02/19/2026
So many times as a parent, teacher, coach, etc. we get lost in our desire to correct (or control) a child's undesirable behavior. Which, tends to contribute to our own undesirable behaviors. When we focus on connection and understanding, we can learn more about the behavior and what's behind it, providing us an opportunity to model and teach self-control and self-regulation through our own actions as well as allowing opportunity for deeper meaning and connection. This builds trust, improves relationships, and fosters growth towards the desirable behaviors we wish to see in our children.
At Lillybrook we provide opportunities through workshops, groups, and individual and family therapy to build upon these skills.
Your child is not ignoring you.
They are overwhelmed.
When children are angry, shouting, refusing or throwing things, it is easy to move straight to consequences. But when emotions take over, the thinking part of the brain switches off. In that moment, lectures do not teach. Shouting does not calm. Punishment alone does not build skills.
Children need help to regulate before they can reflect.
Connection does not mean giving in. It means staying steady. Naming the feeling. Showing your child that you see what is going on inside them. Once their body settles, they are far more able to listen, understand boundaries and take responsibility for their behaviour.
Clear limits still matter. Consequences still matter. But connection makes them work.
If we want children and teenagers to manage big emotions, build self control and develop respect, we need to model calm first.
Regulation before reasoning.
Connection before correction.
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