Marriage and Communication Coaching

11/17/2025

Coming soon!
Speak Up, Stand Strong, Be Safe:
A Teen’s guide to Relationships and Communication.

How do we say "No" by saying "Yes?"

So often Teenagers feel pressured to say "Yes" when they know they should say "No." They want to be accepted, belong, and to be in Love. All while their hormones are prompting them to say "Yes."

Speak Up, Stand Strong, Be Safe, is formatted as a cookbook full of easy-to-adopt relationship and communication skill recipes.

Follow directions Speak Up, Stand Strong, Be Safe.

A guide for families and easily adapted for educational curricula.

Let's add a "Fourth R" Relationships, alongside Reading, 'Riting and 'Rithmetic.

Let's show our teenagers how to Speak Up, Stand Strong, and Be Safe:

11/11/2025

In communication how do we go from reacting to responding?

There's nothing inherently wrong when we react.

Reacting is perfectly appropriate when a traffic light turns red. We want people around us to stop and not take valuable time to pause and reflect. That would be dangerous.

However in our human relationships we are obliged to pause, reflect, and then choose our response, carefully selecting the words we will speak.

The strategy:
We avoid reacting simply by responding with "Yes I hear you, let's take time to talk. I promise to listen to everything you have to say."

This strategy lets them know that we're connected, I am listening, and I've heard what you said.

Then we add the word "And" allowing us to determine the future of our relationship.

Everything after the word "And" is our future.

What is your response to this?
I invite you to add your comments below

11/11/2025

Words matter.

Martin Heidegger is quoted as saying that "Language is the House of Being."

By which we can understand that the words we use shape our experience of Being.

Words shape our experience of being alive, our world, marriages, families, places of work, and our communities.

It can be of no surprise that when we raise our children in a world where we:

"Beat the other team, crush the opposition, slash prices, kill that SOB, rule of thumb, beat them to the punch, kick them where it hurts, puncture illusions, etc."

That we experience and witness a world of violent abusive, toxicity.

For a radically transformed world, I invite us to choose the following words:

"I Apologize" in place of "I'm sorry."
"I am Responsible" in place of "I am Ashamed."
"I am Accountable" in place of "I am Guilty."
"I Intend" in place of "I'll Try."

For a new world, let's learn to watch our language.

Try it. You'll like it.
Words matter.

11/10/2025

“Did we have a good time?”
It’s easy to say I had fun or you had fun — but when we ask did we have fun?, something shifts. 💞

Because “us” is where connection lives.
When there’s an us, there’s room for joy, growth, and even children to feel safe in that space.

So today, focus on our us.
Ask yourself — what does a healthy us sound like? 💫

💌 Tag someone who reminds you what a real “us” feels like.
❤️

10/29/2025

Life is change.

You are wiser today than you were when you began your journey.

You've been together for years,
Your children are off on their own.
You're no longer as focused on children, careers, and finances as you once were.

By and large, you have answers to the questions of marriage, family, career, finances and children.

What's next?

As a mature marriage and communication coach, I have learned a thing or two about maturity, compatibility, the opportunities and challenges of mature couples.

Your future is wide open.

I invite you to take an opportunity to renew, refresh, and revision your marriage.

Enjoy a relationship that will see you through the rest of your lives together.

Life is change.

What lies ahead is up to you.

Today is the day.
Now is the time.

Contact Paul at
520 297 3085 or at

Connect with the best marriage and Communication coach in Tucson offering expert online coaching to strengthen your relationship and marriage.

10/27/2025

Does your marriage have a marriage operating system?

Every successful loving marriage has one.

Every computer has an operating system. Without one it won't turn on.

Does your marriage have a communication operating system?

Do you have safety systems per-loaded into memory to guide you when someone approaches you angry, frustrated, or upset?

Do you have a full menu of options to choose from to communicate with your spouse, teenagers, mother-in-law, or your manager at work?

You can purchase, download, and install a computer operating system from the net.

Where do you buy and learn an operating system for marriage?

At Marriage of Communication Coaching you will upload and install a fully-upgraded operating system that will to see you and your children through for a lifetime.

Today is the day
Now is the time.

Go over to Marriage and Communication.

Get one for yourself.

Buy extra copies to give the gift of communication to others.

Reach out to Paul Zohav M.Ed.
You'll be glad you did.

You're invited to share this freely to anyone you know.

10/23/2025

Adventures in the Land of US

10/16/2025

Do you know that your marriage is like a bubble?

It’s delicate, transparent, and held together by trust.
When you nurture it with honesty and care — it shines. ✨
But when filled with unspoken words or resentment — it bursts. 💔

Protect your bubble with gentle communication, empathy, and daily intention.
Because love lasts when you both choose to keep it afloat. 💞



( marriage, relationships, love, communication, trust, emotional intelligence, connection, relationship growth, partnership, mindful communication, empathy, understanding, couples therapy, marriage advice, healthy relationships )

10/15/2025

Whose life is it?

When you live life given by "I Have to. Need to. Got to. Should, and Must" your life is not truly yours, not your creation. Your life is driven by obligation and circumstance.

You "Have to" "or else."
You are not free.

On the other hand, when you live life from "I Get to" then your life is given by anything you say, You live forward, life by choice, possibility, and opportunity.

There is no "Or else."
You are free.

A "Get to" life is yours.
A "Have to" life is not.

Paul Zohav M.Ed.

10/14/2025

Ever notice how saying “He tends to overreact”
quietly boxes your partner in?

The phrase “tends to” sounds harmless — but it labels patterns as fixed traits, leaving no space for change or growth.

When you define your partner by their past behavior, you silence who they’re becoming. 💭

Next time, speak to possibility — not limitation. 🌱



( communication, relationships, mindful communication, emotional intelligence, self awareness, relationship growth, empathy, connection, conscious communication, behavior patterns, growth mindset, understanding, couples therapy, open communication, personal growth )

10/12/2025

How often do you use the word “seems” in your communication?

“It seems like you’re upset.”
“It seems you don’t care.”

Sounds gentle, right? But sometimes “seems” can create distance — it hides your real feeling or assumption behind uncertainty.

Try replacing it with clarity and empathy instead:
👉 “I feel like you’re upset.”
👉 “I sense something’s bothering you.”

Small word, big difference in connection. 💬✨



( communication, relationships, emotional intelligence, self awareness, clarity, connection, mindful communication, relationship tips, empathy, trust, honest conversations, language awareness, conscious communication, active listening, personal growth )

10/10/2025

It's not your fault.

There is a scene in Good Will Hunting where Robin Williams confronts Matt Damon declaring that he's not at fault for being burned by ci******es by his abusive father.

Robin Williams slowly approaches Matt Damon, compassion shining from his eyes,
repeating, "It's not your fault. It's not your fault." Until Matt Damon breaks through and into tears.

I don't know where in your childhood or in a previous abusive marriage, you were left believing that "It's my fault. There's something wrong with me."

I invite you to imagine me, looking straight into your eyes, repeating what Robin Williams said.

"It's not your fault. It's not your fault.
There's nothing wrong with you."

'It's not your fault. It's not your fault.
There's nothing wrong with you."

Because it's not your fault, it was never your fault, and there's nothing wrong with you.

Get free, now. Today.

I invite you to seek out counselor, coach, who will accompany you as you upgrade your emotional tool kit to freedom as an adult.

It's not your fault.
There's nothing wrong with you.

Today is the day.
Now is the time.

Blessings on your journey.

Paul Zohav M.Ed.