Marriage and Communication Coaching

02/04/2026

Seven steps to a thriving loving marriage

For an extraordinary and nourishing marriage you will need the following ingredients:

2 individuals
1 Bonding ritual
1 Communication skills
1 Relationship support skills

Step one:
Stir two individuals together until they begin to form an Us.

Step two:
Expand the new Us, folding in relationship-quality communication skills.

Step three:
Knead the Us, as it gains elasticity and resiliency.

Step four:
Fold in relationship-nourishing oils and aromatic spices.

Step five:
Become aware of and then speak one another's love languages.

Step six:
Develop a deep awareness of the challenges and opportunities of differing personalities.

Step seven:
Permit the Us to rise in a warm supportive space until the Us first doubles and continues to expand.

When all previous steps are skillfully accomplished, the Us has evolved into a loving marriage, equipped to thrive with mutual honor, and respect.

When difficulties arise:

Immediately seek out a marriage and communication professional who will guide you along your journey towards a successful Us.

Expect that this process may require a lifetime to complete.

Learn the skills, insights, and best practices for relationships that grow to last a lifetime.

02/01/2026

At some moment we are required to ask:

1) Is my past or my future - living my Life?

2) Are my attempts to prevent what once was, leaving no room for what will be?

Given that the past is immutable, I invite us to do what is required to disentangle ourselves from our past, from memories of our past, allowing you and I to be at the source, creating our futures together.

When you are ready, reach out,
I will show you how to accomplish this.

Today is the day.
Now is the time.

Freedom beckons.

Learn the skills, insights, and best practices for relationships that grow to last a lifetime.

01/30/2026

Emotions are symptoms not causes.

What difference might it make were we to understand that our emotions are symptoms and not causes?

Love arises as an experience under a set of positive circumstances such as listening, honor, and respect.

Happiness arises under a similar set of circumstances. When they are present you and I feel happy.

Anger and hate and related negative emotions arise under circumstances to the degree that we are left experiencing anger, frustration, aggravation, annoyance, and irritation.

All of which are signs and symptoms of underlying sets of negative life-sucking circumstances.

None of our emotions are "at cause" of the emotions we experience.

Our emotions are telltales, signs, and symptoms of the circumstances running beneath the surface of our awareness.

Now we can ask the appropriate question.
"What are those circumstances lying beneath the surface of our emotions experiences?"

That's where we go to work.

Choosing to act, behave, acting in positive ways we experience happiness, feel loved, cherished, connected, and cared for.

Choosing to act, behave, in negative ways we will feel angry, irritated, frustrated, annoyed, aggravated, and irritated.

It's all up to us - once we realize that whatever we are feeling in our moment is a symptom, a telltale of what's going on beneath the surface of our awareness.

Then we have choice and our experiences will be of freedom, joy, happiness, love, mutual honor and respect.

Choose wisely.

Learn the skills, insights, and best practices for relationships that grow to last a lifetime.

01/20/2026

Made me vs Left me.

"Made me..." leaves us with no choice, a victim of circumstance, not free.

"Leaves me..." at the source of our experience. At choice, we are free.

01/18/2026

A sentence that begins with "Yes" is far stronger than the same sentence that does not.
1) Yes signifies that I am responding, not reacting
2) We have established a connection
3) I am listening
4) I have heard what you said

With these four elements in place, I can add "And" and in that space of connection create the grounds of communication for the relationship.

For example, "And...
When can we meet to discuss this?
How shall we proceed?"
How can I help?
Which direction shall we take on this subject?

There is no need to be stuck longer than it takes to say "Yes" and then add "And?"

01/17/2026

The Realm of Us has it's own specialized language, vocabulary, and behaviors.

The language spoken in the "Realm of Us" is entirely foreign and incompatible with languages routinely spoken by "I" and "Me."

In the "Realm of Us,'' there is no "I'm sorry, I'm Ashamed, I'm to Blame, It's my Fault, I'm Guilty, I I'll try, I hope, or I wish."

In the "Realm of Us" we speak words of "I apologize, I am responsible, I am accountable, I intend, I plan, and I anticipate."

Where, the language of Us is spoken, we love and are loved, we respect and are respected, we honor and are honored.

In the "Realm of Us" children are born and grow to be extraordinary independent loving resilient adults.

Where attempts by "Me" or "I " impose or force outcomes on "Us," relationships begin to die.

At Marriage and Communication Coaching, over five sessions, you and your partner will learn and adopt the language, skills, insights, and best practices for a resilient loving lifelong marriage.

Live like an US.

Today is the day.
Now is the time.

Reach out to Paul

01/15/2026

A sentence that begins with "Yes" is far stronger than the same sentence that does not.
1) Yes signifies that I am responding, not reacting
2) We have established a connection
3) I am listening
4) I have heard what you said

With these four elements in place, I can add "And" and in that space of connection create the grounds of communication for the relationship.
For example, "And how shall we proceed?"

01/14/2026

01/13/2026

The end of an loving Us is not inevitable.

Looking around we might witness that relationships do not all end suddenly with a big bang or a dramatic explosion.

Like a balloon leaking air, step by step the new "Us" grew smaller and then smaller yet - until one day it faded away.

In the beginning, the exciting promising new marriage "bubble" was small, the new couple adapted to one another's personalities. They became aware of, and spoke, one another's love languages. Their marriage "bubble" grew.

And then over time, life's challenges arose. In the absence of good quality communication and relationship skills, arguments sprouted, connections broke down, silence grew louder and louder still, until their communication ceased altogether.

The initial "Us," once so full of dreams and hopes, had lost its shine. The bubble, the Us, once so exciting, faded into a distant dream.

Relationships need not end that way.

At Marriage and Communication Coaching couples learn to speak the Love Languages of a highly successful Us.

Together, they learn, practice, and then adopt the skills, insights, and best practices for a resilient loving lifelong marriage.

Divorce is not inevitable.
Learn how to live like an Us, forever.

Today is the day
Now is the time.

Call Paul Zohav M.Ed.
(520) 297-3085

Find expert marriage counseling and coaching near you in Tucson. Improve communication, rebuild connection, and strengthen your relationship with proven couple coaching.

01/13/2026

The end of an loving Us is not inevitable.

Looking around we might witness that relationships do not all end suddenly with a big bang or a dramatic explosion.

Like a balloon leaking air, step by step the new "Us" grew smaller and then smaller yet - until one day it faded away.

In the beginning, the exciting promising new marriage "bubble" was small, the new couple adapted to one another's personalities. They became aware of, and spoke, one another's love languages. Their marriage "bubble" grew.

And then over time, life's challenges arose. In the absence of good quality communication and relationship skills arguments sprouted, connections broke down Silence grew louder and louder still until communication ceased altogether.

The initial "Us," once so full of dreams and hopes, had lost its shine. The bubble, the Us, once so exciting, faded into a distant dream.

Relationships do not have end that way.

At Marriage and Communication Coaching couples learn to speak the Love Languages of a highly successful Us.

Together, they learn, practice, and then adopt the skills, insights, and best practices for a resilient loving lifelong marriage.

Divorce is not inevitable.

Learn how to live like an Us.

Today is the day
Now is the time.

Call Paul Zohav M.Ed.
(520) 297-3085

01/01/2026

When you are in breakdown you call 911.

When your life is in distress, about to blow up, and your marriage teetering on the edge of a breakdown, reach out Marriage and Communication Coaching your 911 for marriages and families in distress.

Today is the day

Now is the time
Now is the time to seek assistance.

Contact Paul at 520 297 3085.