02/10/2026
Kids are kids. They need our support with food to be able to eat in a balanced way and get the nutrients they need.
They need SUPPORT.
What they donāt need is CONTROL.
Control actually disconnects them from their body cues, makes them rebel against the foods we want them to eat, and has the likelihood of creating food and body shame.
If your child is eating out of balance:
ā They lack variety and donāt want to try new foods
ā They seem to āovereatā or have no stopping point
ā Theyāre obsessed with snacks and/or sweets
Then there is likely something out of balance with the amount of support or control in the feeding relationship.
Feeding āissuesā tend to arise from undersupport or overcontrol (coined by Elly Satter of DOR).
So to help our kids have a healthy relationship with food, eat in a balanced way, and get the nutrients they need, they need both support and autonomy.
Hereās what happens when we swing toward control:
Worried about your childās lack of variety ā encourage them to eat other foods ā the more selective they get
Concerned your child eats too much ā try to get them to eat less ā the more they will eat
Troubled by your childās preoccupation with sweets ā limit sugar and treats ā the more theyāll want sweets, sneak them, and eat more of them
If you want to support your child with food, to get the nutrients they need and listen to their body cues, and you donāt want to create guilt, shame, or harm, join our FREE workshop!
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