08/19/2024
Livin' on the Lazy-Susan-of-The-Past-Or-Future?
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You know this pattern, right?
Say you and your spouse have had a bumpy road in the s*x department. You have powerful thinking-feeling-doing-believing patterns prepared to run the second your spouse says, “Hey there is nothing on tv tonight, wanna do it?”
Or maybe YOU are the one who tentatively initiates hoping-praying-longing for the YES from your beloved. But when you find him/her on their phone, too tired (again), or already asleep…the avalanche of thoughts-feelings-beliefs crush you.
But wait! There is more!
Once you have thoroughly marinated in the OLD experience anew, then that voracious-never-satisfied-mind of yours goes after the FUTURE too!
Pulling forward next week, next month, and next year into the Now with all of the “This will never change! Why do I even bother? Will it ever be different?”
Whether we are talking about s*x, finances, health, retirement, business, or literally ANYTHING in life…for most of us our minds are unruly tyrants ensuring that all of that self-help-spiritualism doesn’t ACTUALLY take hold in your life.
And so…it doesn’t.
If you are here, you know something about the power of the present moment.
You have possibly read Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, Pema Chödrön, or followed other spiritual-come-self-help-teachers in life. I read The Power of Now when it first came out in the late 1990’s and honestly it has taken me until like five minutes ago to deeply EMBODY (aka LIVE) the teachings.
I mean sure, I UNDERSTAND conceptually, living in the present moment, that all there is is NOW.
And it is easy to be in the Now when I'm peaceful drinking tea at sunrise, joyfully journaling as the birds serenade me.
But then something -- literally *anything* happens -- the garbage truck drives by and I wonder if my husband put the trash out, I can feel annoyance imagining that he didn't and have a little mini-series-experience in my head about All Of The Times The He Let Me Down, then I get up to check and see that he DID put the trash out so I can feel bad about not trusting him again and mildly chide myself -- all when I was peacefully in the Now just 30 seconds ago!
Our minds have been trained to go mining around dislodging thoughts-feelings-memories that produce feelings and experiences that make THIS MOMENT feel like THAT MOMENT....over and over and over again.
What I have been teaching women for years now is to BECOME AWARE of that tendency in yourself. That tendency ensures that this moment feels like THAT moment by pulling the old thoughts-feelings-beliefs forward that gives your ego-animal-self the (oddly) comfortable experience of the same thing again and again.
Like watching your favorite movie on repeat.
Except it is your life.
And that means there will NEVER be any qualitative shift in your reality because you are toggling between past-future-past-future-past-future.
There is a difference between KNOWING INTELLECTUALLY that “all there is is this moment” or “be the change you want to see in the world” or “change your life through attuning to a higher reality” and EXPERIENCING IT IN YOUR BODY BY LIVING IT.
Living it when you want to collapse in the old pattern.
Living it when *everything in you* wants to kick-scream-run-blame-tantrum.
Living it when fear, anxiety, and worry are pounding down the door.
We are in a time of anchoring new realities in our mundane lives moment-by-moment by pivoting into the truth of who we are and why we are here everyday. This is not some spiritual-bypass call to follow your bliss and abdicate your responsibilities in life.
This is about feeling ALL OF YOUR FEELINGS -- we do that in my containers through somatic practices to SENSE everything that is coming up -- so that you can literally metabolize your feelings.
We do this through self-love-come-self-discipline by choosing sobriety from the unconscious addiction to drama which is what compels you to live on the Lazy Susan of Past-Future.
We do this by growing your capacity to experience joy, peace, love, or calm in your body…because THAT might be new!...so that your body can literally begin to remember what that nourishment feels like.
We do this in my spaces by staying awake and alert to falling asleep and being lulled back into the drowsy-divisive-discordant energy that is demanding your attention daily.
My next container begins September 4, 2024 and it is for you IF:
You have loads of knowing, learning, and understanding about LIFE but have not been applying it to your everyday existence.
You recognize that we are in a season of COLLAPSING of the old systems, practices, thought patterns, and ways of being in the world and you long to keep your gaze on YOURSELF, your family, your life whilst the world does whatever it's gonna do.
You know that no one is going to save you or "this". And you don't need to save yourself either! But you DO get to use your divine gifts of perspective, attention, intention, words, emotions, behaviors, and beliefs to potentiate an existence that is in coherence with the truth of who you are.
You have spiritual beliefs or practices but they live on the periphery of your life and you want to commit to engaging in living those Universal Truths on the daily.
You feel giddy, nervous, and thrilled about the idea of living your own life on your own terms and mindfully, thoughtfully enthusiastically architecting an existence that deeply nourishes you regularly....without running away from your responsibilities.
You are hungry from a community of women who are on their own path of self-initiation.
If this is you -- join me link in comments.
I am trying something new that I am calling Dignity Pricing to meet the variety of financial situations because I see you.
Questions? DM me.
