Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist #96678

Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist #96678 Let’s go beyond the norm—together. My personal and clinical experience has assisted me in providing help to others in times of emotional and mental distress.

Therapy designed to help you live life fully. 🌿
We’re here with real tools for real people—teens, couples, and women navigating anxiety, depression, and everyday stress. I specialize in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and have been trained in Cognitive Behavioral therapy (CBT) and Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA). In my experience these theories have provided my clients with the tools they need to manage their lives. I have experience as a therapist for dual diagnosis, addiction, mental health, self-harm and mental illness. I would be honored in assisting you with this unique life journey. I am currently providing counseling support in a private practice setting, in Temecula, Ca. I accept most insurances and have reasonable rates.

12/01/2025

You stay quiet.
You swallow it.
You try to “be chill.”
You tell yourself it’s not worth the fight.
And then one day… the fire comes out. 🔥🐉
Not because you’re “too much,” but because you’ve been carrying way too much for way too long.
That explosion?
That’s what happens when emotional burnout meets silence.
That’s what happens when you’re doing all the emotional labor in your marriage and calling it “keeping the peace.”
If you’re tired of holding it in until you erupt…
If you’re done shrinking, overfunctioning, and hoping he’ll finally “get it”…
Join me on Dec 16 for
Is He Emotionally Unavailable… or Are You Emotionally Burnt Out?
A webinar for women who are ready to stop burning themselves down to keep the relationship warm.
https://outsidethenormcounseling.com/marriage-reset/

Speak to a therapist: outsidethenormcounseling.com or Call 951-395-3288 to book your in person or telehealth session.
⚠️ Disclaimer: This post is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health advice.

11/25/2025

Why you’re doing 90% of the emotional labor:
Because you noticed the dentist appointments, the mood shifts, the missing laundry sock, and the fact that your kid’s backpack zipper is seconds from a full-blown malfunction… before anyone else even blinked. 😅
Here’s the therapist truth:
Emotional labor tends to fall on the partner who’s more attuned, more aware, and more used to managing chaos. But that doesn’t mean it has to stay that way.
Quick tip from a therapist:
Start with micro-boundaries.
Instead of jumping in automatically, say: “Before I handle this, what’s your plan?”
It redirects responsibility without starting a fight — and it teaches your partner to step up instead of waiting for you to swoop in.
We’ll go way deeper into this (and how to rebalance the emotional load without resentment) on Dec 16 inside “Is he Emotionally Unavailable or are you Emotionally Burnt Out?” the first webinar in our Marriage Reset Series. Come hang out with us.
https://outsidethenormcounseling.com/marriage-reset/

11/23/2025

Feeling like you’re one meltdown away from turning in your “Mom Card”? Step outside … literally. A quick breath of fresh air or a five-minute walk can flip your nervous system from panic mode to human mode. Think of it as hitting the “restart” button on your brain without needing a software update. Fresh air lowers cortisol, movement boosts mood, and that tiny sliver of silence reminds you you’re an actual person, not just the family snack distributor.

And here’s the therapist’s secret: this tiny escape isn’t “selfish,” it’s psychology. Stepping away interrupts the stress spiral, gives your prefrontal cortex a chance to reboot, and restores your sense of control. You come back clearer, calmer, and far less likely to cry over spilled… well, everything. So go ahead: sneak outside, breathe, walk. Your brain will send you a thank-you note.

Speak to a therapist: outsidethenormcounseling.com or Call 951-395-3288 to book your in person or telehealth session.

⚠️ Disclaimer: This post is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health advice.

Ever notice how your husband can clock out like it’s his job, while you’re still running the night shift of household op...
11/21/2025

Ever notice how your husband can clock out like it’s his job, while you’re still running the night shift of household operations? Dinner, laundry, homework, bedtime negotiations — all while muttering, “must be nice to relax.” The truth? He’s not the only one with access to the off switch. You just haven’t given yourself permission to use it.

Because here’s the kicker: the problem isn’t that he clocks out — it’s that you don’t. You don’t need to earn rest, justify downtime, or schedule joy only when everything’s done (spoiler: it’s never all done). Start taking the damn break. The laundry will wait. Your sanity won’t.

Speak to a therapist: outsidethenormcounseling.com or Call 951-395-3288 to book your in person or telehealth session.

⚠️ Disclaimer: This post is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health advice.

11/20/2025

Can the body really be the key to healing trauma? Absolutely. Because trauma isn’t just stored in your mind, it’s stored in your muscles, your breath, your nervous system. When you finally start trauma-informed therapy, don’t be surprised if your body reacts before your words do. Shaking, crying, feeling heavy, or even spacing out aren’t signs of failure: they’re signs of release.

Your body has been holding the story long before you had the words to tell it. Healing means inviting it to speak and learning how to listen with compassion instead of judgment. 💛

Speak to a therapist: outsidethenormcounseling.com or Call 951-395-3288 to book your in person or telehealth session.

⚠️ Disclaimer: This post is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health advice.

When your husband says, “You don’t respect me,” it’s easy to feel blindsided. You’re not trying to be disrespectful … yo...
11/19/2025

When your husband says, “You don’t respect me,” it’s easy to feel blindsided. You’re not trying to be disrespectful … you’re tired, unheard, and doing your best to hold it all together. But underneath those words, there’s usually something deeper: both of you feel unseen.

This week’s blog unpacks what “you don’t respect me” really means, why it hits so hard, and how couples can rebuild connection without blame or ego.

💬 Read the full post: outsidethenormcounseling.com/blog

Think your marriage is suddenly fighting more because teenagers ruined everything?Nope. You’re just parenting on fumes w...
11/19/2025

Think your marriage is suddenly fighting more because teenagers ruined everything?

Nope. You’re just parenting on fumes while navigating two different rulebooks and a kid who thinks they’re your attorney.
LMFT tip: When you disagree, pause long enough to get curious instead of defensive. Ask “What are you trying to protect here?” You’ll be shocked how quickly conflict shifts when you’re listening for values, not victories.

Speak to a therapist: outsidethenormcounseling.com or Call 951-395-3288 to book your in person or telehealth session.

⚠️ Disclaimer: This post is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health advice.

11/18/2025

As a therapist, I can confirm: setting boundaries feels terrifying when you’ve been through trauma. Your nervous system hears “No, thank you” and translates it as “Everyone is going to leave me and I’ll die alone.” Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away. They’re about finally learning you don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm. Still, that first “no” hits harder than a caffeine withdrawal.
If you’ve ever apologized three times for existing or felt guilty for turning off your phone, you’re not dramatic — you’re deprogramming. Boundaries feel scary because they threaten the old rulebook your brain wrote for survival: “Keep the peace, stay small, don’t need too much.” Therapy helps you rewrite that rulebook into something gentler, like “I’m allowed to rest and still be loved.”
Speak to a therapist: outsidethenormcounseling.com or Call 951-395-3288 to book your in person or telehealth session.
⚠️ Disclaimer: This post is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health advice.
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