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I help women recover from body shame and increase their well-being through mindful movement & body aw Compassionate Movement For Body Love. But we need help.

I help women access their physical, spiritual, and emotional well-being through mindful movement and body-awareness. I work as a guide and collaborator to release stuck patterns and feelings, recover from body shame, and develop a more loving relationship with ourselves. You’ve come to the right place if:
*You love moving but don’t particularly enjoy regimented exercise
*You want a HAES®-aligned movement experience where you feel truly accepted and comfortable
*You would like to reconnect to joy, freedom, playfulness and pleasure inherent in movement
*You want to move your body but worry you’re out of shape, don’t have the “right” body, are too old, or feel too uncoordinated
*You’re tired of struggling with shame and are looking to accept your body
*You want to explore your emotions with intuition, flow, and curiosity, rather than through analysis and logic

What I believe in
I believe in the body as our greatest teacher. I believe the body has information that our mind has walled off, that all of our life experiences accumulate to create our physical and emotional ecosystem, and we must address them all if we want to transform the system. We are built to survive, and I celebrate that. But often, what we need to survive does not serve us to thrive. We need our body to tell us what it feels, desires, and wants to release. The mind cannot do this work because it doesn’t hold that material. The body holds our past, and it is up to the body to release and transform it. When a person is met with radical acceptance through a compassionate, open, non-judgmental presence, they feel safe enough to become vulnerable and meet their authentic self. This is where the healing process can begin. I believe we can heal in an infinite number of ways: through sensual movement, playful invention, and communal connection. I believe in release, compassion, acceptance, honesty, and the body as the brain. I believe in listening, in being at the service of healing others, in the power of community. How I do this
As a therapist and healer my job is not to analyze, give advice or direct the client, but rather to make space for them to connect with the story their own body has to tell. I know that my clients are the best experts on their life. We use the body, and movement, as the map to the treasure chest of our feelings, needs, and memories. Joyful movement allows for freedom from shame, develops feelings of respect for our bodies, and generates momentum towards a deeper happiness and sense of peace. I provide an inclusive space for people to move without worrying about their shape, size, fitness level or experience. I create a love and acceptance-filled environment where respect, compassion, generosity, and delight are central to everything we do. About Odelia
Odelia has trained across multiple Somatics platforms including Bartenieff Fundamentals, Laban Movement Analysis, Body-Mind Centering™ (BMC), Yoga, and more. She has a BA in Psychology from The Open University, and was certified as a Doula by DONA (Doulas of North America) in 2003. She subsequently was certified as a Structural Yoga instructor through the Stone Center in 2004. In 2005, She graduated from the Leven Institute with dual certifications in Shake Your Soul™ and SomaSoul™and was certified as a Somatic Movement Therapist through ISMETA. She later became a teacher in Re-evaluation Counseling (RC), and has been counseling and teaching co-counseling privately and in groups since then. She started her Somatic and Movement Education Company, Movement Bliss, in 2013, offering classes and workshops, both live and virtual to hundreds of women. Recently, Odelia embarked on training in Intuitive Eating, and will soon be an IE practitioner. Her work focuses on self-acceptance, inclusion, compassion, and joy, and is HAES™-aligned.

01/14/2026

Ever notice yourself pulling away when things get too close?

Or feeling like you have to do everything on your own?

Or maybe you’re always chasing closeness, trying to prove your worth, or struggling to feel free in relationships?

These patterns aren’t random. They’re likely part of your character strategy.

The concept of character strategies comes from psychotherapy, where it was observed that we all develop emotional coping styles in response to early relational wounds.

The Somatica®️ method in which I’m trained, builds on this foundation with a body-based, relational, and pleasure-centered approach.

A character strategy forms when a specific emotional task in childhood - like trusting others, depending on someone, or feeling safe being vulnerable - gets disrupted.

The wound around that task becomes the seed of a lifelong pattern designed to keep us emotionally safe and connected. These patterns are brilliant, adaptive responses to situations that once felt overwhelming or unsafe.

Let me introduce you to the six main character strategies we work with - each one named after the wound it carries:

✨ Unsafe
✨ Under-Dependent
✨ Over-Dependent
✨ Unfree
✨ Invulnerable
✨ Unworthy

The names of the strategies are based on the wound, not the person. So if you have the “Unworthy” strategy, it doesn’t mean you are unworthy - it means they carry an early wound around not feeling worthy.

These names are invitations to understanding, not labels to get stuck in.

One of the most helpful things about knowing your strategy is that it gives you a clearer map to your core desires which is your pathway to healing through pleasure.

It also helps make sense of relationship dynamics - why certain things feel so triggering, why you keep ending up in the same stuck places, and how to move forward with more compassion.

Rather than trying to fix these strategies, we support healing - by identifying and fulfilling your core desires: the emotional longings that didn’t get met when your strategy formed.

You might already have a sense just from the names. Which one do you think might be your most dominant one (you might have more than one)?

01/12/2026

In my work as a somatic s*x and relationship coach, I see this again and again.
S*x doesn’t just reveal our wounds, it often holds the medicine our psyche has been trying to access all along.

This is where Core Desires come in.

Core Desires aren’t universal.
They’re specific. Personal. Shaped by how you were wounded.

They’re your psyche’s subconscious attempt to heal through pleasure, connection, and embodied experience.

Your desires aren’t random.
They reflect what you most longed to feel and didn’t get,
and what your system is now seeking to feel when you go to s*x.

In my work, I see two ways this healing happens through s*x.

One is resolution.

Being slowed down where you were rushed.
Being cherished and adored where you were overlooked.
Being able to soften and show vulnerability where you once had to stay guarded.

When s*x includes presence, attunement, and emotional staying, the nervous system can finally soften.
The urgency fades. The pattern loosens.

The other path is repetition with agency.

Some desires aren’t meant to disappear.
Some wounds shaped our erotic wiring.

Healing doesn’t always mean moving past a desire.
Sometimes it means choosing it consciously, with consent, voice, and power.

Power dynamics.
Surrender.
Being needed.
Being chosen.
Being taken.

When there is choice and agency, repetition isn’t reenactment.
It’s nourishment.

This is where a lot of shame shows up.
Desires like these are often labeled unhealed or trauma-driven.

In my work, I see something else.

When there is consent, choice, and agency, pleasure itself becomes a healing force.

There is no hierarchy here.

For some people, s*x heals through safety and rest.
For others, through aliveness and intensity.
For many, through both.

The real questions aren’t:
“Is this desire healed yet?”

They are:
Do I have choice?
Do I have agency?
Am I honoring my nervous system instead of shaming it?

This is the work I do with clients.

If you’re tired of judging your desires and ready to understand them,
you can book a free consultation call with me by clicking the link in my bio.

01/09/2026

In your intimate relationships, do you:

- Crave constant validation and reassurance?

- Feel anxious about being replaced?

- Sense heightened sensitivity to potential rejection?

- Find it hard to trust your partner’s feelings or commitment?

- Question your own worthiness in the relationship?

If so, you may have an anxious attachment style—no shame in that! I do, too!

Anxious attachment stems from inconsistent caregiving in childhood, leading to a fear of rejection or abandonment.

It can cause you to seek constant closeness and validation, leaving you preoccupied with questions about being truly loved or valued.

Small signs of distance might feel like looming rejection, which makes it hard to fully enjoy moments with your partner without worrying about the future.

When I work with anxiously attached clients in my relationship lab, we start by grounding in the present.

I invite them to notice my presence with them, helping the mind shift from anxious thoughts to the safety of connection in the here and now.

This helps calm the nervous system, allowing you to feel secure and enjoy the relationship as it unfolds.

If staying present feels like a struggle, I’m here to help! Click the link below to book a free discovery call:

https://embodiedacceptancecheduling.as.me/schedule/3fa34b41/appointment/32019316/calendar/4509338?appointmentTypeIds[]=32019316

01/08/2026

It’s not a great feeling. That worry. That stress. That “did I do something wrong”? experience …

Anxious attachment is a style characterized by a deep fear of rejection and abandonment, often rooted in inconsistent or unpredictable caregiving experiences during childhood.

You may feel a constant need for reassurance, closeness, and validation from your partner.

You can become preoccupied with your relationships, worrying about whether you’re truly loved or valued, and might use any small sign of distance or ambivalence to mean you’re about to be rejected.

You may also ruminate on relationship issues, struggle with independence, or fear that a partner’s personal space means they’re about to leave.

The hardest thing about being anxiously attached is that it can be challenging to fully enjoy the moments we spend with our love partner because we’re too busy thinking about the next time we’re going to see them or if there even will be a “next time”.

You’re rarely in the present moment, because you’re already preparing for the “end”.

When I work with anxiously attached clients in my relationship lab, I start by inviting them to notice that I’m there and see how much they can take my presence in.

As soon as they try that, their mind goes to their anxious thoughts which represent lack and what’s missing.

I gently point them back to noticing what’s here now and stay with that. We take as much time as we need for their nervous system to slow down and register that there’s someone there with them and that it’s actually safe.

If you find it challenging to stay present, I’m here to help.

Book a free consultation with me by clicking the link in the bio

01/05/2026

Sexual incompatibility isn’t a failure.
Sometimes, it’s a crossroads.

In my work as a somatic s*x & relationship coach, I see how much can be shifted sexually when couples have the right tools.

Desire, arousal, mismatch, shutdown, shame—there’s often far more possibility than people realize.

And… sometimes, even after we try everything, the gap doesn’t close.

That’s not the end of the work.
That’s where *choice* begins.

Staying in a relationship while being sexually unsatisfied is a choice.
A valid one.

The problem isn’t staying.
The problem is staying without knowing you’re choosing it.

When you don’t see it as a choice, it can feel like:
– being trapped
– powerless
– resentful
– quietly depleted

But when you consciously say:
“I’m choosing this relationship for companionship, emotional safety, shared life, family, or stability - even if s*x isn’t what I want…”

Something shifts.

You move from victimhood to agency.

We always have options.
They may be painful.
They may all involve loss.
But not choosing is still a choice—and usually the one that hurts the most.

✨ My work is to help you:
– explore what *can* be changed sexually (using tools most professionals don’t even consider)
– tell the truth about what can’t
– and make conscious, empowered choices—whatever you decide

If you’re stuck in sexual incompatibility and don’t know what you’re choosing anymore, I can help.

👉 DM me or book a free consultation by clicking then the link in my bio

Power doesn’t come from perfect options.
It comes from knowing you chose.

01/02/2026

People often ask me, "What’s the difference between couples therapy, s\*x therapy, and s\*x & relationship coaching?"

Here’s how I explain it:

**It’s SOMATIC**: Coaching prioritizes the body’s wisdom. Emotions aren't just thoughts—they’re physical sensations too. By focusing on bodily awareness, we access deeper levels of healing and growth. This approach helps you embody change, not just think about it.

**It’s EXPERIENTIAL**: Real growth happens through *doing*, not just discussing. Coaching uses live, guided exercises tailored to your goals. Instead of "homework" to complete later, you’re actively practicing new skills in the moment.

**It’s RELATIONAL**: Unlike therapy, where the practitioner remains a neutral observer, coaching invites a more engaged relationship. Our interactions become a practice ground for new relational patterns, offering real-time feedback and support for lasting change.

**It’s PLEASURE-BASED**: While therapy often focuses on "working through trauma," coaching leans into *pleasure as a path to healing*. Instead of resisting or "fixing" yourself, we embrace your survival strategies and use joy, play, and consensual exploration to create new, liberating experiences.

As you can see, coaching offers more dynamic and experiential opportunities than traditional therapy. It’s immersive, body-based, and rooted in the present moment. While the work can be intense and push boundaries, clear agreements and ethical safeguards ensure both you and I stay safe, supported, and deeply respected throughout the process.

**What It’s NOT**:

To be clear, s\*x & relationship coaching is *NOT* s\*x work or surrogacy. Our work centers on emotional embodiment, relational skills, and personal growth—not physical intimacy with the coach.

**Curious about what’s possible for you in this work?**

Drop your questions in the comments or send me a DM. If you’re ready to experience it firsthand, schedule a discovery call here: https://embodiedacceptancecheduling.as.me/schedule/3fa34b41/appointment/32019316/calendar/4509338?appointmentTypeIds[]=32019316

12/31/2025

If you and your partner can’t seem to move past a certain issue for a long time, chances are something in your history wasn’t dealt with well.

You might think that because you discussed the incident it was taken care of. You might think it wasn’t a big deal for the other person when it was. You might have even apologized but sometimes that’s just not enough.

So how can you deal with it?

When I encounter this kind of dynamics, I know true listening is missing.

People get stuck when one of the partners hasn't experienced a feeling of being fully heard. They’re left with the feeling that their partner doesn't understand how deeply the incident has affected them.

To move through these stuck moments, listening is key.

Sounds easy enough, right? It’s not

If it was, couples around the world would be in a much better shape.

Everybody thinks they know how to listen but there’s listening and there’s *listening*.

The kind of listening I’m talking about creates the conditions for healing.

This healing kind of listening assumes the other person is doing their best given their experiences and their history. When you listen like this, you know they have no interest in harming you. You remember you’re on the same team.

It’s able to stay with what the other person is saying without taking personal offense.

It doesn’t argue with what they’re expressing or defend a position.

It doesn’t predetermine that when a partner wants something, it automatically means you can’t have what you want.

It is able to identify and summarize the core issue being shared

It is able to validate a partner’s experience. It can show that their feelings make sense, and they matter.

Sometimes people need to be taught how to listen, so others feel heard. That’s part of what I do.

Teaching people how to listen includes showing people how to regulate their activated nervous system so they can check the boxes above and create a space for healing.

How about you? What needs to happen in order for you to feel really heard?

Feel free to share in the comments below.

12/29/2025

People often ask me what is the difference between couples therapy/s-x therapy and s-x & relationship coaching.

Here’s what I say.

It’s SOMATIC = the embodiment of emotions at the center of the healing process. Sensations and feelings live in the body and they are as important a reference point as are throughs, stories and beliefs.

It’s EXPERIENTIAL= the best learning happens through experience. Exercises that are specifically designed to practice skills that are relevant to the client’s goals are done in real time as opposed to theoretical concepts or even assignments that are given as homework.

It’s RELATIONAL = As a practitioner I’m not removed from the client’s process. The relationship between the client and me is as real as any other outside relationship the client has. We use our reactions to each other to grow, learn and practice what can be possible elsewhere.

It’s PLEASURE BASED = the pathways to healing are found through what brings us most pleasure rather than excavating the trauma. Instead of trying to resist who we are, we find ways to celebrate the strategies that we acquired to deal with our early wounds and safely create intimate situations to replay them with agency or to bring resolution.

Coaching allows for a broader range of possibilities than what’s typically found in a therapy setting. While the work can be edgy and outside traditional boundaries, clear agreements and ethical safeguards ensure that both you and I remain safe and supported throughout the process.

What is it not?

It is NOT s-x work or surrogacy.

Curious about what’s possible in this practice? Feel free to ask me some questions here or send me a dm.

12/24/2025

So much trouble is caused in relationships because people think things always need to be split in half.

The goal is actually to have both people feel satisfied and that they can express their full selves in the relationship.

For example, you might have a core desire to be worshiped.

Yes, it’s a thing! And a totally legitimate one!

You might not even know this is what you want deep inside.

But because you haven’t identified this core desire and you think that things should always be “equal”, including giving and receiving pleasure, you might not feel comfortable being at the receiving end of things for an entire love making session and you might try to give only out of fairness.

There are people whose turn on is solely giving pleasure. Receiving actually takes away from their experience. Their receiving is derived entirely from giving.

What if your partner is one of those people?

If you try to give just because you think that’s what they want, you both lose.

Neither of you get to realize your full erotic potential.

Neither of you get to receive the maximum pleasure you could get by filling your deepest longing.

That’s such a shame because filling your deepest sexual longing is the difference between “meh” s-x and good s-x, not to speak of transcendent s-x!

There are other situations in life in which it also makes sense to ditch the 50/50 mentality.

A common example is when couples think they need to be equally interested in spending time going out and interacting with people.

You could be more introverted than your partner.

You actually suffer in social situations, but you don’t want to keep them from doing the things they enjoy.

Work to acknowledge and accept your differences and agree that it’s ok for them to go and for you not to and to know that you’re still good together.

What are ways that you’re noticing that your relationship is not equal that are actually ok?

Feel free to comment.

12/22/2025

And when it comes up, it’s almost always followed by shame…
Guilt…
Fear of being “messed up” or “wrong.”

But here’s the truth:

🌀Fantasy is not consent.

🌀Fantasy is not a moral failing.

🌀Fantasy is where your erotic mind plays.

Fantasies are rarely about logistics or literal desires.
They’re emotional, symbolic, and often wildly exaggerated.
Your psyche uses them to explore sensations, feelings, and power dynamics in a safe, internal playground.

This is where S-x and Relationship coaching offers such a powerful lens.

We talk about something called Core Desires - the emotional themes that live at the root of your erotic turn-on.

✨ Maybe your Core Desires center around power… surrender… attention… taboo… safety… being chosen… or being desired.

You didn’t choose these Core Desires like you’d choose what to have for dinner.

They were shaped by your unique life experience—your attachment style, your upbringing, your traumas, your resilience, and your deepest longings for connection and aliveness.

Fantasy is one of the ways your erotic system tries to feed those desires.

That’s why you might fantasize about things that would never, ever feel good (or safe) in real life.

And that’s not only okay—it’s human.

You don’t have to act out your fantasies.
You don’t ever have to tell anyone about them, although it might feel good to tell them to a trusting, non-judgmental ear.
You also don’t have to push them away or judge them.

What if, instead, you got curious?

🌀 What feeling does this fantasy bring me?
🌀 What’s underneath it—power, softness, freedom, surrender, being adored?
🌀 Is there a way I can safely feel that in my body or my relationships?

Your erotic mind is creative—not criminal.
Your fantasies don’t make you broken.
They make you beautifully complex.

And if you’re craving a safe space to explore those desires with curiosity and zero shame -
That’s exactly what I’m here for.

💬 Ready to explore? Book a free consultation call by clicking the link in my bio. Let’s talk about your real desires, safely

✨ Come as you are—curious, complex, and completely worthy.

12/19/2025

Here’s a real-life example from a couple:

**Partner A:**

“For tomorrow, please feel comfortable coming to see me or canceling. I know you have a lot going on.”

**Partner B’s interpretation:**

“He doesn’t really want to see me and is putting it on me to cancel.”

**Partner B:**

“I was looking forward to coming but only if you genuinely want that. I don’t want to feel like an obligation.”

**Partner A’s interpretation:**

“She’s criticizing me. I was being considerate by giving her space, and now it feels like I did something wrong.”

This kind of misunderstanding—rooted in past trauma—can quietly erode trust and connection, creating resentment, the #1 killer of relationships.

In my practice, I help couples uncover the hidden wounds driving these reactions and teach them a powerful process called Repair.

Here’s what that looks like:

- **Sharing without blame:** Each person expresses how they felt, without shaming the other.

- **Empathetic listening:** The other partner listens with the intent to understand, not defend.

For this couple, Repair helped them see a different perspective:

- Partner A shared how growing up in a strict, obligation-driven environment made him genuinely want to give an “out” with no hidden meaning. He felt hurt by the assumption that he didn’t care.

- Partner B realized her abandonment wounds made her sensitive to rejection and owned how her anxious response could feel like criticism.

By practicing Repair, they created deeper understanding and more compassion for each other’s triggers.

Want to transform miscommunication into a stronger bond? I can show you how.

For a limited time, I’m offering **3 coaching sessions for $160.**

Click the link in my bio  to get started.

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12/17/2025

There’s a common misconception that s-x and intimacy fade away as we age—but let’s set the record straight:

MANY older adults remain sexually active, and for some, it’s even better than ever.

So, why does this myth persist?

Society often ties sexuality to youth, overlooking the fact that intimacy is ageless.

Women in particular are socialized to deny their sexuality and slt shamed if they embrace and express it. So when the hormones aren’t there to support sexual feelings it’s easy to give up on desire.

Men can suffer from Erectile Dysfunction which can demotivate sexuality if their pleasure is intercorse-focused. But that’s actually a great opportunity to change how you approach s-x.
Physical changes don’t signal the end of pleasure. Instead, they can inspire creativity!
How can challenges spark s-xy Innovation?

When the reproductive “equipment” doesn’t function as it used to, it can encourage people to expand their definition of s-x.

Did you know that men can experience or***ms even if their p***s is only partially erect or not erect at all?

It’s essential for men of all ages to understand that s-x involves more than just in*******se. Rather than concentrating solely on p***s stimulation, men should be encouraged to explore and embrace full-body pleasure.

Knowing what we want to feel when we have s-x and what really turn us on (*Core Desires) can be particularly important as a fertile ground to create erotic scenarios (*Hottest Sexual Movies) that will satisfy our deepest needs.

Aging can become a time of s-xual rediscovery.

With fewer distractions (hello, no more work stress or parenting duties!), older adults often have more time to focus on pleasure, their relationships and explore new ways to connect.
As a somatic s-x coach, I help people navigate the unique challenges that come with aging and sexuality.

To book a discovery call click the link in my bio .

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