12/23/2025
As a relationship therapist, this is one of the phrases that makes me pause — not because the longing is wrong, but because the expectation is unrealistic.
Love doesn’t come with mind-reading abilities.
Your partner can care deeply about you and still miss what you need.
Expecting them to “just know” turns unspoken needs into silent tests — and those almost always end in disappointment.
When needs aren’t voiced, your partner is left guessing.
When they guess wrong, resentment builds.
And over time, that resentment erodes connection far more than an honest, vulnerable ask ever could.
Needing to ask doesn’t mean your relationship is broken.
It means you’re human.
Clear communication isn’t a sign of weak love — it’s how love stays healthy, safe, and sustainable.
