11/12/2025
When our kids ask for a cookie or ask us to buy Pop Tarts at the store, we often say things like, "No", or "You've already had enough sugar." Or “I’m not buying that junk. We have better choices.”
And to a child that turns into - “I’m not supposed to have that.” OR “I shouldn’t eat too much of it.” OR “I’m not going to get that food - ever.”
All things that feel like the food is scarce or limited - even on a subconscious level.
This is what leads to sneaking, hiding, or acting obsessed with certain foods. It’s not that they’re out of control with sugar or addicted to it. They’re reacting to a sense of scarcity.
In order for our kids to stop eating when they’ve had enough or to pass up food because they don’t want it - they need to know they have permission to have it and that they’re allowed to eat the amount they want and need.
Even the simplest tweaks on language,
"Yes, we'll have that soon."
"Sure. Let's get that for next time we go camping."
"I love cookies. Let's figure out when we can make them at home."
Any time we can say "Yes..." or give specifics on when they'll get something, it helps diminish the fear of the food being limited. It allows them to better listen to their bodies instead of eating from a place of fear and scarcity.
If you’re concerned your child only wants snacks or sweets or ‘overeats’ food in general - it’s not that something is wrong with them. It’s that they’re in a reactive mode.
To best support them in listening to their body cues, eating a variety of foods, and eating the amount they need - grab my free guide: 5 Keys to Raise an Intuitive Eater.
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