Step By Step Counseling Center, LLC

Step By Step Counseling Center, LLC Therapy practice owned & operated by Kelly Ryan-Schmidt, LCSW. In- Person & Telehealth available. New Private Practice with NO WAIT LIST!

Owner has over 20 years experience working with adults, teens, children and families. Most insurances accepted, others will be added soon!

04/23/2026

Why autism without intellectual disability often leads to OCD and why OCD in this context is particularly brutal.

What is OCD?

OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) is an anxiety based condition where the brain gets stuck in a loop it cannot easily exit.

There are two components. Obsessions are unwanted, intrusive thoughts, images, or urges that arrive uninvited and cause significant distress. The person does not want these thoughts as they feel alien and frightening. Common themes include fear of harm (to self or others), contamination, moral wrongdoing, or catastrophic thoughts about the future.

Compulsions are the mental or physical acts performed to try to neutralise the anxiety the obsession creates. These can be visible (checking, washing, repeating actions) or entirely internal (mentally reviewing, reassuring yourself, replaying events). The compulsion brings brief relief, then the obsession returns, stronger. This is the trap.

The whole process is a loop, not a choice. The brain’s threat detection system (the amygdala) fires as if the intrusive thought represents a real danger. The person tries to neutralise it, which accidentally teaches the brain that the thought was worth treating as a threat. So it sends it again. Engaging with the thought, trying to disprove it, seeking reassurance, all of these feed the loop rather than breaking it.

This is why people with OCD cannot simply “stop thinking about it.” The harder they to push the thought away or resolve it logically, the more the brain treats it as a genuine emergency.

OCD is different from normal worry. Everyone has intrusive thoughts sometimes and research shows the content is often identical between people with and without OCD. The difference is what happens next. In OCD, the brain cannot file the thought as insignificant and move on. It gets snagged, returned to, and treated as requiring urgent action. According to Simply Psychology, OCD thoughts are ego-dystonic, which means they feel completely at odds with who the person is and what they actually believe or want.

Autism and OCD.

Autistic girls without intellectual disability are uniquely vulnerable because their cognitive ability actually works against them. Their ability to watch, learn and perform neurotypicality often means years running two systems simultaneously: their actual autistic brain, and the performance of being “fine.” Masking. To get by in an NT world.

Masking is not a choice, it’s an exhausting, full-time cognitive load that consumes the same mental resources needed for everything else. Research confirms that sustained masking creates chronic hyper vigilance. Autists constantly monitoring behaviour, anticipating judgment, pre-empting mistakes. That state never switches off. Explosive meltdowns at home are the pressure valves releasing stress in a safe place.

Research shows that OCD occurs in 17- 37% of autistic youth. This is five to six times higher than in neurotypical peers.

There are several interconnected reasons:
- Shared brain circuitry. Both autism and OCD involve dysregulation in the same brain circuits, particularly those governing repetitive thought patterns and cognitive flexibility. Research points to shared neurobiological pathways, including how serotonin systems function, which is why both conditions are implicated together.
- Autistic brains already have difficulty shifting attention, this is what clinicians call reduced cognitive flexibility. When executive function becomes overloaded (as it does catastrophically during burnout), intrusive thoughts can lock in and get stuck because the brain’s gear-shifting mechanism is already compromised. The mechanism that says “okay, move on from this thought” simply doesn’t work the way it should.
- The burnout acts as a trigger. The collapse was not just exhaustion, it is the nervous system registering a genuine threat level crisis. Environmental stressors like burnout can trigger OCD onset in individuals with underlying neurological predisposition. The trauma of the breakdown itself then becomes content for the OCD, the intrusive thoughts often centre on whether recovery is ever possible, because that is the most fear laden thing the brain can latch onto.
- and then, of course, agoraphobia can emerge. Approximately 23- 25% of autistic people experience agoraphobia compared to roughly 1.3% of the general population. When sensory environments have caused meltdowns and breakdown, the brain learns that outside equals danger. Avoidance becomes the compulsion.

Often, at this point, the intrusive thought that “life is over” takes hold and this is particularly the case in the context of burnout. The intrusive thought becomes the object of obsession, and the mental compulsion is endlessly reviewing whether it’s true, which, of course, makes it worse and feels more convincing. OCD thoughts feel alien, frightening, relentless, which is precisely why sufferers can’t just “think their way out” of it.

The most important thing autists with OCD should know: the thought that life is over is an OCD thought, not a fact. OCD targets the things we care most about surviving.

So what can recovery looks like and is the part that’s important to hold onto, even when it’s hard:
- Recovery exists, but it is slow and non-linear. It can take months to years, and setbacks during early recovery are extremely common. Autistic people feel slightly better and over-spend their energy reserves, which crashes them back. This is not failure, it is biology.
- Recovery requires structural change, not just rest. It is essential that the masking load, sensory environment, and social expectations all need to be fundamentally restructured. School or work in its current form is likely incompatible with current states, and that’s not a permanent verdict on the future.
- The OCD/intrusive thoughts respond best to therapy specifically adapted for autistic people. Standard CBT is often poorly suited and can inadvertently teach more effective masking. ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention) adapted for autistic clients is the evidence based approach, alongside therapists who understand both conditions.
- Graduating from school or university via alternative pathways, online at their own pace, later, are all helpful. The timeline is different, the outcome can be what the long term plan was.

Autists with OCD think they’ll never recover. The cruelest thing about OCD in burnout is that it makes the temporary feel permanent. But, time off school or work, time at home, unmasking and being seen is the beginning of recovery, even when it doesn’t look like it.

04/16/2026

Christina Koch is an electrical engineer, physicist, and NASA astronaut who already held the record for the longest single spaceflight by a woman at 328 days aboard the International Space Station. In 2019 she conducted the first all-female spacewalk alongside Jessica Meir. On April 1, 2026, she launched from Kennedy Space Center on Artemis II and became the first woman in history to travel beyond low-Earth orbit to lunar distance.

She wasn't the only one making history on that spacecraft. Victor Glover became the first Black astronaut to fly to the moon. Jeremy Hansen became the first Canadian. Commander Reid Wiseman led the crew. No humans had been near the moon since Apollo 17 in December 1972. The gap was 53 years.

On April 6, during the lunar flyby, the crew shattered Apollo 13's distance record, reaching roughly 252,756 miles from Earth. That's when Hansen proposed naming two craters. The first, after their Orion spacecraft: "Integrity." The second was a bright spot near the boundary of the moon's near and far sides. Voice cracking, he called it "Carroll," and told Mission Control it honored "a loved one, the spouse of Reid, the mother of Katie and Ellie." Wiseman wept. Koch wiped away tears. All 4 astronauts floated into a zero-gravity group hug.

Mission Control came back: "Integrity and Carroll Crater, loud and clear." The crew had secretly planned the surprise before launch. Carroll Taylor Wiseman was a pediatric and NICU nurse who battled cancer for 5 years and died in 2020 at 46. She always urged Reid to keep flying.

Koch gave her remarks on April 11, one day after the crew splashed down in the Pacific off San Diego. She was asked what makes a crew different from a team. Her answer is above. The last line landed the way last lines are supposed to.

04/16/2026
01/12/2026

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01/12/2026

After witnessing his autistic son Zachary face online bullying, Stuart Duncan refused to accept toxic gaming culture. He took action by building Autcraft, a private Minecraft server designed specifically to provide a calm and respectful environment for children on the spectrum.

The server is strictly moderated to prioritize kindness and reduce sensory stress. What started as a small personal project has blossomed into a global community of over 17,000 members. It serves as a vital sanctuary for those seeking online safety.

Stuart’s initiative proves that one parent's dedication can change thousands of lives. By creating a space focused on understanding and support, he has ensured that autistic children finally have a world where they can play without fear of harassment.

12/28/2025

Some things are completely out of our hands.
The timing.
The changes.
The people who drift away without warning. ❄️

And it hurts — not because we’re weak,
but because we cared.
Because we hoped.
Because we tried. 🤍

I’m learning that strength isn’t always loud.
Sometimes it’s sitting quietly,
feeling everything,
and still choosing not to harden your heart. 🌫

You don’t need to control the storm
to prove your courage.
You only need to decide
who you will be while it passes. ✨

There is power in patience.
Power in responding with grace
when the world expects you to break.
Power in choosing peace,
even when nothing feels peaceful. 🕊

If today feels heavy,
remember this:
your response is your reclaiming.
Your calm is your rebellion.
And your softness is not a weakness —
it is your quiet strength. 🤍

12/21/2025

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11/17/2025

It made me exhaustingly empathetic.

10/30/2025

Are you or someone you know in need of a meal this Thanksgiving? Pittsburgh Police will once again be hand-delivering meals to those in need on Thanksgiving Day in the City of Pittsburgh! The deadline to request a meal is Saturday, November 15.

Here are the multiple ways you can request a meal:
Zone 1 residents – Contact Officer Payton at 412-323-7201
Zone 2 residents – Contact Officer Wissner at 412-255-2827
Zone 3 residents – Contact Officer Devenyi at 412-488-8326
Zone 4 residents – Contact Officer Wright at 412-422-6520
Zone 5 residents – Contact Officers Crawford or Kolesar at 412-665-2119
Zone 6 residents – Contact Officer Frank at 412-937-3051
Contact Dr. Staci Ford at 412-522-3377
Or email thanksgivingmeals@pittsburghpa.gov

10/26/2025

💜 I totally agree with this. 💜

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