Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist #96678

Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist #96678 Let’s go beyond the norm—together. My personal and clinical experience has assisted me in providing help to others in times of emotional and mental distress.

Therapy designed to help you live life fully. 🌿
We’re here with real tools for real people—teens, couples, and women navigating anxiety, depression, and everyday stress. I specialize in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and have been trained in Cognitive Behavioral therapy (CBT) and Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA). In my experience these theories have provided my clients with the tools they need to manage their lives. I have experience as a therapist for dual diagnosis, addiction, mental health, self-harm and mental illness. I would be honored in assisting you with this unique life journey. I am currently providing counseling support in a private practice setting, in Temecula, Ca. I accept most insurances and have reasonable rates.

02/04/2026

There is a moment every mom knows.
You feel the boundary in your body.
You know what you need to say no to.

And then the fear hits.
What if they pull away?
What if they stop calling?
What if this costs me the relationship?

So you soften it.
You explain it.
You undo it.

Not because you are weak.
But because the risk feels unbearable.
Here is the truth we do not say out loud enough.

Setting boundaries with your child can feel riskier than abandoning yourself.
But the relationship does not actually grow stronger when you disappear inside it.

Boundaries are not rejection.
They are how trust, respect, and real connection are built over time.

If this season of motherhood feels tender, confusing, or scary, you are not doing it wrong.
You are standing at the edge of a new way of relating.

Listen to the latest podcast episode on Empowered and Unapologetic as I speak with Master Life Coach Jennifer Collins about setting boundaries with teens and adult children.

Here's the episode link: https://veronicacisneros.org/episode311/





02/04/2026

I do not need yelling to escalate the situation.

I already have a full internal monologue, several coping strategies, and a running list of things I will bring up calmly later.

Raise your voice if you want.

I am already emotionally multitasking and deeply unimpressed.
Marriage is learning that volume does not equal authority, and silence does not mean I am fine.

This is one of the most painful dynamics I see in therapy. Someone finally steps up, and instead of relief, there is num...
02/03/2026

This is one of the most painful dynamics I see in therapy. Someone finally steps up, and instead of relief, there is numbness, resentment, or grief. Many people judge themselves harshly here and think, “What is wrong with me? This is what I wanted.”
Here is the reality. Emotional connection has a window. When needs go unmet for too long, your nervous system adapts by pulling back to survive. So when effort arrives after detachment has already set in, it can feel disconnected from the relationship you were actually asking for.

This does not mean you are cold or ungrateful. It means your system learned not to rely on change that came too late to feel safe. Healing starts with honoring that timeline instead of overriding it with guilt.

If you are stuck between appreciating the effort and grieving what it cost you to get here, therapy can help you sort through both.

01/30/2026

If you have ever “responded” fully, thoughtfully, and emotionally in your head and then realized hours later that your phone never got the memo, welcome.
This is not rudeness. This is cognitive overload. When your brain is juggling tasks, emotions, and people, it sometimes files things under completed when they are only completed internally.
Most friends are not mad. They are just living their lives. And if they are mad, a simple “I swear I answered you in my head” clears it up more often than you think.
Your nervous system is not ghosting. It is buffering.

01/29/2026

With over a decade of experience in mental health care, Eveleen supports individuals, couples, and families with compassion, cultural awareness, and intention. She offers bilingual therapy in English and Spanish and creates an affirming space where clients feel seen, respected, and understood.

Grounded in Adlerian theory and informed by Gottman-based relationship work, Eveleen helps clients strengthen connection, rediscover purpose, and move toward healing at their own pace. She is especially passionate about supporting culturally intersectional clients, neurodivergent individuals, and those healing from complex trauma.

Learn more about her here: https://outsidethenormcounseling.com/eveleen-lavera/

01/29/2026

If you’re tired of having the same fights on repeat and wondering why things never seem to shift, Allison is here to help. She works with couples, families, and teens to uncover the root patterns driving conflict so real change can happen, not just surface-level fixes.

Allison’s approach is collaborative, grounded, and human. Therapy with her blends depth, clarity, and compassion, with room for both hard emotions and moments of humor. Every version of you is welcome, and the goal is growth that actually lasts.

Read more about Allison here: https://outsidethenormcounseling.com/allison-turrell/

01/28/2026

You know what’s wild about limiting beliefs? They don’t show up as “I’m afraid.” They show up as “I’m being realistic.”
Realistic sounds like:

“I’ll do it when things calm down.”
“I don’t want to rock the boat.”
“I’m not ready yet.”
“Who am I to want more?”

But sometimes the real fear isn’t failing. It’s succeeding and realizing you can’t keep living the same way once you see what’s possible.

Stepping into your light costs you the version of you who survived by staying small. And that’s why it feels scary.
If this hit a nerve, listen to the Wendy Valentine episode of Empowered and Unapologetic and let it mess with your excuses in the best way.

Listen here: https://veronicacisneros.org/episode310/

01/27/2026

Parenting while reparenting is a full mental juggling act. You are responding to your child in real time while also noticing the part of you that never got that same patience, safety, or softness.
If this feels exhausting, it is because it is. You are breaking cycles while building something new, often without a map. The goal is not to do it perfectly. The goal is to stay present enough to repair when needed, for them and for you.
Both parts are allowed to exist in the room.

One of the most confusing experiences in relationships is feeling lonely while being treated “well.” Nothing is obviousl...
01/27/2026

One of the most confusing experiences in relationships is feeling lonely while being treated “well.” Nothing is obviously wrong, yet something feels deeply absent. Many people assume they are asking for too much because there is no clear offense to point to.

Here is the truth that changes how you see it: emotional neglect does not require cruelty. It often shows up as neutrality, emotional distance, or a lack of attunement. Being nice without being emotionally present still leaves you carrying your inner world alone.

You are not dramatic for wanting more than civility. Relationships are not meant to simply avoid harm. They are meant to offer connection, responsiveness, and emotional safety. If you feel unseen, that feeling matters.

Therapy can help you sort out whether this is something that can be built together or something you have been compensating for alone.

01/23/2026

Overstimulation is not a personal failure. It is what happens when one nervous system is carrying the volume of an entire household.
As a therapist, I see this constantly. When moms are already maxed out, that is often the moment everyone needs something at the same time. Not because anyone is doing it on purpose, but because you are the emotional home base.
If this feels familiar, the solution is not more patience or better self control. It is boundaries, shared regulation, and actual breaks before you hit shutdown.
You are not too sensitive. You are overloaded.

When conversations start feeling flat, dismissive, or one sided, most women immediately assume something is wrong with t...
01/22/2026

When conversations start feeling flat, dismissive, or one sided, most women immediately assume something is wrong with their partner. He is checked out. He does not care. He is emotionally unavailable.
Sometimes that is true.
And sometimes the missing piece is exhaustion.
Emotional burnout changes how everything lands. Silence feels louder. Short answers feel rejecting. And when you are carrying most of the emotional and mental load, it becomes nearly impossible to stay patient, curious, or connected.
This does not mean you are overreacting. It means your system is tired and tired systems struggle to stay generous.
I break this down in the blog and talk about how to tell the difference between emotional unavailability and emotional burnout, plus what actually helps shift the dynamic without nagging, pleading, or blowing up.
If this question has been living in your head lately, go read the full post. It might reframe more than you expect.
Read more here:
https://outsidethenormcounseling.com/emotional-burnout/

01/16/2026

You thought it was a funny story and your therapist just gently confirmed it was, in fact, trauma.

This is the moment many people realize humor has been doing a lot of heavy lifting. Laughing helped you survive it. Therapy helps you finally see it.

Helpful reframe: when a therapist says, “I’m sorry that happened to you,” they are not taking your humor away. They are honoring the part of you that adapted, coped, and kept going without support at the time.

You can still laugh about it. You just do not have to minimize it anymore.

Want to see if therapy is a good fit for you? Go to outsidethenormcounseling.com

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