Life Cycles Counseling with Adina Silvestri

11/07/2025

Quick fixes can only get you so far when it comes to managing stress and anger. The S.T.O.P. Method offers a deeper approach that helps you build lasting emotional awareness. Practicing it regularly strengthens your ability to respond rather than react.

Read the full article to learn how to integrate it into your daily life. →https://adinasilvestri.com/anger-management-spotlight-the-s-t-o-p-method/

11/07/2025

Have you ever felt like you were spinning wildly out of control…
Only to later look back and ask, “Why did I do that?”

Internal Family Systems (IFS) teaches that we all have multiple sub-minds – or parts – interacting constantly.

According to IFS, these parts tend to fall into 3 common roles:

🦸🏻‍♀️ MANAGERS who try to control everything and everyone to try to keep you safe and secure.

👩🏻‍🚒 FIREFIGHTERS whose impulse is to spring into action whenever another part feels pain or overwhelm.

👤 EXHILES who have been suppressed and hidden to the point where they lash out just to be heard.

When these parts clash, we get stuck in patterns that feel confusing or self-destructive.

But underneath it all is your SELF - your compassionate, calm inner leader that can’t be hurt by trauma or pain.

When you begin working with your parts through IFS, something shifts…

You begin to understand that your anger isn’t trying to ruin things, it’s trying to protect you.

You start to realize that your inner critic isn’t trying to hurt you, it’s trying to prevent you from getting hurt.

You see past the shame to find your inner child who was silenced when they just wanted to be heard.

Instead of battling or suppressing your different parts, you learn to understand them, soothe old wounds, and redirect your energy towards what truly matters.

And then, when the uncontrolled noise and chaos of your parts is quieted, you can finally reconnect with and lead from your core Self.

Because the truth is IFS isn’t about silencing your inner parts.

It’s about helping them work together again.

Curious about how IFS can help you understand yourself more deeply?

Learn more and book a free consultation here: https://adinasilvestri.com/internal-family-systems-therapy-in-richmond-va/

11/07/2025

Had a great time on Rebellion Dogs radio! Have a listen :)

Rebellion Dogs Radio is in conversation again, with Dr. Adina Silvestri. Mary C and Joe C in conversation with Dr. Adina Silvestri is what's on the men...

11/06/2025

3AM wake-up. ☕ Coffee in hand. Navigating JFK like a boss.
Even a government shutdown couldn’t stop this flight—or this love.

I’m headed to celebrate my mom—my best friend—on her milestone birthday. Because this is what showing up looks like. 💖

Getting up this early should be a crime… but some people are always worth it.

11/06/2025

For many high-achieving women, anger doesn't show up as explosive outbursts.
It bubbles beneath the surface as:

👉🏼 Resentment toward people who "don't appreciate you"
👉🏼 Snapping over small things
👉🏼 Guilt when you try to set a boundary
👉🏼 Burnout from constantly overextending

Sound familiar?

In my work, I've noticed a pattern: women experiencing this kind of simmering anger often share two common struggles – imposter syndrome and weak boundaries.

When you doubt your worth and don't know how to enforce your limits, you end up overgiving, overworking, and suppressing your needs.

And that’s when anger steps in to protect you, to finally say "enough."

So the next time you find yourself feeling frustrated over your anger…

What if you tried to befriend it instead?

Through Internal Family Systems (IFS), I help clients see their anger as a protector—a fierce part that shows up when they've been pushed too far.

Interested in learning more about IFS and the world of possibilities when you befriend your angry or other wounded parts?

Subscribe to my weekly newsletter. In it, I share stories, insights, and gentle guidance to help you understand your parts and lead with your truest Self.

In tomorrow’s newsletter, I’ll be sharing the story of one woman who learned to befriend her anger and how it completely changed her relationship with herself.

Subscribe here: https://adina-silvestri.kit.com/

11/05/2025

You know that feeling when you’ve been carrying more than you realize, and the moment you stop, your whole body sighs? That’s what this evening is about. I’ll lead you inward through gentle hypnosis so you can meet the parts of you that are ready for care and compassion.

Katie will weave in a live sound bath that supports your nervous system and helps you release tension layer by layer. By the time you leave, you’ll feel lighter, calmer, and more connected to yourself.

No experience necessary. Just bring your willingness to explore and receive.

🌀 Hypnosis & Soundbath w/ Adina + Katie
📍 4025 MacArthur Ave, Richmond, VA
🗓 Wednesday, November 19 at 6:30pm
🔗 Reserve your spot: link in bio or buffalofirefly.com/pages/classes-events-adina-katie

11/05/2025

Anger and frustration often take over before we even notice. The S.T.O.P. Method gives you a simple framework to regain control. Practicing these steps can help you respond with calm and awareness.

Read the full article to see how to start using it today. →https://adinasilvestri.com/anger-management-spotlight-the-s-t-o-p-method/

11/04/2025

Someone once asked me, "What do you love most about what you do?"
Honestly, there are too many things to choose from. But if I had to pick one, it would be this. 👇🏼

The ah-ha moments.

Even after 20 years, I still find joy in hearing a client say:

"I've never experienced this before. I didn't know this—going into the depths of our subconscious—was possible."

That will always feel good, and it will always matter. 💚

In IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy, those moments often come when a client recognizes a new part of themselves.

🦋 Maybe it's the anger that's been defending them whenever a boundary gets crossed.
🦋 Or the pessimism that's protecting them from disappointment yet again.
And those ah-ha moments are just the beginning of the transformation.

Once a client recognizes that a part they've been fighting against has actually been trying to protect them, everything changes.

The shame starts to lift and the self-judgment begins to quiet.

Instead of "Why am I like this?" they start asking "What has this part been trying to do for me?"

When your parts finally feel seen and understood, they don't need to work so hard anymore. That's when your Self—your calm, curious, compassionate center—finally has room to lead.

IFS helps you remember you were never broken in the first place.

Tell me in the comments: What's a part of yourself you've learned to befriend instead of fight?

11/03/2025

Pausing before responding can completely shift the way you relate to others. The S.T.O.P. Method teaches you to create those intentional pauses and act from presence. Even small moments of practice can transform interactions.

Learn more by reading the full article. https://adinasilvestri.com/anger-management-spotlight-the-s-t-o-p-method/

11/03/2025

On November 19, Katie Lemmert and I are creating a space for you to slow down, soften, and connect with yourself in a way that feels safe and nurturing. I’ll guide you through an Internal Family Systems-inspired hypnotherapy journey, helping you meet a part of yourself that’s been waiting to be heard.

As you explore, Katie will fill the room with the calming tones of Himalayan bowls, chimes, and bells, carrying you deeper into rest. You don’t need to prepare or know anything in advance - just show up, get cozy, and let us hold space for you.

🌀 Hypnosis & Soundbath w/ Adina + Katie
📍 4025 MacArthur Ave, Richmond, VA
🗓 Wednesday, November 19 at 6:30pm
🔗 Reserve your spot: link in bio or buffalofirefly.com/pages/classes-events-adina-katie

This one will likely fill quickly again, so we recommend signing up soon.

10/29/2025

It’s the last day to join us for Release & Renew.

If your body’s been asking for rest,
if your heart’s been whispering, “I just need a reset,”
this is your invitation to listen.

Tomorrow, we’ll gather by the water—
to release, restore, and remember who we are beneath the noise.

🌅 Friday, November 1 · Sail Club, Woodlake
✨ Final call to reserve your spot.
Come curious. Leave lighter.

https://www.katiediddesigner.com/service-page/ifs-hypnosis-sound-writing-retreat

10/29/2025

Most of us react without realizing it. The S.T.O.P. Method helps you notice your reactions and choose a different path. It gives you tools to respond instead of acting on impulse.

Read the full article to see how it works in everyday life. →https://adinasilvestri.com/anger-management-spotlight-the-s-t-o-p-method/