

11/11/2025

You know their friend drama, test schedule, and which hoodie has to be clean for game day…
But when was the last time someone asked how you were doing, and actually waited for the answer?

Because when you’re the Default Mom, your needs don’t just get ignored.
They don’t even make the list.

You remember every appointment but can’t remember the last time you went to the doctor.
You ask for help, then feel like you have to fix how it’s done.
You take 5-minute showers like someone’s going to time you.

And it’s not just the to-do list.
It’s the thoughts running nonstop in the background:

👉 “I can’t drop a ball.”
👉 “No one else will do it right.”
👉 “If I rest, everything will fall apart.”
👉 “I shouldn’t need this much help.”
👉 “They can’t function without me.”

You didn’t apply for this job title: ‘Default Mom’ just got handed to you.
And now it’s killing you by a thousand invisible tasks.

You’re not overreacting.

You’re just over-functioning and you’ve been doing it so long, it feels normal.

You’ve done everything “right.”
Now it’s time to disrupt what’s expected.

DM “DISRUPT” if you’re done doing it all by default... and ready to start living like you matter too.

11/04/2025

You’ve done more work on your teen’s assignments than they have.

You check the portal. You remind them after school. Again at dinner.
And again before bed. All while trying not to sound like a nag…

But inside, you’re fuming because it STILL doesn’t get done.

Here’s the thing:
It’s not the assignments.
It’s not even the reminders.
It’s the belief running the whole show:

“If I don’t stay on top of it, it won’t happen.”

That belief?
It’s burning you out and blocking your teen from ever stepping up.

Inside The 'Default Mom' Rewire, we undo that belief so you can lead without panic and finally hand back the responsibility that was never yours to carry.

First audio dropped today and it’s JUICY.

DM me “REWIRE” within the next 24 hours and I’ll send you the link + a bonus training to make it land even deeper.

10/29/2025

10/27/2025

You understood your anxiety… but still felt anxious.
I saw it over and over again in my therapy practice.

Smart, self-aware women who’d done everything right: therapy, journaling, even inner child work...
but still felt stuck in the cycle.

Meanwhile, I was living it too. Chronic gut issues, mental overload, nonstop tension.

I started to realize… anxiety isn’t just mental.
It’s physical. It’s stored in the body, in the nervous system, in the patterns you can’t “logic” your way out of.

So I threw out everything I was taught.

And I started helping women heal anxiety from the inside out with tools that actually worked.
Not just talk. Not just mindset.
Real, full-body freedom.

Now I work with women (especially Default Moms) who are done managing everything and feeling like they’re still not doing enough.

Comment “REWIRE” if you’re curious how this work could help you.
We start with one shift that changes everything.

10/24/2025

Default Mom Mode isn’t just doing the dishes.

It’s being the one who remembers everything… for everyone… all the time. Even when you’re exhausted. Even when no one notices. Even when no one asked.

You didn’t sign up to be the family project manager.
But it happened anyway. And now?

Your time, your needs, your brain space… are on the bottom of your own list.

The Default Mom Rewire isn’t about doing less.

It’s about finally believing you don’t have to carry it all to be a good mom.

If this hit anywhere near home?
You already know.

Comment REWIRE and I’ll send it to you (or link in bio).

10/19/2025

One sniffle.
That’s all it took to cancel my entire day off.

He didn’t ask. I just defaulted.

Because somewhere in my brain,
“I’ll take care of it” still overrides “I need this.”

That’s what I call Default Mom Mode...
the invisible reflex to drop yourself the second someone else might need something.

The worst part?
We don’t even question it.

But that’s exactly what we do inside The “Default Mom” Rewire. We question it, rewire it, and replace it with thoughts that actually serve you for once.

If you’re tired of canceling yourself before anyone even asks…

Comment REWIRE and I’ll send you the details.

10/13/2025

You’re 42, lying in bed at 11:47pm, and instead of planning tomorrow’s lunches…

You’re Googling:
“How to stop feeling guilty for wanting more.”

You don’t hate your life.
You’re just realizing you’ve been the default for everything. And the woman you want to become doesn’t fit in that role anymore.

You’ve done the journaling. Tried to communicate it better. Told yourself to just be grateful.

But you still feel like a ghost in your own life.
That’s not failure. That’s clarity.

The guilt isn’t protecting anyone.
It’s just keeping you stuck in patterns that no longer serve you.

It’s time to want more without the shame.
And I’ve got something coming that will help you do exactly that.

DM me “HER” if you’re done Googling at midnight and ready to reclaim your power in the daylight.

10/11/2025

They said I was “just playing house.”

But I was rewriting the rules.

Moving 1,200 miles away.
Choosing a path they didn’t understand.
Becoming the woman I actually wanted to be.

They didn’t get it. Didn’t actually support it. Never said they were proud.

But I built it anyway.
The degree. The license. The six-figure practice.

And more importantly... the version of me I knew was possible.

This journey taught me one thing I want every woman to know:

➡ You don’t need permission to become her.
➡ You don’t need applause to choose yourself.
➡ You don’t need their validation to live in alignment with your truth.

If this speaks to you…
If you’re feeling the pull to finally become the woman you know you are...

This is your invitation.

DM me “HER” to learn more about my signature program.

Let’s talk about what’s really possible for YOU.