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11/12/2024

I have been trying to figure out how to hold the changes coming, and am lucky enough to learn from and know Kathy Kain, who’s quite really resonated with me.
Part of what I know is that I also will not stand for unacceptable things. I will not stand for outright hate and meanness and bullying. I will not stand for racism, sexism, misogyny, transphobia, or any other hateful acts. Those are unacceptable to me. And I will act accordingly in every way I can to use my privilege like a shield. I will use my agency as protection to act accordingly.
And as Kathy says, “We’re seeing response from the wounds in this country, not from the healing. Because the healing hasn’t happened yet.”🔥
I know many of us have lineages who have been significantly harmed by the actions of people that inhabit this country. And I know many of us will be at a higher risk to continue to be harmed, especially if we are from marginalized communities. I’m focusing on what to do next that will help support my communities.
I know how to support my fellow human. I know how to support and love my community. And I know that my community will have my back, too. We have to nourish and be nourished by our communities, especially right now.
We need to anchor ourselves in what we know will be the best for our communities. For me, right now that also includes not getting into the hateful rhetoric. I will be kind and curious as much as I can with everyone. And I know when others act towards me or my loved ones in unacceptable ways I will not accept it. I will act accordingly.
“The thing we can do is be kind to each other,” unless we are met with meanness or anything else unacceptable. And then we will act accordingly.

May we take this opportunity for unlearning, for reparations with those who have been harmed by unacceptable actions. May we support generational healing. And should anyone intend harm to us or members of our community that are vulnerable, may we act accordingly.

11/10/2024

Allowing the complexity of our experience in whatever if moving for you can be really helpful to taking in the support we need to keep moving forward.
Things that are in coexistence do not need to be in opposition. Rage can coexist with grief. Despair can coexist with freeze. Freeze can coexist with injustice.
These aren’t exclusive. These are complex spectrums. And our experience isn’t linear.
May we continue to find our humanity in the midst of it all. May we be lovers AND fighters. These are connected. And May we continue to come together in community to understand ourselves as interconnected and complex and revolutionaries.//

11/06/2024

May we grieve. May we rage. May we be radicalized. Together.
Whatever is happening for you right now makes sense. If you’re crying, or totally checked out, or enraged, or confused and lost, or terrified or somewhere between all of those it makes sense. There is nothing wrong with YOU for feeling those things - this is big.
I don’t know if you’re anything like me, but I’ve been through several stages of freeze, and weeping, and feeling overwhelmed and letting those waves settle as the gravity of the election settles. I know I have to allow these to love to have more access to a health fight response. A fight response that will move towards protection and justice.
I’m not even sure what else to say, but what I do know is that we are in this together. We are in this painful thing together. We will need time to process, to allow waves of emotions to move, and then to allow ourselves to reorganize.
How you support yourself today might look different and I want you to know you are not alone. When you’re ready, find your people. Find your community. Connect with them, even if all you can do is silently feel.
And as things move through you, righteous rage may be coming. Find ways to support yourself. The system was not built for many of us and won’t save us. But we will protect us. I don’t know what’s next, but I do know I am firm in who and what I stand behind. I know I will radically move to protect black, brown, indigenous and q***r folks. I know that our liberation will be together. I know I am not alone. AND I know so many of us feel this way.

To quote : “Real radicalism implores us to tell the whole ugly truth, even when it is inconvenient. To own the hurt and the pain. To own our s**t, too. To think about it systemically and collectively, but never to diminish the import of the trauma.”
May we grieve. May we rage.
And may we become ever more radical. //

11/05/2024

It’s Election Day in the States. If you haven’t yet this is your reminder to go vote.
And even if you have, or will, this is your reminder that activation and discomfort and fear are a NORMAL part of this process. Feeling unsure, worried, scared, panicked, annoyed, are all just a part of this thang. Feeling like this won’t matter or make a difference, or that there are bigger issues to spend energy on are normal too.
I’ve also seen an increasing number of posts about “breathing through” and softening around this week. And honestly? That seems so silly. And ridiculous to me. I cannot soften through something that doesn’t feel easy. I cannot soften when I’m worried that people may get harmed and hurt. That’s great if softening works for you but if it doesn’t I don’t want you to feel like anything is wrong with you. It might just not help right now.
It seems clear to me that we will be activated. Bracing and holding breath and losing sleep might be our bodies way of helping us navigate the stress of what’s happening. Meeting ourselves in that can be challenging and really important.
What are you doing for your body? Did you nourish it? Did you move it? Did you drink water? What about your mind? Did you take a break from social media? Did you validate any and all feelings you’re having? What might happen if you talked to yourself and cared for yourself like a dear friend right now?
It’s not that DOING things doesn’t help. They do.
And with so much at stake, we will likely still feel the weight of today and of this week. We will still feel worried and nervous and unsure. When capacity changes because we are holding more, we need to find connection and support and care for ourselves.
Regardless of what happens, many of us will be fighting for the rights of all people. We know it doesn’t end here but we don’t have to do this fight alone, and we’ll need to nourish ourselves in the process.
We. Got. This.
We. Got. Us.

06/24/2024

Checkin’ in on this sweet Monday with a little practice for you on noticing the fluidity of your system.
Expansion and contraction is a natural movement for us. Fluidity is natural for us. Spending some time attending to it helps us be able to feel more at home and more at ease within ourselves.
Sending you lots of love and ease as your notice your fluidity. ❤️//

03/13/2024

Being dysregulated can really just be a thing that happens. It doesn’t have to mean anything more than that. It might just be that you’re a human…paying attention to the way things feel.
Being dysregulated in itself isn’t always a problem. It only becomes an issue if it’s chronic or constant. But the same is true with “regulation”…anyone who says they are “always” regulated either isn’t connected with their body or isn’t being honest. Life is hard. There’s no way to be perfectly wrapped up all the time. We’re allowed to be messy!
If you’re a human existing and being with some of your experience, of COURSE you get dysregulated. It’s the most normal human thing in the world.
My hope for you is that when you do find yourself in this place, you know what to do to take care of you. You have friends to spend time with, coffee to enjoy, pets to snuggle, partners to cry with or maybe even a therapist to remind you that it’s just a part of being a messy, complicated, gorgeous human.
May we all have lots of support and ease for navigating even the messy parts of ourselves. ❤️

02/03/2024

Nervous system regulation work takes time.
AND when you’ve done work it doesn’t mean you won’t experience stress or grief or panic or anxiety. It means your capacity to hold those experiences can become bigger and your ability to get back to “normal” after those things should be more easeful for you.
Sometimes part of the work of nervous system regulation means we are more aware and tuned into our experience, good and bad, pleasant and unpleasant. We might be MORE aware of how we feel stress even.
And I don’t know about you but I felt embarrassed at how much I still felt anxiety when I started doing healing work. It feels like we have a polarized society and we expect “healed” to be a place, when it’s just a journey of deeply meeting ourselves more and more each day.
May you remember that the work you do with yourself is valuable. And may you remember you are worthy of slow, gentle, and loving healing. ♥️//

01/20/2024

Nervous systems are slow learners. And as one of my favorite se teachers says “take your time. No rush.”
There’s no quick fix, no hacking, and no overnight changes. And what I don’t see enough of on this goofy social media machine is how much we can love for ourselves just by beginning to notice and pay attention to what our bodies are communicating…
It’s that goofy question “if your body could do anything, what would it do?”
It doesn’t have to be fancy or a big gesture, and can start with just noticing ourselves. Noticing how we notice ourselves. If our sensations were just information for us to be curious about, how would we listen? Would a tight chest be a clue to tune in rather than a pang of anxiety?
Taking time to notice our internal experiences, our sensations, and be with the ways we interpret these sensations allows us to begin to change our interoception and the ways we meet ourselves and the world.
May we all find gentleness in meeting ourselves, and all of the parts of ourselves we have yet to meet. ♥️//

05/14/2023

If Mother’s Day is complicated for you, I see you. I get you.
Some of us may feel that all-too-familiar pang of ouch associated with our caregivers and the complexity that came with not feeling loved in the ways we needed. We feel the brace or tension in our bodies when someone even talks about Mother’s Day. (Deeeep breath, dear one).
Some of us might feel grief for the parents we lost, didn’t get to have, our ouches from childhood wounds or inability to have children. We might feel like we have to hold our breath to hold back tears, knowing that those tears have a place on this day too.
Some of us might feel the relief of having gone no contact with our caregivers. We might find relief or grief or joy in choosing to be childfree, and yet, still can find this day complicated.
And still, some of us might delight in a parent or caregiver who stepped in, who feels worthy of celebrating today and on other days. We might feel excitement and delight for the mother or parent we are to become. We might even find a little pride in the ways we parent, even when our kids make it hard and we had models who did not parent us that way.
Whatever today brings for you, you aren’t alone. ❤️
On this day, I hope you find a way to care for, honor, and love yourself through whatever else you’re holding. I hope you find ways to let yourself be supported by your body and find ease in knowing you aren’t alone.
Sending you LOTS and lots of love. ❤️//

10/02/2022

As one of my favorite humans, recently reminded me in her incredible training, having healthy regulation means that we need robust access to all of our nervous system states. (And yes, that even means that freeze is a thing we need!)
Regulation is one of those really tricky things every one seems to know about these days right? Take some breaths, be mindful, drink cold water, and just try to “learn how to regulate.” Regulation isn’t just about our ventral Vagal “flow” states…
I know it’s been said before but truly it’s an important thing to read: regulation is not a synonym for calm.
Being regulated doesn’t mean we’re connected and easy going all the time.
Being regulated means we’re ready to fight back when we’re being oppressed or harmed. We’re ready to run or leave if someone speaks harshly to us. And if we spend time reading the news, or feeling overwhelmed with doom scrolling, we might find ourselves checking out in freeze.
Our bodies and nervous systems are working their hardest to care for and protect us, even when life feels impossibly difficult.
Sending you all love and hoping you have the courage and grace with yourself to ask for and receive the help you deserve. 🧡//

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