Marriage and Communication Coaching

Marriage and Communication Coaching Paul is a coach, counselor, and chaplain with decades of experience. Enjoy a relationship with mutual honor and respect.

Couples learn and adopt the skills, insights, and best practices for resilient loving marriages that grow to last a lifetime. Love and Intimacy got you to your Wedding day. Good Communication will see you through to your Golden Wedding Anniversary. We offer a five session (over about a 2 month period), a program during which couples learn the skills, insights, and best practices for relationships

that grow to last a lifetime. Our program is short-term, cost effective and convenient. Five sessions, Seven and one half hours traning and support for about $550.00. Individual sessions are $125.00 for a ninethy-minute session. Military and First responder families receive a $75.00 discount. There is a ten session package designed for families seeking to restore trust and forgiveness after expereincing marital infidelity and cheating. Face to face sessions are designed to be safe. The office is sterilized each day with UV light, ozone gas. There is a medical-grade HEPA air cleaner. Couples sit at a nine feet distance from the coach with or without masks. Coaching sessions available by Zoom for relationships fromanywhere in North America. We are so confident about our program that If your first session does not work for you for any reason - no hard feelings - no cost.

04/17/2026

And Operating System for human connection and communication.

I invite us to consider that lack of communication and relationship skills lies beneath a whole host of relationship and human connection issues.

Our school curricula lacked a critical Fourth R. Relationships and Communication.

We graduated without, and we will graduate our children without the communication abilities to get along with those we will work for and with.

All too often, our parents were ineffective, even toxic, models for relationship and communication skills.

Technology cannot resolve communication and relationship skill deficits.

Social media too often fails to provide good quality human models for communication.

I invite us to seek out a coach (i.e. me) who will guide us, and provide an OS, a human operating system for connecting and vital relationships.

Today is the day
Now is the time.

Connection is surprisingly easy when you know how.

Connect with me and I will show you how

Reach out and touch someone. out and touch someone.

04/16/2026

Life choices:

"I have to, need to, I need to, I should, I've got to, or I must?"

A reactive life, shaped by obligations and circumstances.

Alternatively, "I get to, I choose to, I could, I prefer to?"

A responsive life, given by opportunity, possibility, and choice.

The power to choose is yours and yours alone.

Today is the day.
Now is the time.

Choose well.

04/14/2026

Before proceeding further towards divorce,
I invite us to consider that infidelity is a symptom, not a cause.

Then the relevant question becomes "What is at the source of Infidelity?"
That's where we can go to work.

Primary sources are:

1) Poor listening and communication skills

2) Failure to become aware of the Five Love languages and speak them.

3) Lack of awareness of the challenges and opportunities of different personalities.

4) Behavioral distortions developed in childhood or from prior relationships carried over into current relationships.

Once these are addressed divorce may no longer become the preferred option.

Divorce is expensive.

Marriage and Communication Coaching is vastly less costly.

Blessings on your journey. 🙏

04/05/2026

Which is the most empowering?

I hope it turns out.
Or,
I intend it turns out.

Words matter

04/04/2026

Words that convey connection

There are words that, when spoken signify different levels of connection and relationship between speaker and listener.

"Welcome" and "Hello" are not the same.

When we say "Welcome" there are the unspoken words"You are" that affirms and conveys connection between speaker and listener.

"Welcome" includes an unspoken "You are well come."

Expressing "Welcome" sets the stage, offers the possibility for expanding the relationship between speaker and listener.

Speaking ''Hello" expresses "I am here. You are here." There is lower potential for further connection.

"Hello" acknowledges the other's presence, but does not necessarily convey expectation of relationship beyond that of physical proximity.

You're Welcome to share your comments and thoughts below.

Paul Zohav M.Ed.

03/29/2026

Where is the center of marriage?

Before marriage we may point to our own heart as center.

After marriage that center shifts.

What used to be I, me, and mine becomes we, us, and ours.

That shift transforms how we decide about children, careers, money, home, and daily life.

Where we place the center of our marriage shapes our choices and the future we build together.

I invite you to take a moment to notice from where you and your partner evaluate and choose.

Let us choose wisely, together.

Sincerely,
Paul Zohav

03/28/2026

IF is to Maybe, as
When is to Will be.

There are those of us who have a greater tolerance for uncertainty than do others.

IF for them, occurs as an opportunity to consider, to create, to imagine and speculate.

And there are others who require to know as much as possible ahead of time, get it done as soon as possible, so they can predict outcomes and achieve desired results. They seek to reliably anticipate the experience of that about which they are concerned.

They tend to have a lower tolerance for and resist IF-based conversations.

As a marriage and communication coach, I see these personalities routinely marrying each other and the resulting stress and the discord in these marriages can rise to extraordinary heights.

And it's not necessary - so long as you are aware of who you're marrying and how they process.
And it's not necessary - so long as you are aware of who you're marrying and how they process.

03/28/2026

There are Words that, when spoken, cost us life and vitality.

For example,
"Should" and "But."

"Should" leaves us dissatisfied, imagining an alternative reality that never turned out the way it "Should" have.

It "Should" have happened "But" did not.

"Could" is clean, factual.
Something "Could" have been "And" was not.

Another example would be
"But" and "And."

"But" breaks the flow.
"But" erases that which has gone before.
"But" interrupts communication.

"And" supports flow.
"And" maintains connection.
"And" promotes communication.

With a "Should" and a "But" we are left with less life, diminished vitality, with an interrupted connection.

With a "Could" and an "And" we are free, connected, and in communication.

Who "Could" you be?
"And" who will you be?
Choose.

Paul Zohav

03/22/2026

Healing and clarity after infidelity

Infidelity can feel devastating—betrayal, shattered trust, forgiveness impossible. At Marriage and Communication we treat infidelity as a symptom, not the cause. We work together to uncover what it reveals, building mutual awareness, insight, clarity, and effective communication so you can decide how to proceed.

I guarantee you will know:
1) Why infidelity occurred.
2) How it happened to you.
3) What comes next for your relationship.
4) That you have what you need to choose.
5) That you are complete with that choice.

When you are ready, I look forward to working with you.
Blessings,
Paul Zohav M.Ed.

Makes me feel, orLeaves me feeling?Choose When something or someone "Makes" you feel X.You have no choice.A victim of ci...
03/18/2026

Makes me feel, or
Leaves me feeling?
Choose

When something or someone
"Makes" you feel X.
You have no choice.

A victim of circumstances
Subject to another's will.
You are not free.

When something or someone
"Leaves" you feeling X.
At the source of your being,
You enjoy choice
You are free.

Be free.

03/15/2026

Me and We worlds in collision

Consider the following sentence.

"I am sorry. It's my fault. I should have called ahead."

This statement contains at least three significant relationship and communication deficits.

Sorry, Fault, and Should.

1) Faults last a long time and provide no significant path forward.
2) Responsible does provide a path forward. Response-able.
3) "I Should" implies that there was a better choice in the past and a better outcome.
4) "I Could" indicates that there were alternative choices that Could have been made. Could provides Us a future of alternative choices.
5) "I am Sorry" is about the speaker and does not speak to the relationship nor to the influence of integrity lost.
6) At best, "I am sorry" can be understood as "I regret." "I am sorry" does not necessarily indicate a path forward.
7) "I apologize" acknowledges the damaged relationship, unfulfilled expectations, disappointment of the other, and the integrity cost to the damaged relationship.

"Sorry, Fault, and Should" all belong to world given by "I and Me."

There is no path forward for Us.

"I Apologize, am Responsible, and I Could" relate to world given by "We and Us."

These words do offer a path forward for Us.

In a "We and Us" world, when restated appropriately,

"I am late. I am responsible. I apologize. In the future I promise to call ahead as soon as I know I will be late."

In relationships and in marriage, I invite Us to speak in a "We and Us" given world.

Free to comment and freely share.

Paul Zohav M.Ed.

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