The Therapy Witch

04/07/2022

Realized I didn’t post this here and since yesterday was International Asexuality Day I thought I would share my interview on the Modern Anarchy Podcast talking about mythology and asexuality.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/47-the-mythology-of-a-sexuality-i-never-had-a-crush/id1563242316?i=1000553405523

‎Show Modern Anarchy, Ep 47. The Mythology of A-Sexuality: I never had a crush! - Mar 8, 2022

02/09/2022

Since there have been some new people here I thought I would introduce myself

My name is Destinie Vidrio (she/they) a trauma-focused therapist. I identify as an asexual q***r woman. I come from Italian and Mexican ancestry and incorporate the healing folk magick and practices of my ancestors in my therapy work. I have a M.S. in Counseling Psychology where I specialized in Attachment Theory and Techniques and I am currently working on my PhD in Depth Psychology specializing in integrative therapy & healing.
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I grew up in Southern California in Temecula, CA, Luiseño/ Payómkawichum land.

I come from a family of both survivors of abuse, perpetrators of abuse, substance users, su***de, warriors and healers. I have learned so much from witnessing and hearing their stories, both the good and the bad. My ancestral and individual healing is one of the things that have led me on my path of becoming a therapist and healer.
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I first identified as a Witch when I was 13 years old, and have been practicing witchcraft since. Though I didn’t identify as a witch until I was 13 I was raised in a home where magick was very present and where my relationship with nature was cultivated and celebrated. I also come from a lineage of Polish witches. My witch identity and upbringing are a huge influence on my therapeutic and healing practices and I incorporate a lot of these practices in my therapy sessions

I am trained in EMDR, Dream Tending, Sand Tray along with being a reiki master, tarot reader and an Akashic Records reader and teacher.

01/15/2022

Generational Trauma, one of the most common things I work on with my clients. Generational trauma is hard to hold and can be hard to heal but not impossible.

Here are some slides with some information on generational trauma. The slides are for educational purposes. When it comes to trauma healing I of course I always recommend working with a therapist/ psychologist trained in trauma work.

01/09/2022

Sometimes the first step is to recognize that there is something wrong, that we are struggling and that we are not okay. Only through this recognition can we open the door for healing

01/04/2022

One of the main things I work on with clients is healing from abusive/toxic family members.

A lot of people feel guilt or are given guilt by others when they decide to cut off an abusive/toxic family member.

Here’s the thing, just because someone is family does not automatically mean they have the right to our life. It is something that is earned. If a family member spent your entire life abusing you, gaslighting you, wounding you, made you feel less than then you have every right to leave that relationship. Being family does not mean one gets a free pass to treat you like s**t. They are not owed your love, your time, your life!

Having a good and healthy relationship with a family member takes a lot of work on all ends. So if they are not willing to put in the work and rather spend time devaluing and hurting you, you need to ask yourself if continuing this relationship will be the best thing for you.

Do not feel guilty for ending a relationship with an abusive/toxic family member. Ending a toxic relationship clears up space for new healthy ones.

08/25/2021

As a recovering people pleaser & perfectionist this was a hard pill for me to swallow. I still remember the horrible feeling that came through my body when one of my supervisors told me that “it’s not if you disappoint me, it’s when”. I still cringe when thinking about it.

But they were right. It’s not if we are going to disappoint someone it’s when. The more we stand up for ourselves, create boundaries, make ourselves a priority, listen to our own wants or needs instead of others, we WILL disappoint someone. That’s okay. It is not our responsibility to hold their disappointment for them, that is something they need to do themselves. We need to learn to hold the discomfort of not pleasing everyone and learn to be okay with that.

The more we try to please others to avoid disappointing them the more we give our power away. The more we create boundaries and speak our truth the more power we have!

08/23/2021

Magick are actions to help create personal transformation. Whether it is through spell work, meditations, etc. Therefore, for me therapy and engaging in the therapeutic process is magick!

08/22/2021

Full Moon Rituals do not need to be complicated. Taking time to go outside and gaze at the moon can be powerful enough. If you want to add a little more try this simple ritual.

Remember to always start in gratitude!

✨Magick is all about intent. The stronger your intent the stronger your magick! ✨

08/18/2021

When I work with clients on healing their maladaptive or “unhealthy” behaviors/coping skills a lot them look at the younger version of themselves that started engaging in these behaviors with disdain, anger, and even hatred.

Here’s the thing though. The younger you did what they could with the tools they had. Them engaging in these behaviors may have even helped you survive to this point. These behaviors made sense at the time.

So approach your healing with kindness to that younger you. Thank them for doing what they could with what they had. And as you learn new coping skills release the old with the respect and love they deserve.

07/14/2021

Growing up with toxic parents and healing from them creates very complex emotions and experiences. You are allowed to empathize with their own childhood trauma experiences and still create boundaries with them or even have them out of your life. How one heals from a toxic parent and their relationship with a toxic parent is different for everyone! There is no “right” way to heal from a toxic parent!

07/05/2021

This beautiful quote was given to us from my class yesterday. We must honor and recognize our trauma so we may heal from it. When we don’t we are more likely to pass it on to the next generation, intergenerational trauma. Most of the people I work with are the first in the family to do this work and it is a heavy burden to bare. But it is not just trauma we pass down but our healing too. So for those breaking the chain of trauma I witness and honor you and your healing journey 💜