The Colored Soul

01/13/2026

Not every opinion deserves a seat in your mind.
Before you take advice or criticism to heart, ask yourself:

Does this person understand my situation?
Do they live in alignment with what they’re telling me to do?
Do they speak from care — or control, projection, or discomfort?

Wisdom isn’t about who speaks the loudest.
It’s about discernment.

You’re allowed to pause, reflect, and choose whose input actually gets to shape your life.

01/07/2026

12/31/2025

Self-gaslighting often begins as a survival skill.
When your reality has been dismissed, minimized, or rewritten enough times, you learn to do it to yourself.

Many survivors internalize the voices that once invalidated them — long after the relationship or situation ends. Learning to recognize this pattern is how you begin to rebuild trust with yourself.

Healing starts when you stop arguing with your own reality.

12/30/2025

Real boundaries protect your peace.
Fake boundaries protect control.

Boundaries aren’t about managing other people’s behavior — they’re about choosing what you will and won’t participate in.
If a “boundary” demands obedience, compliance, or silence, it isn’t a boundary.

Healthy boundaries create safety, clarity, and respect — not fear, guilt, or power struggles.

12/30/2025

The holidays can be a time of joy for some — but for many survivors, they can be one of the most dangerous times of the year.

Domestic violence often increases during the holidays due to added stress, financial pressure, increased substance use, isolation from support systems, and more time spent with an abusive partner or family member.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, unsafe, or trapped, please know:
You are not imagining it.
You are not overreacting.
You are not alone.

Help is available 24/7, free, and confidential:

National Domestic Violence Hotline
📞 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
📞 TTY: 1-800-787-3224
💬 Text START to 88788
🌐 thehotline.org

If this post reaches even one person who needs it — it matters. Please consider sharing to help this information reach someone who may need it right now.

12/26/2025

They don’t block connections; they make it safer.
They don’t mean you care less; they mean you’re finally caring for yourself, too.

If you’ve struggled with guilt around setting boundaries, my latest blog explains why boundaries are foundational to healthy relationships, not selfishness.

💜Read it here https://www.coloryoursoulwhole.com/post/why-boundaries-are-essential-for-healthy-relationships

12/26/2025

The holidays can amplify grief, loneliness, trauma, and exhaustion — especially for those who have learned to survive quietly. Struggling during this season isn’t a lack of appreciation; it’s often a sign that something tender needs care.

If this resonates, you’re not alone. And if someone came to mind while reading this, consider checking in on them. Sometimes presence matters more than cheer.

Be gentle with yourself and others this season. Healing doesn’t follow a calendar.

12/25/2025

12/25/2025

Many parents were raised with punishment… but children don’t learn best through fear. They learn through guidance, connection, and practice.

Here’s the difference between punishment and discipline – and why it matters.

COMING LATER TODAY - Punishment vs Discipline - Everyday Examples.

Misunderstood Defiance: the Vulnerable Child Toolkit for Parents & Educators
Electronic download in comments.

12/23/2025

Do you feel drained after being around certain people?
Do others take more of your time, energy, or space than you meant to give?
Do you measure your worth by how much you do for everyone else?

These aren’t personality flaws.
They’re often boundary wounds—and they can quietly shape every relationship in your life.

My Boundaries Blueprint was created to help you recognize where your boundaries were learned, why they feel hard to hold, and how to rebuild them in a way that feels safe, clear, and empowering.

This workbook gently guides you through:
• Identifying boundary patterns and people-pleasing cycles
• Releasing guilt around saying no
• Reconnecting with your needs without fear or shame
• Building boundaries that protect your peace, not punish you

Available as a printed workbook or instant e-file in my shop.
Healing doesn’t have to be harsh. It can be intentional, compassionate, and practical.
www.ColorYourSoulWhole.com/shop

If this post made you pause—this might be for you.

12/23/2025

Not everyone experiences this season as joyful or light. For many, the holidays can bring grief, loneliness, exhaustion, or memories that feel heavy. You don’t owe anyone cheer, productivity, or a smile to make others comfortable.

If you’re simply getting through the days, that counts. If you’re choosing rest over celebration, that counts. If your season looks quieter than others, that counts too.

Be gentle with yourself. And if you know someone who seems distant this time of year, a simple check-in can mean more than you realize.

You’re not broken for feeling this way. You’re human.

12/21/2025

💜 Partner Spotlight: Minnesota Coalition Against Sexual Assault (MNCASA)💜

We’re honored to welcome Minnesota Coalition Against Sexual Assault as a new partner in our growing healing community.

MNCASA works tirelessly to prevent sexual violence and support survivors through advocacy, education, and systems change across Minnesota. Through this partnership, we’re able to help expand access to creative healing resources that support survivors, advocates, and the professionals walking alongside them.

Partnerships like this matter. They allow healing tools to reach more people, remove barriers to care, and remind survivors that they are not alone in their journey.

Thank you, , for the work you do every day and for standing with us in creating safer, more supportive communities.

🤍 Together, we heal. Together, we build hope.