12/02/2025
Mary Loyce (Elliott) Schmitt
In Loving Memory of a Cherished Wife, Devoted Mother, and Kindhearted Friend
Celebrating a Life Well Lived
It is with profound sadness and heavy hearts that we announce the passing of our beloved friend and family member. Mary Loyce Schmitt, 88, of Tulsa departed this life peacefully on November 25, 2025, at Saint Francis Hospital. She leaves behind a legacy of love, kindness, laughter, and cherished memories that will forever remain in the hearts of those who knew her.
Her Early Years
Mary was born on July 22, 1937, the youngest child of Lewis C. and Loyce F. Elliott of Stillwater, Oklahoma. Due to her father's work, they moved several times and eventually settled in downtown Tulsa to be closer to family when her father was drafted into the Army. In those days, Mary enjoyed riding the trolly to school and to shop at the local retail stores. She also liked spending time with her sister, Lenora Smithee, in the playhouse her father built for them.
In October 1953, Mary met the love of her life, Charles (Charlie) E. Schmitt, at a Webster High School football game. Charlie was instantly smitten and said "yes" when Mary asked him to the post-game dance that night. Because she attended Central High School, Mary could not get into the dance. Charlie switched cars with a cousin to drive her home. It was love at first sight for both.
Charlie and Mary were married June 4, 1954. They were blessed to have more than 71 years together.
A Loving Mother
Being a mother was the joy of Mary's life. She gave birth to Carol Ann Phillips, Joseph (Joe) Karl Schmitt (deceased), and Robert (Bob) Allen Schmitt.
Our mother was a remarkable woman whose warmth, wisdom, and generosity touched everyone she met. She devoted herself tirelessly to her family, always placing the needs of others before her own and embracing every moment with grace and gratitude. Her strength and compassion were a source of inspiration, guiding us through life's challenges and joys.
That's not to say she was a pushover. Except for Joe, wink-wink, we knew not to act up at school or anywhere else. A call from the principal, teacher or neighbor would not end well since she would take care of it on her own. Never did she say, "wait until your dad gets home".
As a mother, she was unwavering in her support and encouragement, believing in us even when we doubted ourselves. She taught us the true meaning of resilience and the importance of kindness, leaving an indelible mark on our lives. Her legacy of love will live on through her children, grandchildren, and all who were fortunate to know her.
Known for her infectious laughter and gentle spirit, she created a home filled with love, comfort, and understanding. She found happiness in simple pleasures-sharing stories around the dinner table, making her crafts, and nurturing lifelong friendships.
Remembering Her Spirit
After raising her children, Mary celebrated life by enjoying her favorite things with Charlie. They purchased a motor home and boat to travel. She was happiest at Toledo Bend and always caught bigger fish than Charlie most of the time. They took the motor home to Alaska for the trip of a lifetime. Playing card games with friends and family, especially during the holidays, also made her happy. Pitch was her favorite.
Mary always carried yarn and made crocheted blankets/throws, pillows, potholders, and scarves. Friends and family also appreciated her ceramics.
Her enthusiasm for life was perhaps most evident at OSU football games. She absolutely loved tailgating in Stillwater and truly treasured the lifelong friends she met there. She also cherished the numerous bowl games she traveled with Charlie and Bob to attend over the years.
A Final Goodbye
Farewell, dearest wife, mother, and friend. You will be deeply missed but never forgotten. Thank you for your unconditional love and the beautiful legacy you leave behind. Rest in peace.
Mary was preceded in death by her parents; her brother Lewis C. Elliott Jr.; her sister; her son Joe; granddaughter Jennifer L. Sudar; brothers-in-law Lee Smithee, George Schmitt, and Louis Schmitt; sister-in-law Betty Schmitt; nephews Lewis Elliott, Larry Smithee, Gary Smithee, and Charlie Elliott; and nieces Sheila Gibson and Betty Sue Denny.
She leaves behind her devoted husband; daughter Carol and son-in-law Ronnie Phillips; son Bob; granddaughter Vickie Chesser; grandson Jerrod Phillips; great grandchildren Rowdy Chesser, Rhianna Chesser, and Caden O'Bryan; sisters-in-law Patricia Schmitt and Sue Elliott. Mary had too many precious nephews and nieces to name here but loved every one of them.
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