04/08/2026
Does this Hit Home for You?
Do You Feel This?
If so, I hope you start to honor yourself and schedule a Healing Shamanic Session. I would love to help you do the work to process your trauma.
I have been going to my Teacher for 20 years to do my work. To Process.
It changed my life.
We are all mad here.
At me?
For the traumatised child, this is not just humour.
It is memory.
When a child is raised in chaos, violence, unpredictability, or emotional instability, the nervous system does not learn safety first. It learns alertness. It learns how to listen for footsteps, changes in tone, the slam of a door, the look on a face, the silence before the storm. It becomes watchful. Guarded. Hyper-aware. Always scanning for danger. Always waiting for the moment the world may suddenly turn into madness again.
This is what walking on eggshells does to a child.
A child who should be learning trust, play, curiosity, and self-expression instead learns survival. The brain and body begin shaping themselves around protection. Healthy development can be disrupted as survival pathways are strengthened again and again. Fight. Flight. Freeze. Fawn. The child retreats inward. Growth is stunted. The body may grow older, but deep within, a frightened small self can remain suspended in the moment it first realised the world was not safe.
Then adulthood comes, but the pattern often remains.
The adult still braces.
Still scans.
Still expects.
Still hears danger in ordinary things.
Still mistakes peace for unfamiliarity.
Still feels that chaos is always just around the corner.
And if this is not healed, this is how the pattern continues.
Because unhealed trauma does not only live in one person. It moves through families. It is passed through reactions, through silence, through rage, through emotional absence, through overprotection, through fear, through the inability to regulate, soothe, trust, or stay present. The child who had to survive chaos may one day raise children from the same wounded nervous system, not because they are cruel, but because their body still believes it is living in danger.
And so the cycle repeats.
Not always through the exact same violence.
Sometimes through tension.
Sometimes through emotional neglect.
Sometimes through control.
Sometimes through anxiety that fills the room without a word being spoken.
Children do not only inherit eye colour and bloodlines.
They can inherit fear.
They can inherit survival.
They can inherit the unspoken madness of a world that was never made safe.
This is why healing matters so deeply.
Because when one person heals, they do more than help themselves. They interrupt the pattern. They soften what was hardened. They bring safety to places within that have only ever known alarm. They stop handing pain forward as inheritance. They become the one who says, it ends here.
Healing teaches the body that not everything is danger.
That love does not have to come with fear.
That peace is not a trap.
That rest is not weakness.
That the child within no longer has to keep watch at the gates of chaos.
Some people are not overreacting.
They are reliving.
Some are not broken.
They are patterned by survival.
Some are not mad.
They are wounded children in grown bodies, still waiting for the next collapse of the world they once knew.
And that child deserves more than judgement.
That child deserves gentleness.
Safety.
Steadiness.
Love.
Because the deepest healing of all is when the one who was once forced to live on alert finally learns…
I am safe now.
And this ends with me! ✨
KyRa 💋
