Bev Gorman- Enneagram Coach

11/23/2025

light- bring more light.

11/02/2025

I was playing pickle ball this morning and moved from playing outdoors in the elements to indoors in a controlled environment. I noticed that when I was indoors, I was consistently over playing the ball. I was hitting it too hard. I was hitting it out of bounds and consistently making more mistakes. I was in the same way playing as if I was still outdoors. What I quickly realized is that there was not the same normal things opposing me indoors when I was hitting the ball.

There was no wind to push against the ball and my paddle. There was no cold to keep my fingers from moving well. There was no gravel and grittiiness on the Court surface but a smooth wooden floor where the ball bounces completely differently. It felt like there wasn’t as much space indoors as the courts are surrounded by walls. It was super loud as everything echoed and it was very hard to hear making it hard to concentrate.

In short, I did not have the normal resistances and oppositional forces that comes against me when I play outdoors. There were different challenges.

This correlates to the law of 3’s in the enneagram. It states that whenever we are attempting to do something new, there will always be an oppositional force that comes against us. The force is necessary and a key ingredient in the law of 3’s as it is a necessary tension. There are 3 forces at work- the holy affirming force is what I want and desire -the holy denying force, which is the opposition that seemingly is coming against and preventing me from getting what I want. But there is always a third force that is affirming and always available which is the reconciling force of the new arising.

This is the movement of possibility beyond the dualism of the two forces working in opposition against each other. The reconciling force is mystery -possibility -thinking outside of the box- and even grace that shows up with alternatives.

When I am not focusing and obsessing about the opposition, but cooperating with this potential and available right action - there are new and different ways to actually get what I want.

As I noticed the overplaying and lack of elemental forces that I was used to- I decided to settle down and relax and try some other strategies. I started with the way I was hitting the ball. I started to hit it much more gently- with less force- I started to hit it with more strategy on placement and focused on opening up the court. I tried to stop over hitting the ball and just began to d**k it and hit it more lightly. I began to hit down the middle where it was harder for my opponents to reach it as i could execute that shot more readily with greater control on a hardwood surface.

All in all I had to change my strategy because the oppositional forces that are normally there were no longer pushing against me, and I had to think outside of the box in light of what was opposing me.

This is the beauty of the law of 3’s. Instead of focusing on all the opposition coming against us- we cooperate with Grace/mystery and possibility as the new arising offers oportunities to get what we truly desire. This happens by not focusing solely on the opposition but adding in some new strategies and being flexible to welcome something different.

This opens up a whole new experience in our life’s journey as we begin to cooperate and align with the greater possibilities of what if…. maybe… could this be an option…..ill try this….huh- thats an interesting idea- wow- hadnt thought of that!

The universe starts meeting us in new and different ways and we can have a greater experience of the yes’s while the no’s get more quiet. They never truly go away, but we begin to focus our attention on what is possible as opposed to why I am not getting what I want.

Thank you o’ great pickleball game for being my teacher this morning. Where would I be without you??

10/30/2025

great reminder of the differences in the triads-from “Mirror for the Soul” by Alice Fryling….

04/13/2025

where attention goes ….energy follows-
attend to the wisdom of the thinking center…. the loving kindness of the heart center…. which will always lead to right action of the belly center

04/11/2025

“all things cry for forgiveness in their imperfection, their incompleteness, their woundedness, their constant movement toward death.

Mere rage or resentment will not change any of these realities. Tears often will, though: first by changing the one who weeps, and then by moving any who draws near to the weeping.

Somehow, the prophets knew, the soul must weep to be a soul at all. “

Richard Rohr,
The Tears of Things; Prophetic Wisdom for an Age of Outrage. 

04/09/2025

what takes the place of the mother – first the physical and then the psychological mother – is your essence -to recognize, realize, integrate, and develop your essence is to become an adult.

Your essence is you.

It is not something you learned from your mother, it is not being like her or relating to your super ego. No, it is being your real self.

Then you will have what your mother gave you and your physical babyhood; love, compassion, support, intelligence, consciousness, protection, pleasure, fulfillment, release -all these things.

Essence can give you these things because essence is support, is strength, is intelligence.

Diamond Heart(book one)

Elements of the Real in Man
AH Almaas

04/07/2025

find your bliss - follow your bliss- live your bliss💜☮️💜

this weekend, I had an amazing opportunity to go to a beautiful My Morning Jacket music festival in Miramar Beach Florida, where my son‘s band Illiterate Light was playing.

On this journey of life, we all have been sent here to provide something to the universe that without us -it would not be complete and whole. Meeting and watching all these beautiful souls come together in a symphony of love, passion and ecstatic union through the generative gift of music is the healing balm our world needs in this moment.

We all are invited to find out what it is that we’re here to do and then just simply live it out in a way that ignites the healing waters of transforming our consciousness.

We all get to wake up together when one of us wakes up…we can all wake up…. in the words of -wake up now….. wake up now…. wake up now!!!!!

02/19/2025

wonderful opportunity to find some much needed JOY!!!!

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02/19/2025

Gurdjieff taught that when we function from the level of ego it’s as though we are
on automatic; we operate like robots and we are stuck in our automatic patterns
and reactivity. We are unaware of who we are and what we are doing; this is the
state of being asleep. We need to wake up, that is to become aware of who we
are and the inner state we are functioning from. We often start to become aware
that we are thinking/feeling/acting from our ego when we notice that there is
judgment all over the place. Once we start to wake up, we can start to become
aware of our self. When we act from our self we see, hear, feel and know clearly;
we register and observe from a stance of wonder without any interference from
the ego – we are free of judgment.

11/27/2024

10/18/2024

join me as we “mine the immortal diamond” of these divine attributes to mirror to an increasingly chaotic world and find our true self along the way

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